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Are you struggling to eradicate the thought of your ex-girlfriend?
This article will reveal the most proven solutions to forget about your ex once and for all.
Make sure you don’t miss the last section as it talks about the key mindset to get over your ex.
Let’s get started.
When you can’t stop thinking about your ex-girlfriend, I want you to let it out.
When I say let it out, I’m telling you to go ahead and talk about your ex to others.
If you feel like talking massive crap about her, then go ahead and do it.
Doing this will actually help you to let go of her faster.
The more you try to resist her thoughts, the more she is going to linger in your mind.
You obviously don’t want to go around talking crap about her to people you barely know. They are just going to think you are a fool.
But, it is not a bad idea to do this with family members or close friends that you trust.
During the conversation, don’t hesitate to talk about things you absolutely hated about her, and how you probably should’ve dumped her ass long ago.
Is it the most ‘man’ thing to talk badly about your ex-girlfriend behind her back?
But, is it going to help you feel better?
My philosophy on this topic is simple.
Do whatever it takes for you to feel better.
I went out every single night from the very first day I broke up with my ex-girlfriend.
I did not go out and got drunk every single night (that would’ve just made me become more depressed since alcohol is a depressant).
Rather, I went out at night to improve my skill with women.
I would come back home (sometimes alone and sometimes with girls) at around 2 or 3 in the morning after hours of interacting with girls, and I would just collapse onto my bed because I was completely exhausted.
Some dating coaches may argue that you should use break-up as a time to re-discover yourself instead of obsessively chasing other girls.
And I do not particularly disagree with that.
It is definitely a great idea to invest your time in personal growth after a breakup.
But, you first need to get over your ex-girlfriend for your brain to even have any sort of mental capacity to focus on personal growth.
If your head is constantly filled with the thoughts of your ex-girlfriend, you are not going to have a mental reserve to focus on anything else.
And that is where going out and interacting with a lot of different women come in handy.
The more abundance (of female) you have in your life, the less you are likely to obsess over one particular girl.
This will allow you to create enough space in your head to focus on other important things, such as your purpose.
I remember when I was a virgin, and all I could ever think about were girls.
When a random girl smiled at me, I would replay that for hours wondering if she liked me or not.
That is precisely what happens when your brain is operating in a scarce mindset.
You can’t help but obsess over miniscule stuff because your basic (sexual and emotional) needs are not met.
But, it is a completely different story when you have a lot of girls to choose from.
You will start to realize that there was nothing particularly special about your ex-girlfriend.
You will begin to talk to girls who you have much better chemistries with, and your ex will fade into distant memory.
Do yourself a favor and cut off contact with her.
You are not doing yourself any good by receiving text messages from her, or repeatedly seeing her pictures on your social media accounts.
It is possible you struggle to cut off contact with her because there is a glimpse of hope in you that she may try to re-initiate contact with you.
It was no different for me.
Whenever I was about to delete her contact information from my social media accounts or block her from my phone, I would think, “But… what if she tried to get ahold of me? I will forever throw away my chance to get back with her…”
But, that was simply a sign that I hadn’t completely moved on from her.
You know deep down that things are not going to work out between you and her.
If it was going to work out, you guys would not have broken up in the first place.
There is obviously a clear mismatch between the two of you that won’t be resolved anytime soon.
This doesn’t mean things can’t change in the distant future, but it does mean you should delete her out of your life for the time being.
If you really want to remain as friends with her, I advise you delete her out of your life for at least half a year to one year.
That is a long enough timeframe for you to realize there really was nothing special about your ex-girlfriend (if you used that time to meet a lot of other women and improve yourself).
If you STILL want to be friends with her after that, then you can go ahead and do what you want.
But more often than not, you will have no desire left to keep in touch with her at that point.
Right now, you can’t stop thinking about your ex-girlfriend because you are obsessed with her.
You’ve spent a lot of time with her, and you guys probably share a lot of memories together.
In such a case, it is only natural for you to struggle to let go of her.
So, what possibly is the best way to get over an obsession?
My answer to that question is this.
One obsession is best replaced by another obsession.
Reflect back on your life and think about anything that you were addicted to, whether it be video games, porn, or sports.
Take a moment to think about how you beat that addiction.
You will often realize your addiction was replaced by another addiction (hopefully, something that didn’t damage your mental and physical well-being).
So, if you are struggling to stop obsessing over your ex-girlfriend, I advise you to look for another obsession.
What are you into (or what do you want to get into)?
It can really be anything, such as starting martial arts, going to the gym, or starting a business.
You just need to be careful not to pick an obsession that will make the quality of your life worse.
Ideally, you also want it to be something where you can interact with other people.
For me, this was going to the gym.
Going to the gym and lifting allowed me to improve my body while meeting a great group of people who turned out to be lifelong friends.
You do not want to spend too much time alone when your wound is still fresh after a breakup.
The more alone time you have, the more your head is going to be filled with the thought of your ex-girlfriend.
As much as you may want to be left alone in your room, I urge you to try to spend more time with others.
It will help you reduce the amount of time you think about your ex.
Be honest with me for a second.
You probably fear you will never be able to find someone better than your ex.
You feel there is a special type of connection between you and her that may be impossible to replicate with other women.
You worry you will never be able to find someone that you can share your intimate details with.
And I can assure you those are all just illusions you created in your head.
I had the exact same fear when I broke up with my first girlfriend.
I was afraid I would never be able to find someone who would love me as much as my ex-girlfriend did.
But, I had to get over that fear and push myself to meet other girls.
As a result, I’ve met some of the most amazing women in my life only because I allowed myself to open up to those women after a breakup.
I want you to do the same.
I want you to shut off those little voices in your head.
I want you to have a faith that you will soon find a woman who is much more compatible with you than your ex.
With such a mindset, it is only a matter of time before you find an amazing girl for yourself.
As long as you are willing to step out of your comfort zone by initiating an approach when the opportunity arises, good things will soon happen.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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