Ah.. those darn mythical pick-up artist…
I remember the day I broke up with my first ex-girlfriend.
I felt completely hopeless and lost because I had no fvcking clue how to meet girls…
To be honest, my ex-girlfriend sort of fell on my lap because she found me charming for whatever reason.
This didn’t help much with my confidence despite finally losing my 26-year-old virginity with her.
Because I felt like I just ended up getting with her out of circumstance and luck.
So when she finally decided to break up with me – after a 2-year long toxic relationship – I had to admit to myself that I’ll die alone if I don’t figure out how to meet girls.
I naturally turned to Google and Youtube – just like you reading this article – to find out if there’s any way I can break this curse of completely sucking with girls once and for all.
But long story short, I came across a plethora of videos and articles on how to pick up girls and the rest is history.
In this article, you’ll learn if hiring a coach is the right decision for you… and what you should be looking for in a coach.
Let’s first start out with…
The answer is actually quite straightforward.
I am a firm believer in environmental exposure. If you have no friends who are good with women (or cold approaching), then there is no doubt it will be worth your investment… IF you find the right coach for yourself… and IF this is something you really want to get better at.
It is one thing to see guys do what they do on Youtube from the comfort of your own home.
It is totally a different experience to actually see another person do… something that is completely out of your reality in person.
Let me give you an example…
Say you accidentally watched a gore video of some person dying in a horrific way. It will most certainly be a traumatizing experience without a doubt.
But say you actually witnessed the same thing happen in person…
How much more emotional impact do you think it would have on you?
You will most likely never be the same person again afterward.
Whatever it may be… witnessing another human do something that is completely out of your reality has much of the same effect.
The emotional impact it has on you will often serve as a catalyst for you to completely transform yourself.
It will finally become real to you and your brain.
Let’s now talk about…
Like I said earlier, if you have a friend who is a natural – who also goes out to pick up girls – then there really is no need to invest in a coach in my opinion.
I’ll have to admit though… it’s incredibly difficult to find a person who is naturally good with women and does cold approaching at the same time.
Usually, guys who are naturally good with women within their comfortable setting – school, work, social setting – don’t cold approach because there simply is no incentive to do so.
If you can, however, find one of those rare species… then cling onto them like a little baby koala bear clinging onto mama bear’s back.
One important thing I need to note… make sure you bring some sort of value to their life if you want them to hang out with you.
Think about it from their perspective.
Why would they want to hang out with you… If you are much less experienced than they are and you have a shit attitude?
If anything, you will become a burden for them when they are trying to pick up girls.
So… always think of ways you can bring some sort of value to them.
You may be asking what are some ways to be the person they wouldn’t mind hanging out with…
There are hundreds of different ways you can accomplish this… but I’ll list a few examples below so it can get you to start thinking…
1. Offer to pick them up and drop them off after a night out.
2. If you are good at something (E.g. lifting) they are interested in, then offer to help them out with that.
3. If they are looking for a job and you have some connection, introduce them to your connection.
4. If you don’t have any of those, just be a positive mo-fo when you are around them. EVERYONE is attracted to someone with a positive and a light-hearted attitude toward life. In fact, you don’t really need anything else if you can just make them feel good being around you. This does take a bit of a social skill which may take some time to develop depending on where you’re at.
To sum up… finding a friend who is good with women will help your progress explode more than anything else.
First, you want to find out if they do what they preach.
Is your goal to get good at cold approaching girls?
Then find out if the coach is actively cold approaching and getting good results.
Is your goal to be that attractive chick magnet wherever you go?
Then find out if the coach knows what the fvck he is talking about on how to become an attractive guy (There is a difference between being a good cold approaching PUA versus Just being a naturally attractive dude…)
Is your goal to find that one girl and maintain a happy long term relationship with that girl?
Then find a coach who will teach you that.
Ultimately, there is no sure-fire way to know with hundred-percent accuracy if the coach will be a right fit for you… before you actually buy their program or hire them as a personal coach.
In such case, just take your best guess and buy their program or enroll for the coaching.
Pretty much everyone in the industry offers a full money back guarantee as far as I know.
So, there really is nothing to lose.
If you genuinely bought their stuff with the intention of staying on their program if it was beneficial… but you end up requesting for a refund because it’s not the right fit… there’s absolutely no reason for you to feel bad about that.
Just don’t let fear hold you back from taking the plunge.
Because nobody ever levels up without pulling that trigger in the first place.
Anyway, hope this gave y’all some clarity on whether you should invest in a pick-up coach or not.
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Till next time.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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