Can you really trust women or not..?
So, where do I begin this story…
The story I am about to tell you…
I was still a very innocent soul until this incident happened.
But it really changed my perception about what women are capable of doing.
To be fair, it’s not just this single incident that made me turn very cynical about getting into a relationship but also a lot of incidents that I witnessed over the years.
A hopeless romantic who viewed every girl as an angel…
To give you a little bit of where I came from…
I was the type of guy who believed every girl appreciates guys buying them flowers… taking them to nice places… and buying them an expensive gift.
And taking things slowly and just be the absolute gentleman I can be.
Hell… when my ex-girlfriend broke up with me, I even fantasized about serenading to her in her class… and I thought maybe that would make her change her mind.
So, I was the sweetest little Asian dude who wanted to serve the girls I love like a goddess.
But, after this incident, and a series of incidents that followed after, I ended up developing a very cynical view toward women.
Too cynical to the point that at one point, I would swear I would never get into a relationship.
And genuinely believed most girls are “hoes”.
Although I managed to adopt a much more balanced view, it took me a long time until I was able to accept girls for who they were.
This completely changed my view toward women
So, what exactly happened…?
Well, it was still when I was back in Melbourne.
I was out with my friend on a Saturday night.
And we went out to Asian Beer Cafe (ABC) for some of you who may live in Melbourne, Australia and are familiar with the bars there.
So, we enter the club and I found a spot in the middle of the club where I can get a good view of everyone.
I then proceed to stand there like a rock like a true pimp I am and start scanning the environment.
As I look around, I notice this White girl with a nice booty and super pale white skin from the corner of my eyes.
I naturally decide to approach her since she’s exactly my type.
She is friendly and receptive but leaves soon after saying she has to go catch up with her friends.
I hang out with my buddy for about half an hour or so and then I see her walking across the club once again.
So, I re-approach her for the second time. She’s still friendly and receptive but once again excuses herself to go see her friend.
I see her again for the third time and this time I do not even open my mouth.
I simply smirk at her and make a gesture to come and she does.
But, this time it is a little different…
Out of nowhere, she shoves her tongue into my throat and makes out with me violently.
You know what that means…
It’s time to go home…
So, I look at her dead in the eyes and tell her to come with me. And so she does.
As we are walking out of the club, we come across this girl at the entrance who knows the girl I’m with.
And she stares at her with a surprised look.
I then notice the girl I’m with awkwardly staring at her and look at me then and tells me that she has to go.
I didn’t quite realize what this meant at the time… but quickly found out what it meant just a moment later when I witnessed what I’m about to tell you.
So, I hang out inside the club with my friend for a few minutes and we decide to go out to the balcony area to get some fresh air.
As I step out into the balcony area, I notice the girl I was with from the corner of my eyes with her group of friends.
With her boyfriend (which I confirmed with one of the people from her group later on).
Needless to say, she looked terrified I might come over and her boyfriend may find out about everything.
But, I obviously had enough awareness to not do such a stupid thing.
And although I have witnessed a lot of (and much worse) messed up things since then, that incident really stuck in my memory.
Because it was really the first moment when my reality was heavily challenged.
And I really had to re-think about my view toward women.
Like I said earlier, this incident really took me to darker places although I did manage to find that middle ground eventually.
To sum it up…
What message do I want to communicate with this?
Some guys might hear this story and think.. “Eff these bishes.. these hoes ain’t loyal…”
Some guys may still have this notion that “every” girl is a little sweetheart and they all desire to be treated with utmost respect and sincerity.
As with anything else in life, the truth always lies somewhere in the middle.
If you are that hopeless romantic, I just want to help you realize that not all girls will respond to your romantic way of expressing feeling… and some girls simply just want to get f..ked.
Let me just say that by no means do I want anyone to develop any hatred toward women.
But, I just want guys to see the reality for what it is instead of what they “hope” it to be.
Because it is entirely possible that your girlfriend (or future girlfriend) may very well cheat on you.
And many times, it would not have anything to do with you rather than the fact she was simply in that “emotional mood” to do something outlandish.
And she may just very well be the type of girl who would cheat regardless of how “perfect” her partner may be.
So, there really is no reason to dwell over someone like that rather than moving on quickly.