What To Say If A Girl Rejects You Over Text?

Why does rejection hurt so much?

Why is it so hard for you to not take it personally when a girl rejects you?

I remember when I was still inexperienced with women, and I would occasionally lose sleep over replaying the memories of women who rejected me.

I just couldn’t understand why they would not appreciate the feelings I have for them.

I have tried everything to get a woman’s attention back.

I have tried letting a woman know how much I care for her, and how my life is so miserable after she rejected me.

I have shown my anger by saying stupid things like asking who they think they are to reject me in such a manner.

I have also tried sending one text after another to change a girl’s mind.

After having said and done anything and everything you can possibly imagine upon rejection, these are the pieces of advice I want you to keep in mind if you want to say something to a girl that rejected you.

1. Ask her why

One thing you can do is to ask a girl for the reason why she does not want to see you when she sends you that dreaded text of rejection.

But not in a way that shows you are mad and wounded from her rejection. That is just going to make her believe you are a loser.

Simply ask her if you did anything to upset her such as the example below.

“No problem. Is there any particular reason you didn’t want to see me anymore?”

I’ll be honest with you.

Most women will lie to you about their reasons for why they do not want to see you again.

More likely than not, she will say she is not ready for a relationship, or how she is too busy with her for work at the moment.

But, there will be a few who will be straight-up and give you an honest input on what made them change their mind.

You need to realize you are not asking her this question with the intention of winning her back.

You are doing it for the small chance she may be an honest girl who can provide you with useful feedback.

Keep it short and concise if you do decide to ask her for feedback.

Otherwise, it will just look like a feeble attempt to drag the conversation.

2. Do not respond

But, more often than not, the best thing to say to a girl if she rejects you over text is to say…


It is unlikely you are going to change her mind if the girl thinks so little of you that she decided to reject you with a few words over text.

It is better to just not respond at all and ignore her.

As a man who respects himself, you should lead with respect, but you should also command respect from others.

It is quite disrespectful for a woman to reject you over text (although this has become the norm in this day and age).

There is no reason for you to give her any extra attention by replying to her text messages.

If you really want to say something, then simply saying “cool” or sending her a thumbs up emoji will suffice.

If you are all emotionally riled up, and you want to say something mean to her over text to hurt her feeling, I want you to realize that ignoring her is often the best way to make her feel like crap (Yes, it is a petty motive, but let’s be real. We all experience that feeling at certain times).

But, stay away from using this as a “tactic” to piss a girl off.

Instead, go ahead and ignore her because she no longer deserves your time and energy.

3. Pick up the phone

Whatever you want to say to a girl that rejected you, it is better if you say it to her over the phone.

Pick up your phone and call her, whether you want to contact her to ask why she rejected you, or you want to see her again.

You are limited with what you can express with words alone, but it becomes a lot easier to influence another person’s decision when you use your voice to convey emotion.

Throughout years of interacting with hundreds and thousands of women, calling a girl and talking to her over the phone has been the only reliable way to turn things around when a girl went cold.

But, you want to make sure you do not lose your cool when you are talking to her on the phone.

If there is any hint of you being emotionally distraught by the text she sent you, she is going to be turned off by that.

But, when you talk to her as if it is not a big deal and you keep the conversation fun and light (despite her rejecting you), then there is a chance she will see you in a new light.

4. Do not ever respond with an anger text

Do you know what the girl is going to do when you send her a text that shows you are infuriated with her for rejecting you over text?

She is going to share it with all of her friends in the group chat, and they are all just going to laugh at you for being a pathetic loser.

Getting mad at a girl does not serve any purpose apart from making you look bad and possibly destroying your reputation (if you have a lot of mutual friends with her).

I understand it can be tempting to lash out on the girl when she rejects you, especially if you have suffered from a mommy issue as I have.

But, you need to realize you are just giving her what she wants (attention) by sending her “I am mad” text.

I am sure you don’t want to stroke her ego any further by telegraphing that she takes up such a large space in your mind for you to be sending an impulsive text like that.

As we’ve said earlier, the best thing you can do when a girl rejects you is to move on as if it is not a big deal.

Most girls live and die for attention.

When you deprive them of the attention they were expecting to get from you, many of them will come crawling back.

5. Suggest friendship

This would not be my go-to strategy when a girl rejects me, but it is certainly better than what most men do after facing rejection from a girl.

Now, I realize a lot of men will cringe at this advice, but let me explain.

When you are an attractive man, there is no such thing as a permanent friend-zone.

As long as you are connected to the girl in some way (even if it is supposedly just a “friendship”), there is always a chance something can happen between the two of you.

Even if nothing works out between you and the girl, there is a possibility she can introduce you to one of her attractive friends (If you remained cool when she rejected you).

So, it is never a great idea to burn the bridge completely by saying or doing something stupid when things don’t turn out the way you want with girls.

But, be careful to not turn into one of her emotional tampons, who waste his time listening to all of her BS, while she goes back to her boyfriend’s place at the end of the night.

Just keep in touch with her, so you are the first one that pops up in her mind when she is looking for a rebound after she breaks up with her boyfriend.

6. Show you are not emotional

I touched on this point throughout the article, but it needs to be emphasized again because it is that important.

Whatever you do or say to a girl in response to her rejection, you should never ever show that you are emotionally affected by her words.

Once a woman realizes she has the power over your emotion, she is going to lose whatever attraction she had left for you.

You are a foregone conclusion in her mind.

It is in our nature to be more attracted to people who don’t need us.

We do not appreciate something that comes easily to us without having to work for it.

When a woman senses you are emotionally attached to her more than she is, then she will no longer respect you.

So, do not send her a long paragraph, or ramble on about how she hurt your little feelings.

She is not going to suddenly appreciate you more, when you send your heartfelt message to her.

She will happily share it with all of her friends to brag about how much she is desired by some loser, but it is not going to make her want you.

Anyway, that sums up my advice on what to say when a girl rejects you over text!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.