So you have been seeing this girl for a while.
You may even think there is some sort of special connection between you and her.
Maybe, you even brought up the possibility of being exclusive with one another.
She does not, however, want to get into a relationship with you.
It’s never a great feeling when a girl is reluctant to reciprocate the same degree of feeling and commitment you have for her.
In this article, you will learn about the real dirty truth (especially the last point in this article..) of why she may not want to get into a relationship with you – Feel free to continue reading if you are willing to face the truth.
The first possibility is…
It’s possible she has too much commitment in her life at the moment – and she doesn’t want to add any extra layer of complexity into her life by being in a committed relationship.
If this is her reason for not wanting a relationship – you would just want to observe if what she says matches with her actual behaviors.
If she tells you she’s way too busy but she’s still got time to waste hours on social media or spend time with her friends – then this most likely is not her primary reason.
It is also possible that…
Yeah.. who would’ve thought?
Many (and I mean MANY..) girls love getting with a whole bunch of different guys simultaneously as much as us guys do.
She may very well be thinking, “Why not just meet them at the same time unless I have to choose one over the other..?”
In this scenario, there is also a good chance she doesn’t particularly feel really strongly toward one of you over the other.
Because if she makes up in her mind that one of you is a far “superior” option – then she will most likely want to just stick with that person.
Why eat ground beef if you can eat a steak every night?
The third reason may be…
There was a point in her life she believed in love and fairytale.
But she was burned and hurt by all the previous guys she had been with.
She now made a vow to never ever get into a committed relationship with anyone.
Opening yourself up to another person can be a scary thing for most people – especially when you’ve been hurt in the past – when you know what it feels like to endure that grueling process of recovering from emotional trauma.
She had lost faith in another man (and in herself) – that she can be loved for who she is.
So, she would rather not make herself vulnerable by committing herself to one person.
Because then, it would not hurt so much when things don’t work out.
And to be honest…
This is usually the primary reason why a girl would not get into a committed relationship with a guy.
This pretty much overshadows all of the previous reasons I had mentioned earlier.
In most cases, if she likes you enough and feels strongly toward you – then she will want you despite all the emotional traumas and burdens in her life.
It may be difficult to accept but she most likely just doesn’t like you that much.
It may be because she feels you don’t live up to her “standard” of a guy she would happily introduce to her friends – as someone who she is exclusive with.
It may be that she’s been with a much better guy (it’s just her subjective opinion of course..) in the past and she believes she deserves much better quality (as harsh as it sounds) for an exclusive relationship.
But, more often than not, it is because you failed to arouse a strong enough emotion in her – to be relevant enough in her mind for her to want to commit.
I do have a few suggestions on ways you can handle this (assuming you want a relationship with her).
The first option is to simply give her an ultimatum.
The way you’ve been interacting with her made her believe that she can get away with just having her own way.
You need to communicate your honest feeling by expressing – in a simple and concise way – to her what you actually want.
And let her know she only has two options – Either Yes or No.
Be careful to not go into this long and drawn out explanation about why you guys should get into a relationship, and how irritated you are about the whole thing.
It will just make you appear like a complete whiny loser in her eyes.
Simply let her know what you want – without getting emotionally triggered.
The second option is to just start meeting other women while you remain casual with her.
You then won’t feel so emotionally attached to this one girl.
And it also triggers one of the most powerful emotional triggers you can induce in a girl…
When you stop being so available for her all the time and she can sense you are meeting other girls – it will likely arouse some weird yet strong feeling in her (aka jealousy).
She will start thinking more and more about you – even when you’re not around her.
And guess what?
The more she thinks about you, the bigger you will grow in her mind.
And the more she will feel attached to you.
It’s sad but often very true.
The less you start caring about the girl, the more she will chase you and crave for your attention.
Humans are primarily motivated by the “fear of loss” than the “desire to gain”.
Once she realizes there is a very real possibility that she can lose you – she will start clinging onto you more.
Anyway, that’s it for today.
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