It is no secret that women like muscles on men.
Women have a tough time ignoring a set of strong muscular arms that are covered in bulging veins.
But, what muscles do women find most attractive on a guy?
We will answer that question in this article.
We will also go into detail about some of the most effective ways to put on muscles.
I want to emphasize, however, that you do not want to obsess over your physique.
It can be very detrimental for your mental well being and may even lead to development of body dysmorphia.
But, if you are going to spend several hours of your life a week in the gym, then you may as well do it right.
So, without further ado, let’s get right into it.
First and foremost, the most important part of an aesthetic physique that appeals to woman is…
Your overall shape.
Think about the times you found a girl physically attractive.
Did you find her physically appealing just because of her breasts or butts?
Some men may confidently say yes to that question.
But generally speaking, it’s a woman’s overall shape (The hourglass shape, to be specific) that captures men’s attention.
And it really is no different for girls.
Girls are also into men with a smaller waist and a wide upper body.
A man’s V-shape lets a girl know that he is strong and has the ability to protect her if there is any danger.
So, which muscles specifically give men that irresistible shape all women swoon over?
The most important muscles for a V-shape are your upper back and shoulders.
Your upper back has the most potential to add overall width to your body, and your shoulders give a final touch that completes your physique.
But, you still want to strive for that balanced physique by working on all of your muscles from top to bottom because there is no glory in having toothpick legs.
What is the best way to develop that aesthetically pleasing physique, so you can become a strong, confident man?
These are some conclusions I’ve reached after having consistently lifted weights for close to a decade (and a lot of trial and error along the way).
I started going to the gym at the age of 19~20 with zero sports background and no coordination in my body.
But, with enough hard work and consistency, I managed to reach a quite decent level of muscle mass and strength (from being a complete out-of-shape nerd to being able to power clean 315lb at a bodyweight of 195lb).
So, I believe I have a useful tip or two on how you can maximize your muscle growth.
Here is my recommendation if you are a beginner who is just starting out.
Let me just note that this is singlehandedly the most important rule to keep in mind if you are starting without a strong athletic background.
If you lack basic coordination, your first priority should be to focus on being able to perform all of the bodyweight exercises with correct forms.
I’m talking about exercises, such as push-ups, sit-ups, pull-ups, dips, bodyweight squat, and bodyweight lunges.
These exercises form the foundation for everything.
I made a mistake of jumping into doing compound barbell exercises (bench press, squat, and deadlift) when I didn’t have enough coordination to even perform basic body weight movements.
And as a result, I damaged my joints, and they have never been the same since.
You’ve got to be honest with yourself, drop your ego, and answer this question.
Are you able to even do bodyweight exercises with control and proper form?
If you are using incorrect forms, then you are just ingraining bad motor pattern, and you are essentially wasting your time.
If you are a beginner and you haven’t yet developed enough body awareness to know whether you are doing them correctly, I recommend you record yourself doing the exercise.
Compare your form to the videos of athletes doing the same exercises with good form.
If your form resembles theirs, then you know you are on the right track.
One pro tip: Don’t just pay attention to how your form looks compared to them, but you also want to pay attention to the rhythm and the tempo of the movement.
Not only do you want your movement to look accurate, but you also want to perform the exercise with a consistent rhythm and tempo from start to finish.
Don’t obsess over how many repetitions you do as of right now unless your form is dialed in.
I recommend you do these exercises every single day.
Frequent practice with the focus on proper technique is the key to mastery.
Only do as many sets and repetitions as you can while maintaining perfect form.
Do NOT go to the point where your form starts to break down.
This would usually mean 3-4 repetitions short of the maximum number of repetitions your body is capable of.
It’s difficult for me to tell you how many sets you are supposed to do for each exercise without knowing where you’re at.
But as a general recommendation, I’d say start with about 5 sets for each exercise.
So, what’s next once you get used to doing bodyweight exercises?
It’s time to move onto compound movements.
Below are some of the best compound movements I’d recommend.
Barbell squat, deadlift, Barbell bench press, Pull-ups with weights (If you can do more than 10 repetitions on a regular pull-up), Dips with weights if you don’t have any shoulder or elbow problem.
The biggest mistake most beginners (or even intermediates) make is that all of their focus is on progressive overload (aka increasing weight every time).
This is especially problematic if you don’t have a good, consistent form.
You will end up hitting a plateau really quick without first mastering your form.
And even if you make a good progress for a while, you are going to end up getting injured, and you will be forced to take a long break from lifting.
So, I can’t emphasize enough about the importance of prioritizing your form over weight.
During this phase, you need to apply the same exact principle I had mentioned earlier regarding training bodyweight exercises.
You want to do these exercises every single time you are at the gym especially if you are a beginner.
That may be three times a week or four times a week depending on how frequently you go to the gym.
Just make sure you do not push to failure on any of these exercises, and put your focus on executing the correct form, rhythm, and tempo.
I want you to realize that this is NOT about training your muscle once or twice a week for the most optimal ‘muscle gainz’.
It is about training a correct movement, so your body remembers the correct motor pattern for each of these exercises.
You need to build a solid foundation during this phase by perfecting techniques for each of these compound exercises.
If you do, I guarantee you will reach your strength and physique goal about twenty times faster than if you rushed the process of mastering the movement.
People are quick to adding more weights without paying attention to their form.
And their body gets used to terrible forms which takes forever to unwire, or even worse, they make permanent damanges to their body in the process.
How many guys do you see at the gym that make no progress following a standard split of working your muscle once a week? Too many to count.
How are you supposed to get enough repetitions to master the movement when you are only performing 3 sets of 5 repetitions (15 total repetitions) in one week?
When you are starting out, you want to treat lifting as if you are learning a new sport.
The second most common mistake is following a routine that’s designed by guys that are on steroids, or people who naturally have an extremely easy time putting on muscles.
Here is my suggestion to those who are not so blessed with great genetics (as I am).
You must do more volume with proper form while making sure you don’t push yourself to the limit (so your body can quickly recover) each session.
Think about this for a moment.
Let’s say you are not so gifted with the most well-functioning brain.
Not only should you constantly strive to find the most efficient way to get your work done (whether it is your school or work performance), but you also have to just put in more time if you want to compete with those who are more gifted than you.
It really is no different when it comes to building muscle.
You have to do more work if you want to compete with someone who has better genetics. But, you also need to train smart and not push yourself to the absolute limit each time you train.
Once again, it is important that you record yourself doing the exercise especially if you are not training with a qualified coach.
Does your form resemble even 80% of those professional lifters you see on youtube?
If your form is not even consistent with a warm-up weight, then you really have no business rushing into adding weights.
As a side note, if you are looking for lifters to compare for your squat and deadlift techniques, I advise you to follow Olympic weightlifters instead of Powerlifters.
Most weightlifters put a lot more emphasis on their form compared to Powerlifters, so it would serve you well to model their techniques.
I also want you model a lifter with a similar height, arms and leg length as the way your body is built.
The proper movement on each exercise can look very different depending on how an individual’s body is shaped.
All your focus at this stage should be on mastering the movement of squat, bench, deadlift, pull-ups, and dips.
If you can drop your ego, and you actually manage to endure this painful period of perfecting your forms, you will be surprised at just how quickly you can make progress, both in terms of strength and size.
Once you have mastered a correct technique for each of these exercises, everything else will come easy, and you are free to follow whatever routine you please.
You can go on a push and pull routine if you are focused on growing muscles, or you can jump on a Powerlifting routine if you are focused more on strength.
Whatever you decide to do, everything will work a lot better once you have mastered these fundamental exercises.
As a final note, don’t forget to work on your personality as much as you work on your muscles.
Your muscles alone are not going to serve you well with the ladies if you’ve got the personality of a rock.
I wish you the best of luck!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
Please log in again. The login page will open in a new tab. After logging in you can close it and return to this page.