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So, what is the best way to make a girl desire you over text?
Is such a thing even possible?
Let’s talk about that.
If you are trying to make a girl want you over text, you first need her attention.
If she is not replying back to you, then you have nothing to work with.
So, what should you text a girl to get her attention?
You don’t want to over-complicate the first text message you send her.
The point of the first text message is to gauge a girl’s level of interest and see where she stands.
So, I recommend you simply text her something that is simple, such as asking her how she is doing.
If she replies back promptly and she asks questions back, then that is a great sign there is at least some level of interest.
On the other hand, if a girl doesn’t reply, or she doesn’t bother asking questions back, she is likely not that into you at this moment.
If she is receptive to your first text message, then there is no reason for you to over-complicate things.
Many men make a mistake of having a long pointless conversation over texts before they even go on a date with a girl.
What do you think that does to her interest level?
If you believe a girl will feel a stronger attraction toward you as a result of you guys having an in-depth conversation over texts, then you are mistaken.
In fact, it will often backfire by killing a girl’s curiosity for you.
It is important that there is a certain mysteriousness about you when a girl is first getting to know you.
Otherwise, you will become incredibly boring in her eyes if your thoughts are an open book to her.
So, I recommend you minimize the amount of conversation you have with her over text.
Save that for when you meet her in person.
Text messaging is best used to figure out each other’s schedules and set up a date.
If she promptly replies back to your first couple of messages, cut to the chase by setting up a date to hang out.
What should you text a girl if she doesn’t reply back?
But before we talk about what you should text to get her to reply, I want to point out one of the most common mistakes that you want to avoid when texting a girl.
Avoid double and triple texts
When you text a girl, you want to avoid sending more than two messages in a row.
A lot of men get excited when they get a girl’s number for the first time, and they make a mistake of double and triple texting her without getting any replies back.
It will make you appear a little too enthusiastic and needy when a girl sees that you sent her three text messages in a row.
Your value will quickly drop in a girl’s eyes, and her perception of you will change from a ‘cool guy’ to a ‘needy and desperate man’.
Avoid asking more than two to three things in one text message
You also want to avoid the mistake of asking more than one thing in your text message.
You want to minimize the chance of hearing a no from a girl when you send her a text message.
The more you hear no from a girl, the more likely she will say no to your future requests.
There is an inherent bias in our brain called the ‘commitment and consistency’ bias.
This bias refers to our tendency to act in accordance with our initial commitment.
According to this principle, we would likely continue to be friendly to someone if we started off our relationship on a positive note with that person.
By the same token, if you start off your relationship with a girl by hearing a lot of no’s from the start, she will likely stay consistent with her initial behaviors by continuing to say no to you.
Have you ever had times in your life where you were nice to someone, and you found it difficult to say anything negative to that person even when you needed to?
It is extremely difficult to suddenly change the way we treat another person.
If you were nice to someone from the start, you will continue to be nice to that person and vice-versa.
Anyway, I hope that gave you a better understanding of why you want to minimize the number of times you hear no’s from a girl, whether it be over text or in person.
How to get a girl to respond if she is not interested
Let’s now talk about some of the things you can do if a girl is not very responsive to you over text.
My first recommendation is to move on from a girl.
I personally hate holding onto a girl who does not have the same level of interest as I do for her.
But, if you can’t let go of your desire to give it a second shot before you give up, you will soon learn the best possible method to maximize your chance of getting a not-interested girl to respond.
I need to warn you, however, that this may feel a little manipulative depending on your views.
If that is how you feel, I want you to think of it as giving a girl the opportunity to get to know you.
If you think highly of yourself, you shouldn’t feel bad about going the extra mile to help her realize that you are a man who can bring value to her life, and if that means using a little psychological trigger to get your foot in the door, then so be it.
With that out of the way, let’s now talk about the most powerful way to get a girl to respond over text.
You first need to realize a girl is not responding to your text because she is just not that attracted to you.
In such a case, it is not going to help you to bombard her with even more text messages.
Girls who are not into you are not going to suddenly have a change of heart because you act more needy and desperate.
So, what is the most powerful psychological trigger you can arouse in a girl to get her to respond?
It is curiosity.
A lot of expert marketers rely on arousing our curiosity to get us to stop and watch their advertisements (and ultimately buy their products).
Let’s say you are walking down the street, and you see a gorgeous girl.
You will probably notice her and think she is beautiful, but it is unlikely you will stop and stare at her.
But, let’s say you are walking down the street and you see a car all crunched up in the middle of the street. There is a good chance you will stand there and observe, so you can figure out what is going on.
We all have inherent desires to fill in the gap when we are faced with uncertainty.
So, we now understand how powerful it is to trigger a girl’s curiosity to get her to respond, but how do we actually apply this information in practice?
There are just two principles you need to keep in mind.
1. Do not reveal all of the information in your text
You obviously shouldn’t reveal all of the things you want to tell her over text if you want to arouse her curiosity.
Write enough words to arouse her curiosity but keep the main point ambiguous.
2. Make it relevant to her
It is not going to be as effective for you to try to get her curious about you when she is not into you, to begin with.
A better strategy is to talk about something that is relevant to her.
Girls (and men as well) are so self-obsessed that they can’t help but wonder what others think of them.
When you hint to her in your text that what you are about to reveal is something that is related to her, she will want to find it out.
“Hey, I probably shouldn’t say this because I don’t want you to get mad. But I figured it’s important for you to know.”
Imagine you were a girl receiving that text message, do you think you’d be able to resist yourself from asking what the heck the person wants to say?
Not only are you arousing her curiosity, but you are also implying it is something that is emotionally relevant to her by telling her that she may get mad once she finds out what you are about to tell her.
No girl is going to be able to resist asking what it is that you want to say in such a scenario.
But, what do you do after you arouse her curiosity to make her want you?
That is what the next section is about.
I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but you are NOT going to make her want you over text.
We already talked about arousing a girl’s curiosity over text in the previous section.
So, how do you transform that curiosity into an attraction?
You do that by picking up your phone.
There is only so much you can communicate with words alone.
And if you continue your conversation over texts after arousing her curiosity, things are going to fizzle out quickly once she realizes you actually don’t have much to say.
But, it is a different story when you get her on the phone.
When you are talking to a girl on the phone, your ‘energy’ is going to have a much bigger influence on her perception of you rather than the words you speak.
Your confidence, how comfortable you sound, and if your tone carries a positive or negative energy, will all have a much greater influence on how she feels towards you.
If you can convey you are a cool and easygoing person over the phone, she is not going to care when she finds out you sent her ‘curiosity text’ as a cute little trick to get her on the phone.
So, pick up your phone and call her, and you can thank me later!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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