What To Text A Girl To Start A Conversation

So, what exactly are some Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to texting girls?

This key psychological trigger I will discuss later in the article make her beg for your text.

No more having to initiate texts all the time while anxiously waiting for her reply.

This is exactly the trigger I used to get a girl to come and see me… who did not know ANYTHING about me.

She did not know what I looked like neither in real life nor picture.

Sounds crazy? Well… just hang in there. You will find out soon enough.

I need to warn you though… it may be a little too manipulative for you.

In fact, I probably will never go to the extent that I did in the story I’ll be sharing in this article in the future.

Because, in retrospect, it was not exactly ethical to play with someone’s emotion like that on my part.

So if you are against anything that may even slightly be perceived as manipulative, I would highly encourage you to stop reading at this point.

And no… this is not some reverse psychology to get you to keep reading, I really do mean it.

With that being said, let’s first talk about some of the things that you should not do before I reveal you that key psychological (Hint: You may be aware of this if you have read my previous articles..)

Things you should NOT do when you text a girl

1) Do NOT send girls those long paragraph texts. It comes off as super needy and clingy.

Unless you guys are in a relationship, the girl will think you have this crazy stalker tendency and will run far away from you.

2) Do NOT double and triple text without her replying back.

Yes, there are times I double and triple texted and got her to come out and meet and things happened. But, just don’t do this for the most part.

I don’t want any dude to be chasing girls around like a dog when they are clearly not reciprocating one bit because it doesn’t make you feel good about yourself.

3) And f…! sending memes to her inbox. if she wanted to look at funny memes then she can go to Facebook or Instagram. There is simply no reason for you to be bombarding her inbox with memes like her little gay best friend.

How I got this girl to come and see me when she knew nothing about me

So, let’s now get into the story of how I got this girl out to meet me… the girl who did not know anything about my face neither in real life nor in pictures.

Let me first start out with a little bit of background story so you have a clear understanding of how it all happened.

This was the girl that my friend had sex with once or twice already.

And my friend was planning on leaving the country in about a month or so.

So… as crazy as we were back in those days, we decided it would be a great idea to do some obnoxious thing.

And that was for him to pass this girl’s number to me – the girl who knew NOTHING about me – and I try and see if I can get this girl out to come and see me and make “something” happen.

Let me just emphasize one more time that this is NOT something I would do, but my friends and I did a whole bunch of crazy things back in those days.

Because we were just genuinely curious to find out how far the females were willing to go if we push the right buttons.

Anyway, I text this girl with, “Hey what’s up?”.

And the girl replies back saying, “Who is this?”.

As soon as she replied back, I picked up my phone and called her. And there is a little sales 101 for those of you who are not familiar with sales.

It’s a LOT easier to influence someone’s decision when you are on phone with them as opposed to text. And it’s the easiest to influence when you are in front of them face-to-face.

Anyway, I convince her to come and meet me for a bubble tea using my god-like (Okay… maybe slightly exaggerating) bantering skill.

And although she sounded a little hesitant, she eventually agreed to meet me a week from then.

But, my friend – who’s already had sex with her a few times – decided he’d make my life a little more difficult for me.

He told the girl to come and meet him on the day I was supposed to meet her.

And obviously, it was a no-brainer for this girl to meet my friend over me since she had already slept with him whereas she knew nothing about me.

So, I thought to myself… “In what way can I possibly bring this girl out to meet me?”

I knew nothing about this girl other than the fact she had slept with my friend.

And that piece of information is exactly what I used.

So, what did I text her?

“Hey, that’s fine if you don’t want to come. I actually wanted to tell you something about you and Jake (my friend). But I guess you will never find out about the truth since he will never tell you. Well, it may actually be better if you don’t know.”

Guess what happened?

Just after a few minutes, she replied saying she will come out to meet me on THAT day.

And the rest is history.

The most powerful trigger to use in texting to get a girl to reply

So, what was that psychological trigger that made her feel like she HAD to see me?

Well… it was…


Single-handedly the MOST powerful psychological you can arouse in anyone.

By the way, I often get asked this question a lot when I tell this story.

People wonder what they are supposed to do if they have nothing interesting to talk about in regards to something that they spiked a girl’s curiosity with.

And my answer is simple.

You don’t need it.

When you meet her in person and you overwhelm her with your awesome presence and positive energy, she often won’t even care (as it was the case for me…)

If she does, you can give her a simple straightforward answer and just change to talking about another subject as if it’s no big deal.

Remember, YOU are the one who dictates the flow of the interaction.

Moving on…

Before I finish this article, it’s important that I talk about this key principle when it comes to arousing someone’s curiosity.

In a broad sense, there are two ways you can arouse a girl’s curiosity.

1. You can make a girl curious about YOU

2. You can make her curious about herself

Let me just say this…

If you have a high perceived status in a girl’s mind and she already likes you then getting her curious about YOU can be quite effective.


If you are not relevant in a girl’s mind then curiosity about herself will be much more powerful.

Think about it…

Would you care if some fat ugly chick tried to make you curious about her by being like… “Oh guess.. what I do for a living?”

You’d probably be like… “I don’t know … eat 20 cheeseburgers a day at Mcdonalds?”

You simply would not give a flying f…

And that is exactly the same with girls who are not yet emotionally invested in you.

So, if you are not yet emotionally relevant in a girl’s mind, then make some observation about her.

And you can instantly spike her curiosity with a simple leading statement such as this.

“Hey, I noticed something about you… but I’m not sure if I should tell you.”

This will get her chasing you like nothing else.

We ALL want to know about something that’s relevant to us.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.