So, I wanted to talk about what muscles are most attractive on a guy and give you some golden nuggets about building muscle in this article since a lot of guys hit the gym these days.
As I discuss in my other articles, you shouldn’t obsess over your physique but if you are going to spend hours of your life per week in the gym then you may as well do it right.
Let’s start out by briefly talking about the most attractive muscle on a guy.
And that is…
Your overall shape.
Think about the times you found a girl physically attractive.
Did you find her physically appealing just because of her tits?… or just because of her ass?
Well, some dudes may certainly say yes to that question.
But generally speaking, it’s her “overall” appearance that makes her sexy and attractive.
So, what then gives men that irresistible physique that all women swoon over?
The answer is simple.
It is having that broad upper body with a smaller waist.
The next logical question to ask is what muscles play the most important role in giving that “broad” appearance (Getting a smaller waist is all about diet which I cover in my other article..).
The most important muscles for your overall shape is your upper back and shoulder.
Your upper back has the most potential to add width to your body and your shoulders give that final touch that completes your physique.
It is, however, important for you to strive for that balanced physique from top to bottom because a proportionate body is the most aesthetically pleasing one.
But what good would it be if I leave you hanging without providing you with instructions on how you can develop that body of a warrior?
These are some conclusions I’ve reached after having lifted in the gym for close to a decade and made a lot of trial and error along the process.
I started out at the age of 19~20 with literally zero sports background and with no coordination whatsoever.
All things considered, I reached a pretty decent level of muscle mass and strength (from being a complete nerd to being able to power clean 315lb at a bodyweight of 195lb).
So you may be able to get a useful tip or two on how you can maximize your muscle growth if you continue reading.
Anyway, how would I recommend beginners to train if they are starting out in the gym?
Here’s the most important principle to keep in mind especially for those who don’t have a strong athletic background.
If you are lacking basic body coordination, your first priority should be to focus on being able to perform all the bodyweight exercises with a correct form.
Push-ups… sit-ups… pull-ups… dips… bodyweight squat… bodyweight lunges.
These exercises form the most basic of the basics.
I made a mistake of jumping into doing compound barbell exercises – bench press, squat, and deadlift – when I didn’t even have enough body coordination to perform basic body weight exercises.
As a result, I completely messed up some of my joints and it has never been the same for the past decade.
You’ve got to be honest with yourself and drop your frigging ego and answer this question.
Am I able to do these bodyweight exercises with proper form?
The key being “proper form”.
If your form is improper then you are just ingraining bad motor pattern and you are wasting your time.
If you are a beginner and you don’t even have enough body awareness to know whether you are doing them correctly or not, then record yourself doing the exercise
Compare your form to the videos of athletes doing those exercises with perfect form.
If your form resembles theirs then you know you are on the right track.
One pro tip: Don’t only pay attention to how your form looks compared to them but also pay attention to the rhythm and tempo of the movement.
Not only do you want to make the movement consistent and accurate but you also want to perform the exercise with a similar rhythm and tempo (of those athletes) from start to finish.
Don’t obsess over how many repetitions you can do for the time being unless your form is dialed in.
I recommend you do these exercises every day. Frequent practice with the focus on proper technique is the key to mastery.
Only do as many sets and repetitions as you can while maintaining perfect form. Do NOT go to the point where your form starts to break down. This would usually mean 3-4 repetitions short of the maximum number of repetitions your body is capable of.
It’s difficult for me to tell you how many sets you are supposed to do for each exercise without knowing where you’re at.
But as a general recommendation, I’d say start with about 5 sets for each exercise.
So, what is next once you get used to doing bodyweight exercises?
It’s time to move onto compound movements.
Here are some of the best compound movements I’d recommend
Barbell squat, deadlift, Barbell bench press, Pull-ups with weights (If you can do more than 10 repetitions on a regular pull-up), Dips with weights if you don’t have any shoulder or elbow problem.
The biggest mistake most beginners (or even intermediates) make is that all their focus is on progressive overload aka increasing weight every time.
This is especially problematic if you don’t even have your form dialed in.
You will end up hitting a plateau really frigging quick without form that is consistent and accurate.
Even if you progress quickly, you will most likely get injured which will force you to take a long break from lifting.
During this phase, you need to apply the same exact principle I had mentioned earlier for training bodyweight exercises.
Do these exercises every single time you are at the gym especially if you are a beginner.
That may be three times a week or four times a week depending on how frequently you train.
Just make sure you do not go near failure on any of these exercises and your focus is strictly on executing the correct form, rhythm, and tempo.
It is NOT about training your “muscle” once or twice a week for the most optimal muscle gainz.
It is about training a correct frigging “movement” so your body remembers the correct motor pattern for each of these exercises.
You need to build a solid foundation during this phase by perfecting techniques for each of these compound exercises.
If you do, I guarantee you will reach your strength and physique goal about twenty times faster than if you didn’t.
People rush into adding more weights without paying attention to their form.
And they end up getting used to terrible forms which takes a long time to unwire, or even worse, they completely destroy their joints in the process.
How many guys do you see at the gym that make no frigging progress whatsoever following a standard split of working your muscle once a week?
Their first mistake is that they haven’t focused on perfecting movements.
Their second mistake is following a routine that’s designed by guys that are on juice (steroids) or people who naturally have an extremely easy time putting on muscle.
The solution to those who are not so blessed with great genetic is to do more frigging volume with proper form while ensuring you don’t push yourself to the limit each session.
It’s just like the guys who are not so gifted with the fastest brain (and I’m one of them).
Not only should they always strive to find the most efficient way to maximize return on their work but they should simply put in more time than people who are more genetically gifted.
As I mentioned earlier in this article, record yourself doing the exercise.
Does your form look at least even 80% accurate as the professional lifters you see on youtube?
If you can’t even perform your exercises like them with your warm-up weight, then you really have no business rushing into adding weights.
On a side note, if you are looking for lifters to compare for your squat and deadlift techniques, make sure you follow Olympic weightlifters instead of Powerlifters.
Most weightlifters put a lot more emphasis on their form compared to Powerlifters so it would be in your best interest to model their form.
Make sure to also pick a lifter with a similar height, arms and leg length as your body when you are comparing your form to another lifter.
The proper movement on each exercise can vary greatly depending on how an individual is built.
All your focus on this stage is to master the movement of squat, bench, deadlift, pull-ups, and dips.
If you can drop your frigging ego and you are actually willing to endure this stage, then you will be surprised at just how quickly you can progress both in terms of strength and size.
Remember, it is not about growing muscle at this stage but to master the movement.
Once you are past the previous two stages I discussed in this article, you can really do whatever the eff you want.
You can go on push and pull routine training each body part twice a week while progressively overloading.
You can hop on a Powerlifting routine if you are more focused on strength.
Whatever you decide to do, everything will become gazillion times more effective after having mastered the most fundamental exercises.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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