It is tricky to draw the line between persistence and desperation.
And if you don’t know when to stop chasing a girl, you will quickly become a creep in a girl’s eyes.
Stop chasing her if…
So, when should you stop chasing a girl?
Everyone has a different idea of when is
the right time to stop pursuing a girl.
Some men may argue that you should chase a woman as many times as you desire since you have nothing to lose anyway.
And I can partially agree with that if you are the type of man who does not mind spending all of your time and effort on chasing a girl who barely reciprocates your level of interest.
But unfortunately (or fortunately), I’m not wired that way. And you probably aren’t either if you are reading this article.
The truth is it starts to eat away at your soul when you incessantly chase a girl who does not like you back.
With such a tactic, you won’t feel much fulfillment even if you manage to score a girl.
Even worse, you are going to become a man without boundaries which is one of the most
unattractive traits you can exhibit as a man.
So, I advise you to decide in advance how much BS you are willing to deal with when you interact with a woman.
And your threshold for tolerating a girl’s BS will become lower and lower as you start to experience more abundance in your dating life.
There simply is no reason for you to hold onto a girl who doesn’t value you when there are tens and hundreds of other girls to choose from.
As I said earlier, you ultimately need to come up with your ‘own’ standard.
But, I’ll tell you the rules I follow, so I can give you some ideas if you are feeling lost.
When you are texting…
Follow the rule of two.
You can text a girl up to two times without receiving her reply.
If a girl still does not text you back after two text messages, it is time to move on.
When you send her that third text message, you are positioning yourself as a desperate loser instead of a persistent pursuer.
Your second text message can simply be asking a girl if she’s okay, or you can give her a closure if you’ve been going out with her for some time.
If you do decide to go with the latter, I advise you to express your genuine feeling so you are not left with any regret.
If you enjoyed spending time with her, then express that to her.
But, you should never make a mistake of begging for her to stay.
If you chase a girl when she is pushing you away, it will only make her want to push you away even further.
You need to step back, so you can give her some space to chase you instead.
In sum, it is perfectly okay to genuinely express how you feel, but it has to be accompanied by your willingness to walk away.
As an example, you can let her know that you enjoy spending time with her, but you wish her the best of luck if she doesn’t feel the same way about you.
When you do this, you are not pushing her away in a malicious way, but rather you are being genuine while setting your boundaries at the same time.
This will make it easier for her to chase if she is on the fence in regards to whether she wants to see you again.
As a side note, there is a lot of misconception about how it is better to be a ‘bad boy’ than a
nice guy, to attract girls.
But, I don’t quite agree with that idea.
Based on my experience, nice guys with strong boundaries (and unapologetic with his desires) often consistently get the hottest girls.
So, don’t be afraid to be nice and genuine to women.
You will do just fine as long as you do not show any
neediness. When in person…
Let’s talk about when is the right time to stop chasing a girl in person.
The first thing you want to look out for is her body language.
If her feet are pointed away from you, that is usually an accurate sign that she has no interest in continuing a conversation with you.
Most of us are quite proficient at lying with our words, but we are not very good at lying with our body.
If she says she enjoys talking to you, but her body says otherwise, you know which sign is revealing the truth.
You also want to pay attention to her vocal tonality.
If she maintains an ‘office tonality’ (the type of tonality you would use in a business meeting) when she speaks to you, there is a good chance she is not romantically interested in you.
It is a bad sign if she frequently looks away from you in a conversation.
That being said, there is a small chance
she may feel shy, and she is having a difficult time maintaining eye contact if she finds you attractive.
But more often than not, it is an indication that the girl is not interested.
So, is it at all possible to trigger a girl to feel attraction to you when she is not into you, or should you just walk away from her?
My first advice is to find another girl.
But if you so desire, there is one powerful trigger you can utilize to make a girl chase.
Do this to make her chase
One of the best ways to make a girl chase is to utilize social proof.
And when I say social proof, I mean surrounding yourself with attractive girls.
Studies clearly show women generally feel a stronger attraction to a man when they see the man surrounded by attractive women.
Women often look at other women to decide if the man is high value or not.
If you are desired by other attractive women, she is going to believe you must have
attractive traits, and your value will become elevated in her eyes.
So, how can you put this into practice?
It is not as complicated as you may think.
If the girl (that you are interested in) is not showing much interest, simply talk to another girl in the surroundings.
This will likely make her crave for your attention.
You obviously need to know how to actually carry a basic conversation with girls to make this work, but it is not as difficult as you may believe.
You just need to keep it playful and friendly (without being too serious), and most girls would be more than happy to chat with you.
How to make her chase you in a relationship
Is it possible to make a girl chase in a relationship?
The short answer is yes.
But, I don’t want to talk about any tactics to make your girlfriend chase.
Tactics are not sustainable.
The best way to make a girl chase in a relationship is to become a man of high-value.
If you live a fantastic life with great friends and cool hobbies, then the girl is naturally going to want to be a part of your life.
And if you are a high-value male, your life is not going to revolve around your girl because you do other things with your life besides spending time with her.
The less you become dependent on a girl for your own happiness, the more she will be compelled to chase.
This does not mean you should intentionally push the girl away.
That, in fact, is a sign of emotional weakness because such an act implies you likely believe you are not worthy of a girl’s love.
But rather, you want to express your love as much as you want with the willingness to walk away any time she doesn’t live up to your standard.
Because that is precisely what a high value man with a lot of options would do.