So, what should you do on a first date and how can you make sure she does not ignore you after the first date?
In this article, you will learn Do’s and Don’ts of the first date…
And you will also find out the KEY reason why she does not want to have anything to do with you after that first date, so you can prevent yourself from making that costly mistake.
With that being said, let’s first talk about what you should NOT be doing when you are on a first date with a girl.
What NOT to do on a first date with a girl
The first point I want to emphasize is that you should NOT take a girl to places where you can’t talk.
The entire point of the first date – in my opinion at least – is for you to get to know her and for her to get to know you.
So, you definitely do NOT want to take her to the movies or – even worse – to the club where it’s impossible to have a conversation.
I know some people may say, “Oh.. but I took my ex-girlfriend to the movies and it worked out fine…”
Well, any and everything can work.
That isn’t really the point here. The point is to talk about the “best” move on a first date and that does not include taking her to places where you can’t get to know her better.
The second point I want to discuss is to NOT take her to expensive places.
So, what is so bad about taking her out to an expensive dinner on a first date?
Isn’t that what a gentleman should do after all?
What do you think you are communicating to her when you take her out to expensive places on that first date?
You are indirectly telling her that you are already “sold” on her.
You don’t even know the girl well enough yet.
But just because of her physical appearance, you’ve decided she’s “worth” taking out to an expensive dinner on a first date – without knowing anything else about her.
By all means, take her out to luxurious places all you want when you decide she’s someone worth spending your money and time on.
But, NOT on that first date.
With that out of the way, let’s now get into some of the things you DO want to do on a first date… and we’ll get right into talking about that key reason why she’s not calling you back after.
What you want to do on a first date with a girl
The first point goes along with what was already mentioned in the previous section.
And that is… you should take her to places where you can actually have a conversation.
It really is up to you where you decide to go.
To give you some ideas, here are some places you can take her on a first date.
2) A quiet bar
3) Walk in the park
4) Your place if the girl is comfortable enough to come straight to yours on a first date
The second thing you want to do is to have a PLAN.
What is the first place you are going to take her?
Where are you going to take her after?
Do you know what time she has to leave?
As Benjamin Franklin said, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail”.
The first date is already as high pressure as it is. So, it is vital you have some sort of idea of how and where you are going to lead the interaction.
There is nothing more un-sexy to a girl than a dude who is hesitant and can’t make up his mind.
On a side note, do NOT be afraid to ask a girl to come back home with you if things are going well.
Many guys are very reluctant to do this on a first date because they think they might come off creepy and weird a girl out.
Let me just tell you this.
Just because YOU feel awkward and weird about it does NOT mean the girl feels that way as well.
Believe it or not, there are MANY girls who would be more than happy to come back home with you if she likes you and vibes with you.
It is on YOU as a guy to take that initiative and ask her because she is not going to do that for you no matter how much she likes you (in 99.9999% of cases).
If you are keeping your virginity until your marriage due to religious belief then that’s a different story, but you may be on the wrong website if that is the case…
The third and the final point I want to emphasize is more for inexperienced guys.
And that is to have a vague idea of the things you want to talk about with a girl on a date.
If you’re really nervous and you feel like you are going to get stuck then it makes sense to be somewhat prepared.
You don’t need to memorize lines word for word for anything. But just a general idea of things you can talk about with a girl.
A lot of guys are against this because they believe it may make your interaction with a girl too “artificial” or that they are being “fake”.
But let me ask you this…
Think about any of your favorite great speakers who move people with their influence and persuasive power.
Do you think they go up on the stage without having any idea what they are going to say and no preparation?
Do you think any of them just go up there and “wing” it?
The answer is hell eff’ing no.
So, what makes YOU think you are so special that you can just wing it when you are on a date with a girl?
Because what you are doing on a first date is not so different than what those speakers do on a stage.
Apart from finding out if she’s compatible with you, you are also “influencing” her to feel attraction toward you based on how you present yourself.
Why the girl ignores you after the first date
With all of those out of the way, it is now time to talk about the key reason why girls are not calling you back after that first date.
And that is because you don’t arouse any…
Really think about this…
If you are not a super good looking dude (and most of us aren’t…) nor you have a super high status nor you’re super rich…
Then what would make a girl want to see you again?
She would think about you and want to see you for a second date ONLY when you are able to arouse a certain emotion in her.
And most guys try to play it “safe” and have the most mundane conversation with a girl on that first date.
As a result, they fail to make a girl feel anything on a date.
By this point, you may naturally be asking, “How then can I arouse emotion in a girl?”.
The truth is, there are so many different ways you can do this that I can probably write an entire book on this topic.
But, I’ll share one key principle in this article (I’ll be discussing the rest in the near future so no worries…)
My advice is to simply…
Speak your mind.
Whatever that is floating in your head, let that floating thought out.
Whatever you notice about her… whatever you feel about her… let those thoughts come out.
Even if you think it may potentially offend her (obviously have a common sense…), just speak your mind.
And why is this so effective?
Because almost no guy freaking does it.
So, it will make you naturally stand out.
And what do we usually feel when we encounter a new stimulus that we’ve never experienced before?
We usually “feel” something… which is EXACTLY what you want as we’ve discussed earlier.
One little tip I’ll share is to focus on her rather than yourself.
So many guys get so caught up with themselves. How they look in front of that girl or if the girl thinks they are weird.
Try to shift your attention to the girl sitting in front of you instead.
And really pay attention to her and observe her. You will then naturally start to notice things about her and tell her those thoughts that come up in your head.
What this does is… it will put HER in her head rather than YOU getting into your head.
As a final note, I just want you to realize that there are millions and billions of girls out there.
Just because that date does not go well does not mean it’s the end of the world.
You have an unlimited opportunity even if you mess up with that girl you are on a date with.
Having this mindset will drastically reduce the pressure you feel on a date and allow you to approach dates with a mindset of abundance rather than scarcity.