Is PUA bootcamp worth your time and money… or are you going to be throwing your money down the drain?
To illustrate how I feel about this topic, allow me to briefly tell you a story about a guy named Sam…
Sam was a virgin well into his mid-twenties and he had massive anxiety with talking to women.
He managed to sleep with a few girls here and there from going out for seven years.
But he never got to get with the type of girl he likes.
In fact, most of the girls he hooked up with were drunken out of their minds and… quite nasty to put it lightly.
And guess how many bootcamps he took from PUA instructors?
At least (that I know of for sure) three bootcamps paying well over $2000 for each one of them.
So what was it that was shackling him from transforming himself… despite pumping all that money into coaching and spending years of going out?
Before telling you the reason, let me just say this is where environmental exposure can fall short…
I firmly believe your environment defines who you become in many cases.
BUT, without this… no amount of surrounding yourself with the right people and the right environment will ever allow you to change.
So what was that missing component for Sam..?
It was his muddafvcking mindset…
Yes I know…
You’ve probably heard about the importance of mindset gazillion times.
So, let’s talk about what was so toxic about his mindset… that trapped him in a little box where he just could not escape.
1. He approached his bootcamp training with the mindset of, “Please do something to fix me” as opposed to “I’ll learn everything I can from him (PUA instructor) to get better once and for all”. If you expect people to spoonfeed you everything, then you are always going to fail. And it simply does not matter whether you are in the right environment or hanging out with the best.
2. He put these pua instructors on a massive pedestal. While you certainly do want to be humble and absorb any and every useful information you can learn from the instructor… you also need a degree of what I call a “humble arrogance” about yourself.
You can respect the fact that they have more experience doing this for longer than you have… but also realize you can be as good or better than them in the long run (or any given day for that matter if your game is on…).
Instead, it was not hard to see that he thought lesser of himself compared to these instructors.
If you have such an inferiority complex around guys who you perceive – although it’s just a subjective image you created in your own mind – to be better than you… how can you ever expect any girl to choose you over those guys?
3. He just couldn’t kill those little voices in his head that kept whispering to him… that it’s his height and face that’s holding him back.
You know what’s funny though?
One of his friends who is about 3 inches shorter than him and not better looking than him objectively (5’4 Filipino guy)… had absolutely zero problems getting with cute girls on a weekly basis.
But, his brain decided to shut down any evidence that proved him otherwise.
And only focused on finding evidence that confirmed his beliefs and suspicion – that girls will only hook up with tall, good looking guys with a huge dick.
Whatever your mind pays attention to, your brain starts thinking and believing it must be important.
If all you do is focus your attention on height and looks – actively looking for evidence that confirms your belief – then you will be successful at finding those evidence.
That evidence will serve to strengthen that neural connection in your brain… to the point that you subconsciously start believing height and looks are everything that matter.
And no amount of counter-evidence will ever shatter those beliefs because you’ve successfully managed to cement such a robust belief in your brain.
Your brain will effectively blindfold you in front of any other evidence that goes against your beliefs.
So, it’s vital that you pay attention to what you repeatedly do and say to yourself.
Are you repeating toxic messages that don’t serve you… or are you repeating messages that will ignite the fire within you to transform yourself?
No… not really.
I also know quite a few people who completely turned their life around by taking a pua bootcamp.
One of the big advantages of pua bootcamps is that it can really help to shift your beliefs… that is if you choose the right instructor to work with.
Whatever limiting beliefs you may have been holding for a long time will completely be shattered when you see another person do what you thought was not possible.
And when you believe… you start taking more decisive action.
Most people fall into that infinite loop of dabbling around.
They may not believe that they have what it takes… or they may even have certain pre-existing biases such as that you can’t kiss a girl within 5 seconds of meeting her.
Seeing another human that’s not much different from you do what you never thought was possible… can often serve as a catalyst to get your lazy arse off your couch… and start attacking the things you want in your life with ferociousness.
One final thing I will note is that I highly urge you to learn from someone who shares a similar value with you.
It boggles my mind to see guys having a certain value – such as it’s not right to hit on girls with boyfriend – but decide to learn from someone who shares a complete opposite value to theirs.
You need to learn to value yourself first.
Never sacrifice your own integrity and what you believe in… just because you think you might be able to learn a thing or two from someone.
There’s plenty of others who will share similar core beliefs as you do while also having enough knowledge and experience to help you transform… so you can transform yourself into the person you always knew you could become.
Anyway, that’s enough talking for today…
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