What to do if a girl is Mad at You?

What is the best course of action to take when a girl is mad at you?

Should you even bother trying to do or say anything, or should you remain silent?

You will soon discover the best way to respond to a girl who is not so happy with you.

If you genuinely made a mistake…

There is a lot of men who believe that you should never apologize to a woman for your mistakes.

They believe it is a sign of weakness when you say sorry for the mistake you’ve made.

And I don’t particularly agree with that.

Not only is it a crappy behavior to never admit your mistake, but it is simply not an effective strategy even if your primary goal was to win a girl back at all costs.

Girls don’t want a man whose ego is so high that he can’t even give a simple apology for a mistake he’s made.

In fact, your willingness to admit your wrongdoing is a sign of strength.

It is usually an insecure man who easily gets defensive and refuses to acknowledge his fault.

So, go ahead and apologize if you’ve screwed up.

It is good to sincerely apologize and let her know exactly how you messed up, and that you won’t repeat the same mistake again.

If a girl refuses to accept your apologies and she tries to guilt-trip you, then that is where you draw the line.

I advise you to certainly apologize for whatever you’ve done wrong, whether it be lying to her about something, or not keeping a promise, but that is not an excuse for her to treat you like crap.

Just because you made a mistake doesn’t mean she has the right to mistreat you.

If she is being unreasonable…

If she is being unreasonable despite your apology and your willingness to make things right, then it may be time for you to move on from her.

You are not going to be her slave for the rest of your life just because you’ve made a mistake.

It is not worth holding onto a girl who refuses to forgive you (there are certain exceptions, such as you cheating on a girl. But, in such a case, I recommend you break up with her even if she is willing to forgive you).

You should communicate to her that you understand if she finds it difficult to forgive you for what you have done, and let her know that it is probably better if you guys end things now if she is going to have a difficult time forgiving you.

Remember that you want to be a nice guy with boundaries since that is the type of man that a woman respects the most.

Make her smile

It is really difficult to be mad at someone that makes you smile.

This advice obviously comes with the territory.

For example, if you have blatantly deceived her or cheated on her, then your effort to make her smile will most likely be futile.

But, if you’ve just made a minor mistake, such as not replying to her text when you were out with your friend (assuming you promised her that you’d text), it is not a bad idea to try to lighten up the mood by making her laugh.

I’m sure you know best what makes your girl laugh.

It can be making a stupid facial expression or speaking to her with a funny voice.

So, make her laugh, and at the same time, let her know you are sorry for what you’ve done.

This combination will serve you well when you are trying to calm your girl down.

Make love to her with passion

This can work well as long as she is not so mad at you to the point that she’s completely lost sexual interest in you.

If a girl is mad at you, there is a lot of tension that is built up in her body.

And there are different ways this tension can be released.

She may release her tension by lashing out at you, or you can help her release that tension by making passionate love to her.

Give her space

Sometimes, you just need to leave a girl alone for her to settle down.

It is very possible that your presence will only fuel her anger if she is upset at you.

So, let her calm down on her own.

You will only trigger her negative emotions by being around her when she is not ready to accept your apology.

Let her know that you will be there for her when she’s ready to talk, but it is probably better if you leave her alone for the time being.

I hope you realize by now that a consistent theme I’ve been hammering over and over again in this article is to act as a nice guy with a clear boundary.

A ‘nice guy’ often gets a bad reputation as being a pushover because most nice guys do not know how to stand up for themselves.

But, you will instantly command respect from people if you are a nice guy without being a people pleaser (much more so than a ‘bad boy’ douchebag who shows no respect to others).

Extract the lessons…

The final point I want to touch on is to extract the lesson from the mistake you’ve made.

As a wise man once said, progress equals pain plus reflection.

Without reflection, you are going to repeat the same mistake over and over again.

What made a girl get mad at you?

Was it something that you did, or is it her personal issue that she needs to resolve on her own?

If it is something that you did, what made you engage in such behavior?

Are you holding onto a relationship that is already broken, or do you see potential in your relationship?

These are all questions you want to ask whenever there is a conflict between you and the girl in a relationship.

It may seem like tedious work, but it is a lot better than repeatedly making the same mistake because you never took the time to reflect back on your patterns of behaviors.

If you want to make this process productive, it is crucially important for you to be honest with yourself.

If there is something you can clearly improve, but you fail to acknowledge it because of your little ego, you won’t get much out during this process.

Remember, the first step to improvement is to accurately identify your weakness, and you can only do that when you are 100% honest with yourself.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.