Stop Chasing Her And She Will Come

How many times have you heard someone say you should stop chasing girls and that will make them want you more?

Is there any truth to that..?

Or is it one of those quotes that sound nice on paper but doesn’t exactly work in real life?

In this article, I will dive deep into female psychology so you can effortlessly seduce the girl of your dreams.

For you to answer this question, it’s a good idea to view things from your own perspective… since the basic psychological triggers apply to both men and women.

Just think of the time when you got anything without putting any work in. How did you feel afterward?

Did you feel any sense of accomplishment? Did you value whatever you got?

The answer is most likely no.

Human (both men and women) value things we have to work for. If something comes easily to us without us having to work for it, it is in our very nature to take that for granted.

So, how does that apply to dynamics between men and women?

Imagine if you went out of your way to please her in any and every way possible.

Maybe, you drive one hour to pick her up and take her to an expensive restaurant on your first date.

Maybe, you text her five times a day to show her just how much you think and care about her.

Maybe, you write a long letter talking about how much you appreciate her in your life.

Let me first say that these certainly can make some women feel special… and some girls may even appreciate your effort very much.

But, only if she deserves it.

And these are unlikely to be effective especially if we are talking about attractive girls… because they are bombarded with guys begging for their attention all the time.

With that being said, let’s talk about some of the possible impressions you may leave on her as a result of the actions listed above.

1. She will think you have way too much free time on your hand.

Do you think a girl would want to be with a dude who has way too much free time on his hand… and all he thinks about throughout the day is how he can please her? Just that image alone would be enough to make her feel repulsive toward you.

2. She will think you have no option other than her. No man or woman wants to be with a desperate person who has no option. The last thing we would feel is attraction toward someone when we feel like we are donating to a charity.

3. She will feel too much pressure from you showing way too much interest without her doing anything. Have you ever had a situation where some stranger was going way out of his or her way to accommodate to your needs? How did it feel? You probably felt more pressure than a feeling of gratitude. Girls feel the same way.

4. You will remind her of all the other creepy dudes who tried to fuck her in the past by putting on these nice guy acts. You may automatically be lumped in as one of those guys and never get a chance.

5. You won’t arouse any sort of emotion in her to make her want you… unless you are hitting on average to ugly girls who are not used to receiving such favors.

Hot girls are extremely used to guys doing everything for them. You simply being nice to them do not arouse any type of emotional response from them. And this is problematic because no emotion means no attraction most of the time… unless she just really likes your looks.

So, what are the ways you can get her to start chasing you instead?

1. This is my favorite one by far. Show her you have other options. Talk to girls nearby when she’s with you.

Jealousy is one of the strongest emotion you can arouse in girls. In fact, many girls will sleep with you even if they are not exactly attracted to you if you can make them feel like every other girl want you.

Both men and women have a very strong desire to prove to others that we are somehow better than others. What better way is there to prove that than having the honor to suck your dick first before any other girl does?

2. Don’t prioritize her all the time. For example, if your friend appears while you are talking to her, make sure to greet your friend instead of ignoring him. What does it communicate to her if you ignore everyone else around you and you just laser focus on her?

That she is the most precious thing to you than everyone else. You should know by now this is a great way to lose any attraction she has for you especially if she’s an attractive girl.

On the other hand, this is brutally effective on hot girls. Because what other guy cut a really fucking hot girl off in the middle of a conversation to greet his friend? It will arouse strong emotion in her. Just make sure you don’t ignore her for too long to the point she wants to leave.

I need to note, however, that it’s best to stay away from doing something like this as a “tactic”. It’s ten times more effective if you just become the guy who actually doesn’t put hot girls on a pedestal.

If you, however, are not at that point yet. Then, by all means, use it as part of your tactic (or fake it til you make it..) until it becomes your reality.

3. This one is very common among pretty much every guy I’ve seen. Most guys (And most likely you) completely forget about their standard when talking to hot girls. If you believe girls that spend all day browsing Facebook and Instagram need to get a fucking life, then tell her that. If you think it’s sexy for a girl to actually have a clear goal for herself rather than obsessing over her appearance, then tell her that.

Make it known that you are a man with standards and not someone who just takes any vagina who comes in his way. And she will respect you for that.

4. Don’t accommodate to her schedule all the time. Say you are trying to set up a date with her. What do most guys do? They ask the girl when she is free and then try to find a day that works. Instead, tell her what days you are available to hang out and then ask her about the schedule.

It communicates to her you are not just another little shit who is always ready to cater to her needs over yours.

This last one can’t be applied in all situations but is singlehandedly the most effective way to get her chasing if you can pull it off.


She perceives you as a higher status person than her then that really is all you need to get her chasing

Just a simple act of you talking to her will be enough to get her excited if she perceives you to be more important than her.

So, how do you accomplish this?

One way you can do this is to talk to girls in an environment where you are the authority. If you are an instructor (Don’t do anything illegal…) of some sort… or if you are the most respected person in the room… then that will automatically put you at the top of hierarchy.

Another way is to either get your friend or her friend (if you know her) to tell the girl something about you that would impress her. When she “accidentally” finds out something about you that makes you stand out, then your status will automatically become elevated in her view.

Remember, when you brag about yourself, you are a tryhard. When someone else brags about you for you, then you are just a cool ass dude.

Anyway, that’s it for now.

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About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.