So, when should you stop pursuing a girl?
This is a rather straightforward answer.
You should stop pursuing a girl when she does not reciprocate your level of interest.
If you ask her out on a date over text, and she doesn’t reply back for a few days, then you should move on.
If you ask to hang out, and she continues to say she is too busy, then you should move on.
Let me tell you why you shouldn’t pursue a girl who does not show interest.
Even if you manage to go on a date with her by using your ‘persuasion’ skill, it is not going to make you feel great.
Whenever you feel like you have to ‘force’ it to make something happen, it is going to make you feel less of a man.
So, if you feel like you have to throw away your dignity to get her interested in you, it is time for you to look elsewhere.
How to stop chasing her and make her chase you
Give her space
The first step to making a girl chase you is to give her space.
If you are always the one to message her first and suggest a date, you are not giving her any room to invest back.
You certainly want to initiate a lot of things first when you are getting to know a girl.
Most girls expect men to make the first move, so you would be missing out on a lot of opportunities if you are unwilling to do so.
But, you do not want things to continue to be that way as your relationship progresses with a girl.
This is not good for your own well-being since you will quickly get tired of always having to be the only one to pursue.
You are also doing a disservice for her since most girls do not want to be pursued at all times.
Most women actually love having to work for a man’s love and attention, and you are blessing her with that gift when you leave some room for her to chase.
So, what do I mean by show options?
The one who has fewer options is the one who will be more desperate.
If you only have one girl in your life, you are naturally going to feel desperate.
So, you want to show her that she is not your only option (especially when she is just getting to know you).
Girls do not want to be with a desperate loser who is not attractive to other women.
A girl wants to be with a man who has a lot of options but chose her because she was the best out of all of the options he had.
This doesn’t mean you have to be sleeping around with multiple women at once.
But, this does mean you should frequently surround yourself with other girls.
When a girl sees that you know a lot of other attractive girls, she will realize you don’t ‘need’ her.
This will let her know she can’t take you for granted.
So, don’t hesitate to talk to girls and hang out with them even while you are in a relationship.
You, however, need to be careful to not make her feel like she is no different to you than every other girl you know, especially if you are looking for something more serious with her.
If you end up too far on one end of the spectrum, she will start to look for other options.
Have passions in your life
It is infinitely easier to be less needy when you are passionate about something.
This can be your career, your business, or simply your hobbies.
When you have a passion, it will have a strong impact on how you feel around women and others in general.
You will be seeking a lot less validation from people around you because you have better things to worry about than seeking other’s approval.
We are all passionate about something when we are little kids, but things start to change as we grow older and we are faced with the struggles of our daily lives.
Needless to say, girls want a man who is passionate and alive.
They don’t want a man that is bitter and jaded.
So, how do you find your passion?
It is best if your passion is also your career or the job you have.
You spend most of your time at work, so if you are passionate about your career, you will naturally carry a passionate energy around you.
If this is not possible, then the second-best option is to find a hobby that you are passionate about.
For me, it was going to the gym and immersing myself in Olympic style weightlifting.
But, it can really be anything that you enjoy doing, such as martial arts, hiking, reading, etc.
Whatever that brings you to an extremely focused state would be perfect.
Post on social media accounts
This is not the usual advice you’ll hear, but it is brutally effective if you manage to execute it properly.
I want you to frequently post pictures and videos on your social media accounts. These can be you having fun with your buddies, you having a blast at cool parties, or you just doing whatever activities you enjoy.
So, why is this effective?
1. You are showing her you actually have a cool life
She can see you live your life from the pictures and videos you post.
When you consistently post about cool things you do, your value will increase in her eyes.
And when you invite her out to do something, she will actually get excited to be a part of your life.
2. You are staying on top of her mind
Out of sight, out of mind. And the opposite applies as well.
When she constantly sees you on social media, it is going to build rapport and familiarity without you even seeing her in person.
When she feels like she knows you well, she is much more likely to feel comfortable seeing you than if she doesn’t.
But, you want to be careful not to bombard her feed with goofy, low-quality posts.
When you do that, your social media posts will actually backfire and make her lose attraction.
3. You give her an excuse to initiate a conversation with you.
When you consistently post a lot of interesting things, you are giving her an excuse to initiate a conversation with you.
Most girls find it difficult to randomly start a conversation with a man when there is no good reason for them to do so.
So, when you post pictures and videos on your social media account, you are making it easier for her to start a conversation with you.
Once again, do not post things that have no substance.
That will only inspire girls to block you from their feed.
Post frequently but make sure you post quality stuff that shows who you are in a favorable light.
She stopped chasing me
So, what if a girl still does not chase despite you following all of the advice above?
I hope you know the answer to that question by now.
Let go of her.
There are attractive girls out there that are literally begging for a man like you to appear in their lives.
Why would you waste all of your mental and physical effort on one girl (who does not even want you) when you have so many options?
You need to have a little more faith in yourself to be able to find someone that is a lot better than her.
Stop contacting her for a while
This applies if you’ve already built enough rapport with a girl, and she ‘sort of’ likes you, but she doesn’t seem to be ‘that’ into you.
People normally don’t appreciate something until they lose it.
It is possible she feels complacent with you, and she does not feel the pressure to invest in a relationship any further.
This may be fine for the time being, but it is destined to fail in the long run.
If both parties don’t equally (at least somewhat) invest in the relationship, then one person (you, in this case) is eventually going to start to despise another.
So, the best way to help her realize how much she actually likes you is to walk away from her life for a while.
When she feels that emptiness from you no longer being by her side, she will start to chase you.