Yet another article on texting…
But it feels right to go in-depth on this topic since everyone and their mom is on their phone these days.
And this is my favorite topic of all because I am a little twisted in that I derive a weird satisfaction out of using a psychological trigger to arouse people’s emotion.
But I do sometimes wonder if I am really the only weird one out there…
I think most people are fascinated by different psychological triggers that affect our behaviors. You know… one of those triggers that are deeply embedded in our subconscious brain.
Anyway, enough rant… let’s talk about some of the possible reasons why she stopped responding to your text before we delve into what you should be texting her to get her to respond.
She just did not like you that much
It can be a hard pill to swallow but she may just not be that into you.
There is no reason for you to feel upset over this, however.
Just because this one girl did not find you appealing does not mean every girl is going to despise you.
I’ve had so many times where I would get flat out rejected by average girls but then have really attractive girls somehow completely fall in love with me.
So do not let one rejection define your identity.
Either way, if this happens to you on a consistent basis, it is time for you to focus more on having quality interaction over playing the number’s game.
She has a boyfriend or she is seeing someone
It is hard to beat someone she already feels emotionally attached to.
You may have played your game perfectly and she may very well have loved you in person.
But it is very possible she is already seeing someone and she does not have enough incentive to pick a stranger over someone who she is already comfortable with.
This actually happens more frequently than you would think and you just need to realize it is part of the game.
As you talk to more and more girls, you will often come across instances that are completely out of your control and you need to be okay with that.
She barely remembers you
This happens more often when you get a girl’s number from a nightclub or a bar.
She could have been completely drunk when you guys were talking or you could have been one of twenty guys that got her number during that night.
Girls give out numbers very easily especially during the night time with a little bit of alcohol involved.
No matter how solid you think your interaction went, there is a good chance she just remembers you as one of the many guys who approached her that night.
This is one of the reasons why you want to leave a strong impression on a girl when you interact.
You don’t necessarily have to have a long interaction with a girl as some dating coaches would say.
In my experience, the quality of the interaction matters more than the duration.
Leaving a strong imprint in her mind for five minutes will make her more likely to want to see you over having a drawn-out thirty-minute interaction.
You screwed up your chance over text
I always thought it’s hard to fugg up badly over text.
And I’ve had my share of cringy texts but it never ceases to amaze me how some guys really take it to the next level in terms of how cringy they can get.
Here are the basic rules you want to follow when it comes to texting…
1. Do not triple text her in a short span of time (one day or even a few days)
2. Do not send a long ass paragraph text especially when she’s replying with a very short text.
3. Do not text her immediately when she takes hours to respond.
4. Do not get mad over text asking why she’s not responding to your texts.
What you should text her
With that out of the way, let’s get into some of the most effective ways I’ve found to get the girls responding to your text.
The fact she stopped responding to you means you are very insignificant in her mind at this moment.
Following a typical dating coach’s advice like sending cute memes or cat videos are just not going to cut it at this point.
You need to accept that you are insignificant in her eyes as of now.
So what can you do to re-ignite her interest?
What is the strongest emotion you can possibly arouse in her when she has zero interest or attraction toward you at this moment?
The only answer to that is “curiosity”.
I’m not going to go into any more detail about why this is such a strong trigger because I’ve done that gazillion of times in my other articles.
Instead, I am going to list some examples of how you can arouse her curiosity and what you should do to follow-up when she replies back.
So here are some examples to get your brain juices flowing…
1. “You probably don’t want to hear this but I forgot to tell you that night…”
2. “You will probably get mad at me for saying this but I think I should let you know…”
You may think this is some corny stuff that wouldn’t work.
If that is what you think, then I encourage you to give it a try.
In the worst case, she will continue to ignore you.
In the best case scenario, she will reply back and you will be able to turn things around.
The examples above take advantage of psychological triggers that are deeply ingrained in our brain.
You are leaving an “informational gap” in your text to amplify her curiosity so she feels like she has to find out what it is that you want to tell her.
But there is one more step you need to dial in for this process to work seamlessly.
And that is your “follow-up” when she responds back.
As a rule of thumb, you want to pick up your phone and call her as soon as she replies back to your “curiosity text”.
Here are a number of reasons why
1. You are able to convey your personality and emotion much better when she’s able to hear your voice. I’m sure you know the two exact same sentences can have a completely different meaning depending on how you say it. It’s difficult, if not impossible, to fully express yourself with written words alone.
2. You are able to get things done much quicker. Instead of taking hours to communicate back and forth over text, you can plan everything within a matter of five to ten minutes.
To sum it up, amplify her curiosity over text by leaving an informational gap and pick up the phone to call her to seal the deal.