So should you destroy her ego to put her in her place?
I recently came across a video where the dating coach was talking about destroying a girl’s ego because the girl needs to be routinely put in her place to keep her ego check.
I figured I would give my two cents on it since some of the points he made in the video are widely accepted by a lot of guys in this dating community.
Here is the first point he made.
He suggests you text your girl and tell her that you are going to dump her.
His reason is that most girl’s ego is through the roof since they are always the one rejecting guys and dumping their boyfriend from so much option.
Apparently, telling her you are going to break up with her is a great way to put a girl in her place.
So what do I think…
I think it’s a common misconception that most girl’s egos are through the roof.
You need to realize that girls only act like an egotistical bitch in front of guys that they perceive to have no value in their life.
Do you think they would act all bitchy and egotistical to their male boss… to their crush… to their personal trainer?
She only acts that way in front of you because she subconsciously made up in her mind that you are just another low-value guy that adds no value in her life.
So you can either send her, “I’m going to break up with you” when you don’t even mean it like a little bitch… Or actually become a valuable guy in her life that she can’t resist.
The second point he made is to have sex with her and not text her afterward.
He said that when you have sex with her, you take her soul and everything she has because her having sex with you apparently means she’s given you everything.
Doing this will apparently make her feel insecure because her vagina defines her entire self-worth.
So what do I think…
Well… that is some 18th century BS in my humble opinion.
If girls really put that much importance on who she has sex with.
How the f… do you explain all the girls who are down to have threesomes with two guys and all the girls who are willing to have sex with five guys in a row?
Did these girls give soul to me and my friends each time one of our dicks entered her vagina?
There are girls who put more significance on who they have sex with… and there are girls who just want to have sex for the sake of having sex.
You are not going to make every girl start craving for your validation by not sending her a text after you have sex with her – especially if the girl falls into the latter category.
Here’s the third point…
And that is to wait for hours to text her back.
I believe this point is utterly stupid as well.
It implies you saw the girl’s text and now there’s a little timer going off in your head on when you are going to text her.
Just picture a guy who’s calculating all these little moves and using his little tricks to play his little games with the girl.
Do you really want to be that little piece of shit?
Don’t you just want to be a cool dude who enjoys doing his own shit and be attractive to girls in the process?
I don’t know about you but that’s what I’d rather be.
Here’s my suggestion.
Why not just make it a rule to check your phone only on specific time throughout the day.
For example, once at eight in the morning and another at eight in the evening.
If the girl happens to text you at 7:59 pm then you answer her at 8:00 pm.
If the girl happens to text you at 8:01 am then you still answer her at 8:00 pm.
You are in your own rhythm and not at the effect of others.
The fourth point he made in the video is to…
To be honest, I wasn’t even sure if I should even respond to this because it’s such a pathetic thing to do.
Blatantly insulting a girl’s physical feature just to make her feel insecure…
Let me just tell you this…
I’ve done and said some messed up things and I’m not going to pretend to sit on this moral high horse and point fingers at others.
But, it just doesn’t make you feel very happy.
It may give you that slight hit of dopamine but that’s about it.
The more you fill up your brain with those negative thoughts on how you can bring others down, the more you become miserable and rotten inside.
The last and fifth point he made is to tell the girl that her friend is kind of cute.
Once again, this is to bring her ego down and make her feel insecure about herself.
Everything that he suggests you do in his video comes from the frame of a low-value guy.
If you are a high value person, the girl will understand you are a dude with a lot of options and will want to hang onto you as long as she can.
How much more effective would it be if she can see her friend feeling that attraction toward you because you are just one cool mo-fo… versus you telling your girl that her friend is cute.
There are two types of people in life.
People who drag other people down to their level so they feel good about their miserable life.
And people who put in the work and bring themselves up to others level and surpass them eventually.
It’s entirely your choice on how you want to live your life.
But nobody wants to hear that.
Everyone wants to hear it’s the other person’s fault because it’s just much easier to tear other people apart and bring them down than having to put in the work to elevate yourself.
If I blatantly hated on women in my articles and insulted them then I would probably attract more people.
Because we love to point fingers at others rather than assuming responsibility.
But how the heck is that going to improve your life?
I say the same thing to girls.
Some of the girls I know would talk about a girl who got sexually harassed when she was out late at night while she was completely intoxicated.
I would tell them that there’s no doubt the guy is a PoS but maybe the girl should’ve exercised some personal responsibility as well.
When I say that to girls, they just flip the eff out which is funny to watch.
“Omg…. you are victim blaming… you are a human trash” are the typical responses I get.
But here’s the truth.
Whether you like to admit it or not, there will always be scumbags who will try to take advantage of drunk girls.
So if you know that, it makes sense to do your best to not put yourself in that situation.
I don’t hate on girls. I don’t hate on guys.
I just hate people who refuse to take any sort of personal responsibility.
Ok… hate is a strong word but I do have very low patience for them.
Because I used to be like that and that’s the part of my past that I hate the most.
Remember what I said earlier?
It’s a lot easier to just bring someone’s value down to your level than you elevating your actual value – because the latter actually takes work.
All the morals aside, it is not even a good strategy if we just purely look at what these behaviors are trying to accomplish.
Because everything that he suggests you do, the girl can easily flip it on you and do exactly the same.
She can easily delay her texts.
She can easily say your friend is so much more attractive.
She can easily say you are ugly.
But what is hard to fake is your actual value.
She will want to desperately hang onto you when you become so valuable to her to the point she has a hard time picturing any guy that’s better than you.
When I say value, I don’t necessarily mean looks or money.
Your ability to arouse strong emotion in her and giving her a wide range of emotion can also be an immense value.
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