In this article, I’m going to talk about why you should never EVER trust what a girl says to you.
If you ignore this advice, you are going to be missing out on a lot of opportunities in your dating life.
And most guys do…
Because they wrongly pay the most attention to verbal communication above all else when they are trying to read girls.
But it will be a different story for you once you truly internalize this idea I’m going to expand in this article.
For the first point, let’s talk about how being around her friends and others can influence a girl to say something that she may not even mean.
To really help you understand this point, let me give you a hypothetical scenario that’s been proven over and over again to have a massive influence on people’s behavior.
Let me just clarify that what I’m about to discuss really isn’t limited to female psychology but pretty much applies for both men and women.
So, let’s say you are talking with a group of guys that you just met and a topic of girls come up.
You and the guys start talking about the type of girls you are into and no one in the group knows that you are secretly into girls with fake mammaries.
And before you have a chance to voice your opinion, the rest of the guys in the group start giving their opinion about girls with fake mammaries.
They say things like how it doesn’t feel nice and go even as far as saying that men who are into girls with fake tits must have some sort of issues.
Now, how do you think you would react in this situation…?
Well, for you reading this in a room alone, you would most likely say, “Of course, I’d state my preference with no hesitation. I’m not some spineless wimp!”
However, that’s not quite what the research says.
The research shows that most people will drastically alter their views and opinions to fit the opinion of the group.
Because your desire to belong is so powerful.
And that scenario is just one of many and many examples of how people can say completely opposite of what they actually have on their mind due to external influence.
You need to realize that we all care a LOT about what others think about us and how they perceive us.
And for a lot of girls, their entire life essentially revolves around seeking validation from other people.
All those hours that they spend on social media platform obsessing over how many people liked their photos.
All those hours they spend to get ready for the club on a night out.
The persona that they have on a night out can be wildly different than their actual persona.
So, how can this affect you personally when you are talking to girls?
Let me use myself as an example.
I’m Asian in case you still haven’t figured that out yet.
And let’s say when I go up to talk to one of the girls, she may very well be highly intrigued by my beautiful looks and an impeccable charm which certainly is the case with most girls (Ok… maybe that was a slight exaggeration).
But despite the fact she may be into me, there is often another obstacle I have to overcome.
And this is true for any group of people who don’t fit that “cool” stereotype.
Let me just note that I’m not saying this to make you depressed and feel hopeless but rather for you to have a clear picture of the reality.
Because once you have that clear view of things, it’s a lot easier for you to come up with a solution to that problem and different ways to deal with them.
So, what kind of obstacles are present for some of us?
Well… if we are looking at the whole thing from the view of society, there is nothing cool about going home with a guy who appears to be nerdy, weak or even Asian.
And as I said earlier, that desire for a girl to look cool in front of her friends often triumphs over her attraction toward you especially if we are talking about younger girls.
For my second point, let me once again illustrate the point with a scenario you may be able to relate to…
Have you ever had times when you swore to yourself you are not going to do something and you absolutely meant it at the time you said it?
But you went back to doing the same thing in just a matter of a few days or maybe in a matter of a few hours.
Maybe you were trying to shed a few extra pounds for the summer when you were on a strict diet.
And you lost control of yourself and ended up indulging in a huge cheat meal that you never intended.
You probably felt disgusted at yourself afterward and said never again.
But, you probably did it again at some point later in the future.
So, what point am I trying to hammer in with this?
It’s the fact that…
When you said you were never going to eat crap food again, you really meant it at the time.
But, you indulged in that crappy food anyway just because the temptation happened to be strong that day and the food was there.
And obviously both you and I understand that emotions fluctuate but have we really internalized that on a deep level… especially when it comes to women?
If we have, is there really a reason for you to be overly upset when a girl says she’s not into your type or she says she’ll never ever fuck you in her lifetime.
Because she may very well mean it at the time she says it but that does not mean that’s how she’s going to feel forever about you.
It’s funny because that is exactly what one of the girls told me once.
I accidentally pissed off the girl.
And she got very mad at me and told me there’s no way she would ever do anything with me in her lifetime.
I’ll probably go into detail of the story in some of my other articles…
But long story short, I ended up sleeping with her just because we ended up at a place where we were left alone together and I knew how to turn a girl on.
The next point I really want to emphasize is this.
And that is, whatever someone says to you, especially if it’s negative, it often is a reflection of what’s going on in their inside and often has nothing to do with you.
For example, I left a link to one of my videos on this big forum about a week or two ago.
And these two guys left comments just criticizing the heck out of me.
But I had already internalized this principle, that whenever people resort to personal insults, it is often just a reflection of the battle they are having in their own head with their insecurity and misery.
Out of curiosity, I decided I would check their post history to see what kind of comments they leave on other people’s posts.
As I had predicted, more than 90% of their comments were filled with these bitter and angry comments.
Let me also note that sometimes it doesn’t always manifest as a direct criticism.
Some of them will often try to subtly get on your nerves by saying something that is disguised as constructive criticism or a genuine question.
It may very well appear as a genuine question on the surface but it is often their attempt to leave a dent on you without making their intention too obvious.
And how do I know this?
Because I’ve been that guy before.
I’ve been on the internet forever and been through a period where I was an active troll, so I’m very aware of their psychology.
Anyway, let’s tie this back into girls.
The next time a girl tells you, “I’m sorry I’m not into a short guy… I’m not into an ugly guy… I’m not into Asian guy”…
It often just means their brain is filled with all these miserable thoughts and they are trying to project that negativity onto you.
Some people might jump in and say, “Oh, but aren’t the girls just being honest?”
And let me just tell you this…
When my life is happy and I feel life is easy and everything’s going well, my version of being honest is, “Sorry, I know plenty of my friends who would absolutely love to have a chance to go on a date with you but you just don’t happen to be type”.
On the other hand…
When I’m not so content with my life then my version of being honest is, “Sorry, I’m not into fat girls, come back later after you lose a few more pounds”.
Because I subconsciously want to project my misery onto others and bring them down to my level.
So, isn’t that really the case for most people?
Aren’t most people really just using being “honest” as an excuse to shoot other people down to their level.
Just really ponder on that…
And I want to talk about one more point before I end this video.
So far we’ve mostly talked about why you shouldn’t give too much weight to negative thoughts.
But I do want to point out that the opposite can be just as true.
Say you meet a girl on a night out at the club.
You go up to her and start talking to her and you notice she is instantly hooked onto you.
For the next two hours, you end up having this amazing interaction with her.
Your interaction is playful and sexual, at the same time, you guys also talk about deeper stuff such as your ambition, purpose, and childhood.
You think to yourself, “if there really is such thing as a soul mate, then this girl must be it”.
You just can’t possibly imagine having a better connection with another girl than this girl in front of you.
At the end of the night, she has to leave with her friends and you get her number.
You guys make out for one last time and promise to see each other in a few days.
On your way back home, you start thinking about just how awesome this girl is and how amazing your date is going to be.
Hell… your brain even briefly fantasizes about the image of you raising kids with her and growing old together and living happily ever after.
You think, “F… all this game BS, I don’t need to go out and hit on new girls anymore now that I’ve found that special girl for myself.”
Next day, you wake up and send her a good morning text, “Hey, it was great hanging out with you. Looking forward to seeing you this Wednesday..!”
Hours pass by and there’s no text from her.
You start getting a little bit anxious but tell yourself that maybe she is too busy to answer.
A day passes by and you still don’t hear back from her.
You suddenly remember that you also added her on one of her social media accounts, so you log on to your account to see if you can reach her there…
Only to find out she has blocked you from her account.
So, what the f… happened there?
Was everything just an illusion?
All that emotion you felt and all that connection you felt with her when you guys were together…
Was that all just one-sided feeling?
And here’s the truth.
There is a very good chance that she felt that exact emotion and connection you felt when you guys were together.
She most likely really meant it when she told you she likes you and wants to hang out with you “in that exact moment”.
But, the emotion she felt when she was with you is not the same emotion she feels when she wakes up the next day and she’s completely sober without loud music and her friends.
So, I want to end with this point.
You really need to start adopting that “duality” in your mindset.
On one hand, you have this attitude that there’s always something you could’ve done better to make your interaction even better with girls.
But on the other hand, you also realize that what the girl tells you may often not be what she actually means or it may very well be just a temporary truth.
And you must be okay with whatever that comes out of your interaction with her – whether it be positive or negative.
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