“Women Stare At Me”

So, what does it mean when women stare at you?

Is it her invitation for you to get up and approach her like a confident man?

If you’ve ever wondered what it means when a girl fixes her eyes on you, then you will soon find out the answer.

In this article, I’ll go into various different reasons why women may be staring at you, and I will also talk about some appropriate actions you can take for different scenarios.

First possibility is that..

She may be staring because of your outfit

Are you wearing anything obnoxious? Does your style stand out from the crowd?

These are possible reasons that may trigger to fix her attention on you.

This doesn’t necessarily mean she’s only looking because of your style, however.

She may look at you one or two times if you are wearing something unique.

But, girls don’t usually constantly stare at you unless they are at least someone intrigued by you.

So, if she keeps looking at you more than a few times in a row, then it may very well mean she wants you to come and talk to her.

In such a case, I would recommend you go up to her and introduce yourself.

It’s also possible that..

She may be staring because of your obnoxious behavior

Are you the only one talking super loud in a quiet environment? Do you make weird gestures that would draw attention from other people?

It is possible she may simply be staring at you because your behavior stands out from the rest of the people.

By the way, talking loud or doing weird shits aren’t necessarily bad if you are doing them because that’s what you feel like doing (and you are in an environment where it is acceptable to behave that way, such as a loud club or a bar).

If, however, you are being obnoxious because there’s a secret desire in you to be an attention whore, then you may want to tone it down a little.

Others will be able to sense you are trying to over-compensate.

Let’s move on.

This is not exactly a pleasant scenario but..

She may be staring towards your direction because there’s something interesting behind you

Yeah I know, this is kind of sad.

But, it’s just how life works out sometimes. Most of us are so obsessed with ourselves that we often think people are looking at us when they are just looking toward our direction.

A girl can just be staring at what is near your presence, but your brain tricks you into thinking she is fixing her eyes on you.

So, it’s a good idea to observe your surroundings before you run toward her with excitement to ask if wants some of your vitamin D.

The next point is…

She may be staring because you remind her of someone (Her friends.. ex-bf.. dad)

Yup.. you may remind her of that asshole that cheated on her three times, and even sold her little puppy to a stranger.

Just double check she isn’t looking at you like she wants to slice your gut in half before you decide to approach her

So, what are some ways to know she’s looking at you because she’s thirsty for your attention

Let’s now talk about a few dead giveaways.

She stares at you and holds eye contact for more than a few seconds

The last thing the girl wants is for some creepy dude to get the wrong sign and approach her.

If you gave off repulsive energy, she would most certainly do her best to avoid eye contact with you.

We usually only like to look at things for an extended period of time when something intrigues us.

So, if she holds eye contact with you, then it’s a very good sign she will at least be favorable to you initiating a conversation with her.

She stares at you and holds eye contact for a second and looks down 

This is another good sign. Looking down is a sign of submission.

You may very well have oozed her with your ultra masculine energy.

Some girls are shy just like many guys so they have trouble maintaining eye contact especially with guys they find attractive.

Once again, the answer is to walk up to her and just find out for yourself.

She holds eye contact and smiles

I don’t think anything needs to be said further. She’ll almost certainly be open to you initiating a conversation with her in this scenario.

If you are attracted to her as well, then there really is no more excuse left for you to prolong approaching her.

The next point is almost a guaranteed way to know she’s interested in you

She stares at you in a chaotic (Night club, party) environment where there is a lot of stimulus

If she chooses to look at you over all the other stimulus that’s going on around you, then this is a very positive sign she wants you.

You were able to get a hold of her attention out of all of the things she could be looking at.

This almost certainly means she wants you to come over and strike a conversation with her.

Don’t wait for too long, however, as women can quickly lose interest when she becomes distracted by other stimuli.

Now, it would be quite irresponsible for me to leave you with no advice on the best way you can approach her.

Here are a few checkpoints you can go over when you finally muster up that courage to walk toward her.

1. When you get up and start walking toward her, make sure there is zero hesitation in the way you walk.

You should never ever dabble as you walk toward her.

Uncertainty and masculinity simply do not go hand in hand.

If she senses any sort of hesitation when you are walking toward her, she’ll dry up faster than a wet towel in a Sahara desert.

This is her opportunity to see that you are a man with certainty and conviction.

And remember, you only ever get one first impression. So make it count.

2. Make sure you have a nice, relaxed smile (or smirk) as you walk toward her. 

There is a study that shows women find men more attractive when we don’t smile.

The problem is this doesn’t apply quite as well in a cold approach (approaching a stranger) scenario.

The fact she’s looking toward your direction likely means there already is enough attraction.

What you want to focus on now is making her feel comfortable enough to want to know more about you.

And there is simply nothing more disarming than a nice relaxed smile.

So, be sure to smile.

3. Greet her with a nice clear tone and make sure your voice comes out of your mouth.

As contrary to what many men believe, you don’t necessarily have to be loud when you initiate a conversation.

But, you do have to make sure your voice doesn’t linger in your mouth.

I’ve seen so many guys speak with what I call a ‘swallowing words’ syndrome.

Let that beautiful voice of yours come out to the world instead of keeping it inside your mouth.

4. Use humor to start off the interaction instead of going straight into the interview mode questions.

How you start the interaction will often set the tone for the entire interaction.

If you start your interaction off with interview mode question, then there is a good chance that’s how interaction is going to continue and end.

It’s a lot easier to set the tone of the interaction correctly from the get-go and carry that momentum throughout than to try to flip it in the middle.

There simply is nothing better than using a bit of humor to bond faster when you initiate a conversation with a stranger.

Think about it, who do you usually joke around with? People who you are comfortable with like your family and close friends.

5. Some ideas of what you can say to her when you go up to her.

You can simply be direct with her. I prefer to stay away from saying things like, “You’re cute” because it’s a very generic comment.

Say you are at the gym and you see some cutie squatting, I’d probably say something like,

“Hey, don’t want to interrupt you, but you seem like the best person to ask. What’s your favorite glute exercise? (With a cheeky smile)”

Disclaimer: This can come off as super creepy or funny depending on how you use your vocal tone and facial expression.

You can also try being a little cocky.

“I couldn’t help but notice you… staring at my beautiful face (with a cheeky smile)”

Then simply introduce yourself.

I just want to emphasize one more time it is all about how you say it rather than what you say.

Put 90% of your focus on vocal tone and facial expression over what comes out of your mouth, and you’ll have much greater success.

Anyway, that’s it.

I wish you the best of luck with your dating life!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.