What Do Girls Find Attractive?

In this article, I’m not going to write some bullshit list of different features that girls find attractive which has been written millions of times before.

This article is based on living 26 years of my life as a hugless and kissless virgin wondering about what girls actually find attractive and finally sort of ‘figuring’ it out.

I’ll talk about some of the universal things that most people commonly think girls find attractive.

I’ll also talk about which one of the factors have the biggest impact when it comes to whether a woman finds you attractive or not.

So, where do my insights come from?

I can tell you it does NOT come from BS articles based on a bunch of research papers.

I’ve gone out with guys of different ethnicity and looks in the past few years.

Most of the guys I went out with fit a stereotype of what you would typically consider a ‘tall and good looking white man’.

I have, however, also gone out with your typical short minorities who aren’t supposed to have any shot at picking up westernized girls according to what is portrayed in the media (Whether that is true or not, you’ll find out in this article..)

From having gone out with these guys for more than 350+ days in a row, and having been with more women than I’m proud to admit, I think I do have a quite unique perspective on this matter.

So let’s dive in..

So what are some of the most common attractive male characteristics that we think women find attractive?

1) Height

2) Face

3) Money

4) Race

5) Confidence (and/or personality)

6) Fit Body

Let’s first start off with height. Do girls care about height?

Yes. 100%

You will stand out If you are noticeably taller than people around you which means it will be a lot easier for you to get attention from girls.

One of my tallest friends in the group (Around 6’7) had no problem stealing a girl’s attention away from the rest of us simply by just standing near and smiling.

Whenever he opened his mouth to talk, you could see the girl’s attention immediately shifting toward him.

Height can most certainly be a very big advantage when it comes to an initial attraction

How about face?

Based on what I’ve seen, your face is, without a doubt, the most important physical feature (Not all but for most girls) when it comes to attraction.

Think about it. You are staring at the person’s face when you talk.

Having a good looking face becomes even much bigger advantage when you are out in the club or a bar.

This is because those places are usually dark and you are standing very close to another person when you talk at the bar or a club.

In such an environment, your face often becomes the only relevant physical feature.

Girls love money..right?

Contrary to popular belief, I had been proven over and over again that money is not a big factor at all when talking about pure attraction.

Girls most certainly care about your financial situation when they are thinking about a more long-term relationship with you.

But, you usually won’t impress or attract a girl by boasting about the size of your bank account.

And she certainly won’t be attracted to you if we define attraction as her feeling that lust toward you.

On a side note, having fame and status certainly can make her attracted toward you despite many guys like to discredit them as cheating (Whatever the f.. that means).

The reason being, it is almost hardwired in our brain to gravitate toward someone that other people admire as well.

Race..Girls can’t be that shallow..?

“Girls don’t like me because I’m Asian/Indian”

Many of you have probably heard that or said that yourself.

Until I lost my virginity at the age of 26, I also believed that I probably wouldn’t have much luck with a typical westernized girl because I’m Asian.

So what is the conclusion I reached from years of going out?

Race definitely matters without a doubt.

It’s a well-studied behavior in psychology that people, in general, tend to prefer what’s familiar to them.

Some people might ask, “But, wouldn’t girls like you more because you look exotic?”

Nope. Like I said, most (not all) people prefer familiarity over change. They’d rather know what they are getting before they get into it.

Confidence.. The key to her heart?

Many girls love to talk about how confidence is the most important thing they look for in a guy.

So do girls really value confidence above all or not?

My answer to that is, confidence is certainly very important. But it’s certainly not the be-all and end-all.

Confidence can take you far even if you are not the best looking guy.

I’ve seen a 5’4 Filipino guy who is average looking consistently date a lot of tall white girls (I only mention she’s white because that’s a limiting belief a lot of short Asian guys have) thanks to his rock-solid confidence.

It’s all about those big biceps..?

At this point, I think you realize what I’m going to say.

Yes, having a fit muscular body also matters.

Most of us are attracted to fit and healthy people.

If you don’t have a belly sticking out further than your chest then you’re good to go.

Now, the dirty truth..

So, does confidence really triumph over every other attribute as many girls would say or is it all about looks?

I’ll go ahead and list in order of the least important feature to the most important feature based on what I’ve personally observed in real life.

I’ll base it off on the girls you would meet during night time at the bar or a club.

Only because I believe the way girls behave in those places best demonstrate a raw attraction that a girl feels toward you (apart from girls that are drunk out of their mind).


As I’ve somewhat noted earlier, money is the least important out of all unless you have fame and status to go along with it.

The sad reality is being a doctor and lawyer won’t give you much competitive advantage over another guy who’s been unemployed for years unless the girl is looking for someone to settle with.

I’ve just seen way too many broke and unemployed guys effortlessly attract girls while seeing rich guys struggle for months and months to find someone. And no.. it wasn’t because these rich guys had any higher standards.


Your race is a factor that’s hard to measure with accuracy because it’s not too often girls overtly tell you she’s not into you because of your race

Or she may not even be consciously aware of it even if race subconsciously played a big part.

I can tell you, however, that I have seen a lot of so-called ‘unattractive’ races get amazing results with girls of all race if they knew how to present themselves.

So, it is my belief race is not a huge hindrance as many minorities would like to believe.


As I’ve said earlier, height is a definite plus. If you are tall, you WILL have it easier with girls.

Does it mean it is mean you are doomed if you are not tall?

It can be IF..

You are insecure about your height and you let your insecurities show to girls.

If you, however, can reach a point where you can stay completely unaffected even when the girl tells you she’s not attracted to a short Asian guy, then you will start seeing some incredible results as my friend did (5’4 Filipino and average looking).

Nice body

I debated quite a bit on which one comes first between height and nice body.

I do think being in good shapes gives you a slightly more edge over height. Especially, if you know how to dress well to show your hard earned body.


Based on what I’ve seen, I would have to say your facial feature would have to be the most important physical feature when it comes to attracting girls.

Let’s think about it for a moment.

Say you are talking to someone while standing close, what takes up most of your vision? The other person’s face.

I’ve seen plenty of not-so-great shaped guys who have no problem generating that instant attraction thanks to their facial feature.

If you don’t have the most beautiful looking face like I am, it just means you have to make up for it in other areas by transforming yourself into a cool mofo.


Without confidence, no amount of physical attraction will ever yield a consistent result.

There is one thing I need to be honest with you, however, which I will discuss in a bit.

It’s simply a fact that girls will rarely ever approach you first no matter how good looking you are unless you are some sort of celebrity.

A good-looking guy may be able to have half of the girls in the club attracted to him when he steps into the club.

But, if he doesn’t have the confidence to initiate the approach, nothing will come out of it.

Girls respond extremely well to a confident approach, and when she can see that you have an un-shattering belief in yourself.

There is one thing I do need to note, however.

It’s such a logical and obvious thing but something that nobody likes to talk about.

I blame it on the fact that the whole dating community has been preaching about positivity, and you can outshine every taller and better-looking guy just by exuding an aura of confidence and charisma.

The fact of the matter is if the said another taller and better-looking guy is as confident as you are then you are pretty much shit out of luck.

Your confidence and charm really shine when you are approaching a girl alone in a club filled with creepy dudes.

But when there’s a taller and better-looking dude who is just as confident as you are right beside you then you will pale in comparison.

Not all hope is lot, however. Girls do have a different and wide range of preferences.

So, just because you are not the type that appeals to the masses doesn’t mean there won’t be a girl that will find you more attractive than a taller, objectively better-looking dude.

This just means you have to be willing to try a little harder and approach a little more girls to get with the type of girl you want.

That’s it for now.

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Till next time..

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.