So you are in the middle of a conversation with the woman of your dreams.
You deliver the joke you had prepared for a date to your best ability… and she bursts out laughing as she gently puts her hand on your arm!
This surely must mean she’s into you…
Or does it…?
In this article, you will learn about a few possible reasons that may have triggered her to rest her hand on your arm.
Without further ado, let’s dive right in…
First, it’s entirely possible…
As sad as it may be to acknowledge, she may have well just touched you out of habit.
This may especially hold true if you barely know her and you had just met her.
Many girls get nervous like us guys when they are talking to someone they are attracted to.
If she feels comfortable enough to get physical with you while knowing barely anything about you, it’s entirely possible she doesn’t view you as a sexual threat.
It’s also a lot more normal to touch any and everyone in some cultures – Middle East, Southern Europe, Latin America – compared to other parts of the world.
Another way you can assess her level of interest is by observing how she interacts with other guys.
Does she look very comfortable with any and every guy she talks to? Does she habitually touch everyone she talks to during a conversation?
If she seems rather reserved when talking to other guys… but becomes extra physical around you… this may very well be a sign she wants a little more of you…
Another possible scenario is that…
But, let’s admit it.
It’s quite possible that you’ve probably done a similar thing with some not-so-great-looking-girl who you wouldn’t date… but still enjoy getting validation from just because she is a female.
Girls do this all the time.
They don’t necessarily want to do anything with the guy – someone that they would never fvck – but they still enjoy getting your undivided attention.
So, she then sprinkles in some physical touch during a conversation.
Because who doesn’t love seeing a shy little boy get flustered from a simple human touch?
This is also the reason why you don’t want to go all “I feel like I’m on top of the world” mode even when your dream girl shows her affection towards you with a little touch during a conversation.
It communicates to her that you are not a guy who is used to getting intimate with a girl of her caliber.
You are basically automatically categorized as someone who is below her league.
I think we’ve talked enough about depressing scenarios at this point.
Let’s move onto something a little more positive…
It’s also quite probable…
Finally the answer you’ve been wanting to hear.
Yes… it may be hard for you to believe… but, it may certainly be the case that she finds you charming for whatever reason.
Most of us like to touch something we like – be it girls, dogs, or your sweaty balls – once we get comfortable with it.
As we talked about earlier, this may especially be true if she wasn’t so physical with you to start with.
But she became more touchy as she slowly opened herself up to you.
If you are not entirely sure whether she’s into you or not, you can always look for more cues from the girl to confirm if she is indeed into you.
Is she comfortable with you standing very close to her when you guys talk? Does she laugh at all your shitty jokes? Does she tend to “randomly” end up near you wherever you go?
If she shows two or more of these signs, then there is a very good chance she may be into you.
On a side note… if the girl is being very touchy at the club or a bar… then it’s almost a sure sign she’s looking for something more.
If you are bold enough, you can even guide her hand towards your private part… but that’s a topic for another day.
Anyway, moving on…
I do feel obligated to include this section in this article because I’m sure this will help you more than developing your ability to read a woman’s cue.
The last point I want to talk about is..
Notice how the entire article was focused on analyzing every different scenario in which a girl may be attracted to you or not.
While there is certainly time and place for learning about different cues, you ultimately want to reach a point where you just naturally assume attraction… rather than micro-analyzing every little change you see from the girl.
You should not be spending any more than a minute pondering about if the girl is into you or not.
If you view yourself as an attractive person, would it make sense for you to spend any significant portion of your time obsessing over these details?
The answer has got to be no.
This may sound very woo-woo… but most people (and girls) have a very weak sense of reality.
If you can cultivate your self-belief (in your worth) to the point that nothing can put a dent on your confidence, then most people will be left with no choice but to accept your belief.
The girl will simply have to accept that you are an attractive dude because no other guy demonstrates such conviction and belief in himself as you do.
And I felt obligated to emphasize this point because we often get so caught up with little tricks and techniques that will elevate us to the next version of ourselves.
But the answer is often much simpler (but not easy..) than what we’d like to hear.
So, start observing your thought pattern. Start paying attention to the words you repeat in your head.
Are you repeating words that empower you or are you repeating words that slowly corrode your self-esteem?
Anyway, that’s it for now.
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