Why Is She Ignoring Me?

Why do women ignore men? Figuring out women can be difficult when their feelings seem to fluctuate on a minute-to-minute basis. So, what were the deciding factors that caused her to ignore you?

There are many possible reasons for why she may be ignoring you. She may be playing games with you, or she may just not be that into you. It is also possible she just found another man. Sometimes, she may ignore you simply due to her life being too hectic coupled with personal issues she is experiencing.

Either way, it’s useful to have a clearer idea of why women ignore you. Otherwise, you might wrongly put all the blame on yourself and beat yourself up over something that is completely out of control.

Playing Games

Yes, women play games as much as (and probably more) guys do.

This is especially the case if it is during the early part of the interaction when two people meet.

Both of you are over-thinking about everything and trying to figure out the most “correct” move that will win the other person over while not giving power away.

She may be ignoring you to make her chase, or she may just not want to appear “easy” to you.

If she is responding but taking her time to get back to you, it may potentially be a sign that she’s playing games with you.

On a side note, I do need to emphasize that it is unlikely she is playing games with you if she has been ignoring you for the past weeks or months.

In such a case, it just means she has moved on.

This “playing games” really only applies if we are talking about the initial stage of the interaction between the two opposite sexes.

But when she does not reply at all to any of your attempt at contacting her, it means she is not interested.

As a general rule of thumb, I would recommend you do not send more than two texts in a row until she replies back.

There is a good chance you will cement your status as a “creep” in her eyes when you start sending three or more texts in a row without her response.

If you think she is playing games by ignoring you, and you don’t want to be a part of that, you should either drop her or clearly communicate your intent to her.

Let her know that you like her, but it is not going to work out between you guys if she keeps up with that sort of behavior.

Not Into You

The truth is she may ignore you because she is just not that into you.

It can be something about your looks that she doesn’t like.

Or it can be something about your personality.

Girls usually come up with BS excuses instead of being direct because she does not want to hurt your delicate feelings.

“I’m sorry. I have a boyfriend.”

“I’m too busy right now.”

“I’m just not looking for anyone at this moment.”

I am sure you have heard of all of these before from girls.

And one way to indirectly reject a man is to just ignore him completely.

It is convenient to ignore people.

You don’t have to over-think or face a potentially uncomfortable situation.

So, this is, unfortunately, most girl’s favorite way of dealing with the problems they face.

When a girl doesn’t reply to your text for more than a few days, then you can safely assume she is not that into you and move on from her.

Another Man

She perhaps has another man in her life.

Attractive girls have a lot of options.

It would be incredibly naïve to assume they are only talking to one guy at a time.

She may have been weighing her options while she was talking to you, and decided to pick the other guy over you.

I had a friend who was seeing this girl he met at the party.

They instantly clicked, and he ended up going back to her place (They did not sleep together that night, however).

He felt such a strong connection with her, and he thought it was a special night for both of them.

He met her again for the second time and things happened, and they ended up getting into a relationship.

Later down the road, he realized that his girlfriend actually had a one night stand with a random guy in between their first and second date (Before they were official).

And he was heartbroken because he felt like that “special” connection he felt wasn’t mutual.

But, that is what most girls do.

They date and sleep around until they feel like they have found the best option for themselves.

While you can’t exactly blame girls for seeing multiple men (Unless they are officially in a relationship), it is not the best feeling when you thought you had a special moment with her, only to find out it was all just in your imagination.

When she’s found another man, this often manifests as her slowly cutting out contact with you as she weighs her options.

As she makes up in her mind to choose the other man over you, she will often start ignoring you completely.

There are also a lot of women who will respond to you “just enough” for you to hang in there, so you can continue to shower her with validation while she sleeps with another man.

If the girl keeps ignoring your request to meet up for no good reason, then it means she is not interested.

Hectic Life

This is usually not the primary reason why women ignore you, but it is a possibility.

It is possible that she ignores you because she is busy.

Maybe, she just recently started a new career.

Maybe, she is working on her business and putting all her energy on getting her business off the ground.

Maybe, she started her residency which requires most of her time and energy.

I say this is unlikely because women will make time for you if she feels enough attraction toward you even if she is busy.

If you think you’ve found the perfect woman, and you don’t want to ruin your chances with her, would you really not put an effort into making time for her even if you are busy?

You would squeeze out whatever time you have to see her.

And even if you really are that busy to the point you can’t meet her, you will proactively suggest another time to hang out if you actually like her.

Girls are the same way.

If she really liked you, she will go out of her way to see you.

So, her being too “busy” is just another way of her saying, “I am not that attracted to you”.

It is not worth holding onto a girl who does not reciprocate when there are plenty of other girls who would be more than happy to spend time with you.

Personal Issue 

She may be ignoring you because of her own personal issues.

Many men get so caught up with what “they” have done wrong.

Where did “I” mess up that made her want to ignore me?

That is the type of voice that often lingers in a man’s head.

But sometimes, it may very well have nothing to do with you at all.

A lot of girls suffer from mental issues such as anxiety and depression.

No matter how much a girl is attracted to a guy, she is not going to feel any desire to want to see him when her anxiety is bad, or when she is feeling depressed.

In fact, it may even induce more anxiety in her if she likes the guy since she is afraid she might do or say something stupid in front of him.

I knew a girl who had such a bad case of anxiety that she rarely ever smiled in front of me (Because she would often be too much in her head when talking to me).

From the outside, you would’ve assumed she is not into me at all.

But, she was actually the nicest girl I’ve met (And I’ve met a lot of women) and cared for me more than any of the girls I’ve been with.

Sometimes, what you see on the surface does not exactly depict the clearest picture of what is actually going on underneath.

It may seem like she ignores you because she does not like you, but it may be the case that she ignores you even more because she likes you (although rare).

So, you may be asking if there is any way to know if she is ignoring you because of her personal issues.

Well, I am assuming you have probably seen how she interacts with other people.

I want you to answer these questions.

How does she act around others?

Does she easily get nervous and anxious around people?

Does she tend to have extreme mood swings?

Once you answer these questions, you will be one step closer to figuring out if she is ignoring you out of her personal issues, or if she just doesn’t find you attractive.

Your Reputation

She may be ignoring you because you’ve developed a reputation for yourself.

This happens rarely (Because it takes work to develop a reputation whether it is positive or negative), but it has happened to me before.

When I first started approaching girls, I was terrible at talking to girls, and I scared a couple of girls away in the process.

This one time, I talked to a beautiful blonde girl from school, and it was clear she was into me as well.

I ended up getting her number, and we were texting back and forth for a few days.

And all of a sudden, she started completely ignoring my text.

I was confused and a little annoyed, but I didn’t think too much of it and moved on.

Later on, I found out from a friend (He was a mutual friend of ours) that she overheard another girl talk about me in a bad light (Because I talked to this other girl before, and the interaction didn’t go stellar as far as I remember).

And it all made sense to me.

Women care a lot about what others think.

If other women think something (or someone) is bad, then they will tend to believe that.

If other women think someone is attractive, they will tend to believe that as well.

Most women are very easily persuaded by the opinions of other women.

In my case, other girl’s criticism about me worked as a “negative social proof”.

Since she (The girl I was into) was not yet emotionally attached to me, it was enough for her to completely lose any sort of attraction she had toward me.

Your reputation can play a big role in how she perceives you.

Maybe, you developed a negative reputation at work as that creepy guy who hits on girls.

Maybe, you have become known as that guy at school who tries to pick up every girl.

Girls talk a lot, and they love talking about other people.

When you give them even a little bit of excuse to talk about you, they won’t hesitate to tear you apart completely.

So, are you aware of your reputation around other people?

Your tainted reputation may be the very reason she started ignoring you.

You Took Too Long

She won’t be intrigued by you forever.

If you don’t take the plunge and ask her out, that may be the reason why she started ignoring you.

This obviously only applies to men who didn’t take the initiative yet.

You can kindly ignore this section if you’ve already asked her out, or if you’ve been dating her.

Anyway, she got sick of you failing to man up, and she is ready to move on now.

As a result of your inaction, she just concluded you are not a confident man who knows how to go after what he wants.

As time went on, she got more and more disappointed in you.

And she made up in her mind that it is not worth her time for her to wait any longer.

If this applies to you, take it as a learning lesson and don’t make a mistake of taking too long to ask her out ever again.

Remember, the one who hesitates masturbates!

Anyway, I hope this article gave you a clearer sense of why she may be ignoring you.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.

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