Signs She Is Testing You

Before we talk about the signs you observe when a girl tests you, let’s briefly talk about why you should even bother with a girl’s tests in the first place.

A lot of men respond to what a girl says or does, without realizing that a girl’s perception toward them can completely change depending on how they respond.

For example, when a girl tests you by trying to make you jealous, there are several different ways you can respond to her (you will soon find out the best way to respond to a girl in such a scenario).

The way you respond to her tests will either increase or decrease your value in a girl’s eyes.

And unfortunately, most men resort to behaviors that lower their values.

In this article, I will reveal the most common tests you will encounter when interacting with women, and you will also learn the best ways to deal with them.

Make sure you don’t miss the last part about different ways that a girl tests you through text messages!

1. She is not that receptive to you

One way a girl tests you is by not being so open and receptive the first time she meets you.

It is possible she is just not that interested in you, but there is also a chance she is putting up this wall expecting you to emotionally break down in front of her.

When most men are faced with such a scenario, they either over-react by trying even harder to impress the girl, or they panic and become speechless.

If you are visibly shaken by her behavior, you are automatically going to be categorized as a low-value male in her mind.

On the other hand, if you are able to maintain your cool without any signs of being emotionally affected by her behaviors, your value is going to increase in her eyes.

And, it really doesn’t matter if a girl is acting in such a manner to test you, or if she is simply not interested.

The way you respond to her behavior will still have a significant effect on how you will become categorized in her mind.

So, it is not important for you to figure out whether a girl shows a certain behavior to test you.

What is important is that you demonstrate correct behaviors to let her know that she has no control over you.

2. She talks about other men in front of you

This is one of the most common tests you will encounter when talking to girls.

She will talk about other men in front of you to see how you react.

This can be her co-worker or your best friend.

She may even subtly hint how your friend is sort of cute.

Some women consciously do this to induce jealousy in you, and some are not even aware of what they are doing.

So, what is the underlying reason behind this behavior?

Most girls do this to seek attention and validation.

When a girl brings up another man, she is hoping you would react by getting jealous.

And when you do show jealousy, she is going to feel validated (because it’s a sign you are highly attached to her).

You need to realize, however, that just because a girl feels validated from your response doesn’t mean she is going to feel a stronger attraction toward you.

In fact, you are communicating a lot of negative qualities about you by expressing your jealousy.

  • You are letting a girl know that you overly care about what she thinks.
  • You are letting her know that you don’t think of yourself highly enough to feel secure in yourself.
  • You are expressing your neediness by showing your jealousy.

So, what then is the most ideal way to respond?

There are two ways you can respond. I need to note, however, that the second point only applies if you are already in a relationship (serious or casual) with her.

  • You stay emotionally unreactive to her behavior, and you can even joke about how he sounds like an awesome dude, and she should take a shot if he’s single. She will quickly realize she can’t so easily control your emotions.
  • You can also be honest with her and let her know you do not appreciate it when she talks about another man in front of you. You don’t need to be all emotional when you tell her this. You just calmly let her know what you are not willing to tolerate in a relationship, and you show your willingness to walk away if she continues to step over your boundaries.

Not a lot of people talk about the second way of dealing with a girl’s tests.

Many wrongly believe that they should never express they were bothered by a girl’s behavior.

They believe that is showing their weaknesses to her.

But, I’ve personally found it to be one of the best ways to deal with a girl’s tests.

When she crosses the line, you have to let her know your boundaries.

Otherwise, she is going to continuously try to push those boundaries further and further.

When you express your boundaries, and you let a girl know your willingness to walk away, you will often notice that she starts to chase you harder than ever.

3. She criticizes you for no good reason

She gives you a hard time for no good reason.

She constantly criticizes what you do and blatantly puts you down.

If this has been going on for a while, then it may have already surpassed a ‘test’ stage.

It is possible she no longer has any respect for you at this point.

But, if this is a recent phenomenon, it is important for you to set her straight before things get out of control.

The more you tolerate her misbehaviors, the more you are encouraging her to treat you poorly.

She has to know she can’t cross a certain line.

And giving you a hard time for no apparent reason is definitely the line she should not be allowed to cross.

It once again goes back to setting your boundaries and letting her know she is going to lose you if she doesn’t fix her behaviors.

When you assert your boundaries, you are letting her know you have other options.

She has to know you are not so attached to her to the point that you are willing to tolerate all of her BS.

Signs a girl is testing you through text

The way a girl tests you over text really is no different than how a girl tests you in person.

So, let’s talk about a few different ways that a girl tests you over text and the best ways to deal with them.

Delayed response

This is by far one of the most common tests you are going to encounter.

You text a girl, but she doesn’t respond for hours (or sometimes, even for days).

Let me just note, however, that many girls don’t even ‘consciously’ do this to test you.

In fact, a lot of them may not text you promptly simply because they are too busy, or they are not that interested.

You may ask, “How can you even say she is testing me if that’s the case?”

I consider it a test because how you respond to these scenarios can drastically change the way she perceives you (whether she is delaying her response with the intention of testing you, or if she is not replying on time due to circumstances).

So, how should you respond when a girl does not promptly reply back?

The most important thing is to avoid showing any signs that you were emotionally affected by her lack of response.

When you send her an angry text message, you are letting her know you are needy and emotionally unstable.

Her lack of response would not have had such a significant emotional impact on you if your life was perfectly fine without her.

The very fact she can exert such a powerful influence on your emotions shows that your life isn’t that great without her.

Inconsiderate text message

This is also a very common way a girl tests you over text.

Let me give you my own example to better explain this point.

This one time I was supposed to go on a date with the girl I was seeing.

But, an hour or two prior to our date, she texted me saying that she is not really feeling great, so she will have to cancel.

What do you think most men would have done under such a situation?

Most men would’ve either sent her a text asking if everything is fine, or sent her a text expressing their discontent.

What I decided to do instead was to simply send her a ‘thumbs up’ emoji.

I didn’t ask her how she is doing, and I didn’t demand any explanations.

I simply put a minimal amount of effort into replying back (not replying to her text at all can make you appear angry and try-hard).

A few minutes later, she sent a text message explaining how she is sorry that she had to cancel and proactively scheduled another date to hang out.

But, the story doesn’t just end there.

A few months after that incident, she told me how she was seriously considering breaking up with me on that exact day (because I wasn’t truthful to her about something).

When she told me that, I became even more certain that I had done the right thing.

Had I chased her harder (when she was contemplating a breakup), she would’ve pushed me further away.

But, the fact I chased her even less when she was showing a lack of commitment gave her no choice but to chase me.

Is this way of passing a girl’s test always going to work? Not necessarily.

Some girls just won’t be that into you, and they will simply stop responding to you.

I can tell you, however, that it’s going to give you an infinitely better chance at making a girl desire you as opposed to incessantly chasing a girl when she is not interested in you.

She makes you feel bad over text

She may also test you by trying to make you feel bad over text, although you haven’t really done anything wrong.

For example, she may get angry at you if you don’t reply to her message promptly even if you weren’t able to check your phone because you were at work.

So, what is the right way to pass her test in such a scenario?

The same exact way you would deal with it in person.

What you do not want to do is apologize to her when you have no reason to apologize.

If you do that, you are communicating to her that you are okay with being mistreated even when you’ve done nothing wrong.

Let her know that you are not willing to tolerate any unreasonable behaviors from her.

Anyway, you are now equipped with all of the knowledge you need to successfully deal with any and every test you encounter from a girl.

I wish you the best of luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.