What to talk about at a Bar

What are some of the things you can talk about with girls at a bar?

You will soon discover exactly what (and what NOT) to talk about with those intimidatingly beautiful girls at a bar.

Make sure you don’t miss the last section about clearly defining your goal, as it is easily the most important point you need to keep in mind when interacting with girls.

Let’s get started!

1. Avoid serious conversation

You want to think about why girls go to a bar.

It is so they can have fun and let loose.

No girl goes to the bar looking for someone to have a discussion about politics and religion.

When you talk to a woman at a bar, you do not want to steer your conversation to a logical place.

Many men default to talking about ‘safe topics’ when they talk to girls at a bar, such as asking her what she does for work, what school she went to, and where she is from.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking these questions initially to get to know her a little better.

But, it becomes problematic if you can’t quickly transition out of that ‘let’s continue to ask basic questions to get to know each other’ phase.

The bar environment comes with a lot of external stimuli – loud music, her friends and people around her, dancing, and alcohol – and she is quickly going to lose interest if your words fail to capture her attention.

There is certainly a time and place for a more serious conversation as you get to know a girl better, but not when you meet her for the first time at a bar.

So, save that for later when the time is more appropriate.

2. Be playful and have fun

If it is a mistake to have a serious conversation at a bar, how else should you approach your conversation?

The key is to be playful in your interaction with girls.

And this is not just limited to a bar or the club environment.

All girls respond to fun.

But, what does it mean to be fun and playful?

Does it mean you have to act like a clown to entertain her?

You sure can make a girl laugh by being a clown, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it is a good idea to do so.

You need to remember that the point of making a girl laugh isn’t to just make her laugh.

You want her to feel a stronger attraction toward you as a result.

Before we talk about what you can do to make her laugh the right way, let’s talk about some of the things you want to avoid saying.

Avoid preparing jokes

I advise you against preparing jokes.

Your goal isn’t to be her stand-up comedian.

The reason why this is a bad idea is that it comes off as way too try-hard.

Anything you do to impress her will have a negative effect.

Girls want to be with a high-value man who is not overly concerned about what she thinks about him.

If you put on a performance for her (especially when she’s just getting to know you), it communicates you care way too much about her opinion and validation.

Avoid making fun of your flaws

Now, I want to be very clear that you definitely want to be comfortable in your own skin enough to be able to laugh at your own flaws, and not take it seriously when others joke about your flaws.

That being said, you don’t want to be that guy who can’t shut up about making fun of himself as a way to over-compensate.

It is certainly better to be able to joke about your shortcomings rather than getting easily offended by what others say.

But, it is problematic when it becomes obvious that you are over-compensating by not being able to shut up about how you are short or ugly all of the time.

Girls (especially the ones you meet at a bar for the first time) will perceive you as a low-value man with not much to offer.

Avoid making compliments

A girl may appreciate your compliments and even reply with a thank you and a smile.

But, you need to realize that an attractive girl at a bar is bombarded with compliments from men throughout the night.

Most men approach girls at a bar by giving compliments.

So, when you compliment a girl, you are automatically labeling yourself as another lame guy who has nothing interesting to say.

Do this to make her laugh

So, let’s now talk about what you should do to make a girl laugh.

One of my favorite ways is to tease a girl.

But, here is the important part.

You need to ‘playfully’ tease her.

Your teases should be wrapped up in fun.

Otherwise, there is a good chance she will get offended by your teases.

And the best way to inject fun into your teases is to make sure you speak with a positive, confident tone.

If you say your words with a tone that is uncertain and carries negative energy, your words just won’t have a strong impact.

Here is the list of some of the things you can tease her about.

1. You can tease her about her behaviors.

For example, if she blinks a little too much, or she talks a little fast, you can make a comment about her behavior.

You, however, want to make sure that it does not come off as an insult.

An example of an insult would be telling a girl that she talks like she has some sort of a speech disorder.

An example of teasing would be telling her that she reminds you of your little sister who speaks ultra-fast.

2. Tease her about what she can do better.

For example, if you are at the gym, and the girl is using a lightweight, you can tease her by asking her if that is all she can do.

Once again, your tone is everything when you tease her in such a manner.

She clearly needs to know you are teasing her from the way your tone sounds.

3. Make it about her

A lot of men make a mistake of boasting about themselves when they talk to a woman at a bar.

They believe that is the best way to impress a girl.

But, they don’t realize it only makes them seem try-hard.

More importantly, nobody wants to listen to you rambling on for two hours even if you are spitting gold every time you open your mouth.

So, you want to focus your attention on the girl when you are having a conversation.

Talk about what you noticed about her.

Listen to her story and relate to her with your own story and perspective.

The more you show genuine interest in getting to know her, the more she is going to want to talk to you.

It is, however, important to carry a burden of the conversation initially when you approach her.

You do not want to start off your interaction with questions as soon as you approach her.

She is not going to enjoy you bombarding her with questions when she barely knows you, and she doesn’t feel comfortable around you.

So, I recommend you start off your interaction by making a statement about what you noticed about her.

This will help her get an idea of what type of person you are.

You can also lightly tease her to make her laugh.

Once she appears more comfortable around you, you can ask her questions to get to know her better.

4. Know your goal

When you are talking to a girl at a bar, your focus should be on having the most fun in the interaction.

But, you also need to clearly define why you are talking to her.

You are a high-value man who is on his purpose, and your time is too valuable for you to be wasting hours of your life talking to a random girl at a bar without knowing exactly what you want out of your interactions.

Are you talking to a girl at a bar because you just want to socialize, or do you have other specific goals, such as improving your ability to talk to women, or taking a girl back home that night to have a sexy time?

Once you clearly know what you want out of your interactions, you will know when’s the right time to stay or leave.

For example, if you want to take a girl back home that night, and the girl turns out to have a boyfriend, you have no reason to spend two hours talking to her.

Anyway, I hope this article gave you a clearer sense of what to talk about with a woman at a bar.

But, it is on you to take the needed actions to transform your dating life.

I wish you the best of luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.