Let’s talk about “real” turn ons for women today.
Not one of those BS turn ons that people love to spew out. You know what I’m talking about…
“Oh… It really turns me on when guys open doors for me!”
“Oh… Guys with a nice smile really turns me on!”
“Oh… Guys who do dishes really turns me on!”
Well, I doubt most girls actually start getting wet over these things.
What I want to talk about instead is the real trigger that actually turns a girl on.
You know… the primal trigger that turns her on.
And the first thing is…
Your physical attributes can certainly serve as a nice bonus but they are not going to arouse her on their own.
As cliché as it sounds, your brain is your largest sexual organ. Well, if you yelled out you have something else that’s larger, then kudos to you…
Anyway, let’s get started…
There are millions of different ways to turn a girl on but the point I want to focus on today is…
The power of doing unexpected to turn her on.
So what do I mean by that?
Think about how a girl gets turned on…
Is it a logical process where if you do these three steps, then she will get turned on by what you do.
Yes, there are certain things you can say and certain areas you can touch to arouse her.
Yes, if you rub her clits, she will most likely get turned on eventually.
But you need to realize it’s usually the new stimulus or the stimulus that she did not expect, that would trigger the strongest response from her.
Think about the times when you were in a relationship. I’m sure you’ve been through a period when your physical attraction toward your ex-girlfriend completely plummeted after your sex life became predictable and boring.
So knowing this, what would be some things that you can do to arouse a girl when you meet her?
It would be a lot easier to talk about what you can do to turn her on if you and the girl are in your room alone.
But I’m sure most people reading this article would be more interested in knowing what would arouse a girl during the initial stage of interaction before she’s in your bed.
To make this a little more interactive and interesting for you, let me give you one scenario.
All you have to do is simply answer what you would do in your head and then I’ll reveal the “correct” answer afterward (But obviously there’s never one right way to do anything in human interaction…).
Say you are at a crowded bar where it’s extremely difficult to move. This cute girl comes up to you and asks if you know where the washroom is.
What would be your response to that?
Here is what most guys would do.
They would either…
Tell her where the washroom is and try to strike up a lame conversation that goes nowhere
Some guys who studied pick up may even say something like, “Is that your pick up line..?”
So, what move do I think triumphs over the first two responses I mentioned?
It is you simply…
Smiling at her (without saying anything) and reach out your hand and lead her to the washroom through a sea of drunken creeps at the bar.
Do you think she would most likely get more emotionally turned by this over the first two responses?
But more importantly…
How much more attractive qualities have you demonstrated by doing that over the other two?
You showed you are able to lead her.
You showed you are able to be her rock through chaos.
You also created a bit of mystery about yourself by not responding to her initial question with words but with your action instead.
And how much stronger emotional response would you have aroused in her as well?
Grabbing her hand and leading her to her destination is not something most guys would do.
And most definitely not what she would’ve expected you to do when she came to talk to you.
To all the guys that bitch and complain about how you always get friendzoned, do you really think you can get friendzoned when you start out your interaction with a girl like this?
Do you think she would think about you when she’s back home while rubbing her clits?
Maybe… or maybe not. You will never know.
But you most certainly would’ve increased your probability.
Do you think you would most likely be the most memorable guy in her mind when she’s laying on her bed before she falls asleep?
The answer is hell frigging yes.
Obviously, this hypothetical scenario is not always going to present itself when you interact with girls.
But, I hope you have enough awareness to listen to the message I’m trying to communicate rather than getting caught up with a specific example.
Be willing to do things that others wouldn’t expect you to do.
Don’t be afraid to stand out from the rest of the crowd.
Don’t be eff’ing normal.
People love talking about being normal in the seduction community these days.
“Just be normal bro. Just smile and compliment her and talk about normal stuff and ask her out!”
Here’s my advice to you.
Well… let me first note that this advice is for guys who are going for attractive Westernized girls who get approached a lot.
If you are going for Asian or European girls, being a regular dude who has enough confidence to approach can often be good enough.
Anyway, feel free to have a normal and safe conversation with girls if you are a tall, good looking guy going for girls that are about equal or below you in terms of physical attractiveness.
But if you are an average or below-average dude in looks, you need to stand the f… out in her mind.
Otherwise, you’re going to blend right in with all the average guys with average personalities that approach her.
And please completely ignore this video if you are so socially inept to the point that you think standing out means pulling down your pants in the middle of the club.
Think about the example I gave you earlier.
You need to stand out in her mind in a way that she starts feeling this weird sensation toward you that is hard to describe.
“I don’t know what it is about him but there’s just something about him that makes me feel…”
I’m sure you have heard that before.
Well, it’s often used by girls as to why they are so in love with a hot guy with no personality so they can rationalize they aren’t only into superficial qualities.
The only difference for you would be that girls would actually mean it if you are an average dude like me and the rest of 80% of the male population.
So be willing to stand out and take a risk in your interaction with a girl.
Just remember to stand out in a way that she can relate.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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