Is She Losing Interest?

Have you ever wondered if a girl is losing interest in you?

This article will reveal the telltale signs of a girl losing interest in you.

And I’m confident some of these signs will catch you off guard.

Do not miss the last sections of this article as I go into detail about what exactly you can do to maintain her interest for a long time.

Without further ado, let’s dive right in.

Is she losing interest or is she just busy

But, I first want to clear up this point before we delve into talking about signs she is losing interest.

When a girl doesn’t seem too excited to spend time with you, you may wonder if she is losing interest or if she is simply too busy to respond.

And for you to answer that question, I want you to think about the time when you were really attracted to someone.

Did your busy life stop you from responding to her?

Did you refuse to see her for a few weeks because you were too busy?

A desire to be with someone we find attractive is one of the strongest desires that we all possess.

When you are really into someone, your logical brain is going to shut off, and you will go out of your way to make time for that person even if you are operating on two hours of sleep.

If a girl doesn’t seem to be willing to put a lot of effort into spending time with you, then there is only one logical answer (apart from rare scenarios, such as a death in the family or being diagnosed with a terminal illness).

She is just not that into you.

You simply do not have enough value in her eyes for her to go through all the hassle to make time for you.

This is why it is usually better to move on from a girl who doesn’t show high levels of interest rather than clinging onto her.

Sure, it is not entirely impossible for you to score certain girls with enough persistence.

But, you need to ask if it is worth the effort.

There are hundreds and thousands of girls out there who are as attractive as her (if not more) that are more than happy to get to know you.

It simply doesn’t make any sense for you to hang onto a girl who doesn’t reciprocate.

With that being said, let’s now delve into talking about the signs of a girl losing interest in you.

1. A girl contacts you less frequently

This is a no-brainer.

When a girl starts to contact you less, it is a good indicator that she is losing interest.

This is especially true if she does not give you any legitimate reason as to why she’s been failing to keep in touch with you.

If a girl wants to see you, but she can’t because she is actually busy, then she is going to tell you exactly what is going on in her life that is keeping her from being available.

If she doesn’t put any effort into explaining herself, it just means she does not care.

In such a case, it would be in your best interest to move on from her.

2. She is never really there even when she spends time with you

This is one of those things that you can just sort of instinctively feel.

If it has been a while since she’s looked at you in an intimate way, then she is likely not that into you anymore.

Answer these questions for me.

Does she appear distant and disengaged even when she is hanging out with you?

Does she spend more time looking at her phone rather than looking at you in the eyes when she is with you?

If you said yes to those questions, she probably doesn’t feel the same way toward you as she did when she first met you.

3. She does not want to get physically intimate

When is the last time you guys made love?

Physical intimacy is not everything in a relationship, but it would be foolish to deny its importance.

If there is a lack of physical intimacy in your relationship, then you could argue it really is no more than a glorified friendship. 

Needless to say, a girl starts to lose her desire to get intimate with you when she does not feel attraction to you anymore.

So, if a girl no longer seems to get excited by your touch, and she refuses to have intercourse with you for a prolonged period of time, then she may no longer find you sexually desirable.

I need to note, however, that there can certainly be a few exceptions that may be contributing to her loss of libido, such as stress from work, or hormone fluctuations from medication that she ix on.

4. She constantly talks about another man

Does she frequently bring up another man in a conversation lately?

Maybe, she talks about how your best friend is kind of cute.

Or maybe, she can’t stop talking about her co-worker, and how funny and charming he is.

It is possible she is just doing this to make you jealous.

But, it is also possible that this man (whoever she constantly talks about) is starting to take up a large space in her mind.

The fact that she constantly talks about him means she is regularly thinking about him.

And the more she thinks about him, the more her brain will start to believe that she must really like him for her to be thinking about him so frequently.

As he fills up a bigger space in her mind, she is slowly going to lose interest in you.

5. She is too tired to do anything with you

Does she constantly say she doesn’t have any energy to do anything whenever you suggest to do something?

Maybe, the idea of hanging out with you just does not excite her anymore.

If she would much rather get a few extra hours of sleep over spending time with you, you can safely assume her interest is dying down.

When you are into someone, you forget about how tired you are, because your desire to see that person overrides whatever fatigue you are experiencing.

In fact, you should feel rejuvenated from spending time with someone you love.

If she’d rather be alone than spending time with you, it means she no longer feels that strongly toward you.

So far, we have talked about the signs you should observe when a girl is losing interest.

Let’s shift gears and talk about what you can actually do to prevent a girl from losing interest.

Eradicate your neediness

Stop calling her every few hours.

Stop showering her with compliments all of the time.

When you are too nice all of the time, your niceness will lose its effectiveness.

Your compliments become meaningless when you shower her with compliments twenty times a day.

Your nice acts will no longer supply her with positive emotions if they are available to her at all times.

I am not saying you should never compliment a girl.

But, it is important for you to realize that no one values something that is readily accessible.

So, you should validate her only when she deserves it, and you should give her compliments only when you truly mean it.

Do not be so predictable in her eyes

There is no better way to kill a girl’s interest than becoming predictable in her eyes (especially when she is just getting to know you, but it also applies to a long-term relationship).

Take a moment and answer these questions for me.

Do you always hang out at the same place, and do the same things you guys have always done since you’ve known her?

Do you make love to her the same way you have been making love to her in the past few months (or even years)?

If you said yes to those questions, then is it really a surprise she is losing interest?

It is important that you keep the flame burning, and you don’t take her for granted.

Otherwise, she will look elsewhere to fulfill her emotional needs.

If things aren’t getting better, then they are getting worse.

If your relationship is not continually getting more awesome, then it will only go downhill.

I need to note, however, that there is no reason for you to put effort into making a relationship work unless she is also as motivated as you to make it work.

It takes two people to sustain a healthy relationship.

So, it will be a futile effort for you to put in work to make things work when the girl is not on the same page as you.

Make her realize you have other options

When a girl realizes you have other (and possibly better) options, she is going to chase you harder.

If you can demonstrate to a girl, in a subtle manner, that you are desired by other women, that is about the most effective way to make her want you more.

Women are hardwired to prefer a man that other women find attractive.

When a girl realizes other girls want you, she is going to feel that burning desire to prove that she is the best option out of all.

At that point, you won’t even need to put any effort into keeping her interest.

The mere fact that other girls are interested in you will be enough to get her hooked on you.

So, what is the best way to demonstrate your desirability?

One way is to talk to other girls in front of her.

When these girls laugh at your joke, and they appear highly interested in what you say, that will be more than enough to keep her interested in you.

You can also post a picture of yourself with hot girls on your social media account.

Just be careful not to appear try-hard by only posting pictures of yourself with girls.

Be sure to mix it up with different types of pictures as well.

Do not prioritize her over your purpose

A man who lacks purpose is not a masculine man.

A girl does not want to be the center of your universe.

She is not going to feel attracted to you if you put her on a pedestal.

She wants a man she can respect and admire.

So, you never want to make a mistake of revolving your entire life around a woman.

Her little puppy will fulfill that role better than you ever will.

When a girl realizes she can never fully have all of you (because she knows your purpose comes first), it will make her chase you even more.

I need to warn you, however, that she still has to feel you care for her.

Otherwise, she may leave you as a result of feeling too de-validated by your lack of attention.

The added benefit of prioritizing your purpose is that you will become less needy.

You will spend less time worrying about what a girl is doing, and more time focused on achieving your goal.

I want you to realize that your purpose does not necessarily have to be anything grandiose.

In fact, it can really be anything as long as it is something you are passionate about.

It may be your goal to get into the best shape of your life by working out every single day, or it may be volunteering to help starving kids.

Whatever activity that makes your heart beat a little faster (with passion and excitement) than usual will do.

I want to emphasize this point for one last time.

If she had already lost interest in you, then I advise you to move on.

Don’t waste your time and energy on pursuing a girl who does not reciprocate your level of interest.

You need to start putting yourself first before anyone else.

Not only will you develop greater self-confidence that way, but you will notice that girls start to chase you more when you do not prioritize them.

Anyway, these are about the best pieces of advice I can give on why a girl may be losing interest, and what you can do to reverse that.

I wish you the best of luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.