You are in the middle of a conversation with the woman of your dreams.
You crack a joke and she bursts out laughing as she gently puts her hand on your arm!
Your heart starts racing and you are convinced
she must be into you as much as you are into her.
But, is that really the case?
That is exactly what you are going to find out in this article.
And it may not be what you are ready to hear.
But, it’s better to seek the truth than live the rest of your life in ignorance (in my opinion at least…)
So, let’s get started.
She touches your arm because that is just her
It is possible she just puts her hand on your arm out of habit.
This can either be due to her cultural background or just a personal habit.
For example, Western and Latin culture tend to be a lot more physical compared to Asian cultures.
If I thought every girl that touched me were into me when I first moved to Canada – as a young Asian kid – I would’ve deluded myself into thinking I’m a born womanizer.
If she is not from a culture that is known to be touchy, it can also be just her personality,
One way to confirm this is to simply pay attention to how she interacts with other people.
If she is always touchy with everyone she talks to, then you know her hand on your arm probably does not mean much.
On the other hand, if she is extra touchy with you compared to others, then it may be time for you to make a move on her.
She touches you because she feels comfortable
On one hand, it is great you are able to make girls feel comfortable around you. It is miles better than
creeping them out, that is for sure.
On the other hand, you can fall into a trap of making a girl feel “too” comfortable around you. And that is a great way to
She may feel like touching your arm is no different than touching a little puppy. She feels so comfortable with you to the point she does not even remotely view you as a sexual threat.
Many girls (especially shy ones) get nervous around
guys they find attractive.
So, it is not exactly easy for a lot of girls (unless she is very confident) to get all physical with you when she is into you.
If she acts way too comfortable around you, it may be a
sign she is just not that attracted to you.
You want her to feel “something” when her skin touches yours. If she feels nothing, then it is unlikely she is ever going to feel any
sexual desire toward you.
Once you have let yourself get to this point, it may be too late for you to do anything about it.
The lesson you should take away at this point is to become a friend with “sexual tension”.
She touches you to confuse you
Sounds evil, eh?
But, a lot of girls enjoy flirting with guys even if they have zero intention of sleeping with them.
They enjoy getting your validation. And some girls enjoy giving a false idea to men to make them think they’ve got a shot, only to reject them when they muster up the courage to ask them out.
It is entirely possible she is sprinkling in some physical touch to play with your naïve mind.
So, refrain yourself from getting too excited when her skin brushes against yours. There is a good chance it is just a
little “game” she is playing with you.
I think we have talked enough about ego-crushing scenarios so far.
Let’s move onto something a little more positive.
She touches your arm because she likes you
She could be touching your arm because
she actually likes you.
This, at least, indicates she is not repelled by you which is not a bad thing.
Most of us tend to touch something we like as long as we are comfortable with it and we know it is safe to touch.
But, there is one caveat: She has to be a confident (and experienced) girl who is comfortable in her own skin.
What type of men tends to have no hesitation when it comes to being sexual and physical with girls? It is the one who is
confident and experienced with girls.
It is the same for girls.
So, a confident woman may touch your arm as a way to show her interest.
But, as we’ve talked about earlier, there can be other reasons for why she touches your arm (cultural or just her personality).
How then do you get a better idea of whether she is into you or not?
You simply look for other signs.
Is she constantly looking toward your direction?
Is her body facing toward you when you guys talk?
Does her voice become softer when she is talking to you?
There are a lot of signs you can look for when talking to girls. And it is usually impossible to accurately gauge her interest based on one sign alone.
As a general rule of thumb, you want to see at least three or more signs before you can be confident she has interest in you.
Where she touches your arm…
Is she touching your arm in the club or a bar environment? Then, there is a high likelihood of her being sexually interested in you.
She could be talking to tens of other guys in such an environment but she chose to put her hand on your arm, instead.
Alcohol can be a great social lubricant to instill enough confidence in even a shy girl to be a little bolder than her usual self.
On the other hand, if your therapist or your counselor is touching your arm to comfort you, it would be foolish for you to think she is sexually interested in you (in most cases anyway).
How she touches your arm…
Is she rubbing your arm in a sensual manner or is she giving a good ole’ dog pat to your arm?
In case you don’t know, a dog pat refers to when a girl repeatedly pats (when she touches you or gives you a hug) you as if she were patting her dog.
It usually (not always) indicates she just considers you as a friend and is not interested in you sexually.
Anyway, pay attention to how she touches your arm and ask yourself this question.
Is she touching my arm as if she were touching her lover… or is she touching my arm as if she were touching her best friend?
You will be a step closer to accurately gauging her interest level once you answer the above question.
She is signaling you to make a move by touching your arm
It is possible she just really likes you and she is frustrated you are not making a move on her.
This may be hard to accept if you don’t have high enough self-esteem. But, you better believe some girls just love you for whatever reason.
She is touching your arm as a signal for you to make a move on her…
Knowing what I know now, I can recall so many instances (Back in my virgin days) when the
girl was showing a clear interest and I failed to make a move because I was just oblivious.
If you are ever in doubt, you simply need to take the plunge.
She may or may not be into you but it is much better than wasting so your valuable time and energy wondering if you should ask her out or not.
Remember, the one who hesitates masturbates.
In ten years’ time, you will NOT regret taking bold action and facing rejections. But, you WILL regret all those instances you could’ve asked that pretty girl out but never did.
So, go out and swing the bat!