How To Text A Girl

I seriously debated whether I should publish this article or not.

Because I know just how powerful this principle can be in practice when talking or texting girls.

In fact, I used this principle to make a girl who did not even know my face and name to come out and see me.

Sounds impossible? But you want to know what’s even more crazy?

She was planning on going on a date with one of my friends that day, and I managed to make her completely ignore him to come and see me instead just with a few simple texts.

At the end of this article, I’ll give you a full story of exactly how I managed to pull that off from start to finish

But, let’s first start off with some general advice you can use right now to get the girl of your dreams to come meet you.

How to text a girl you just met

This is a good place to start because the first thing you are probably wondering is what is that first text you should send her to initiate a conversation.

Most dating coaches are likely to have two types of opinion

1. One coach would tell you that you should assume you are a high-value guy, and shouldn’t waste any effort over-thinking what you text. They would tell you to simply ask her out and don’t waste any time or effort into your texting.

2. Another coach would go into this obscene amount of over-analysis and incredibly detailed theories and ideas on what you should text her.

For me, I believe the answer lies somewhere in the middle as with anything else in life.

As much as we would love to think a normal text should suffice, it doesn’t quite work like that in reality.

I used to think the same way. As a man who respects himself, why the hell would I put much effort into texting? She should just be happy to come see me when I ask her out.. right?

But, if you actually put some thoughts into it, that logic doesn’t quite make sense.

You see.. people who know how to truly fulfill our needs (whether that’s emotional or physical) are the ones that become irreplaceable and a so-called high-value person in our eyes.

You don’t get there by having this weird sense of entitlement that the person or the girl you’re interacting with should just automatically be all over you.

You become irreplaceable and high-value in the girl’s eyes by making her realize that you are the man who can fulfill her emotional needs (and also physical down the road) better than any man she will ever come across.

I do believe, however, you should never send a text to impress her or try to get her to like you.

What exactly should you text her then?

Should you send her a text that will make her smile and get her filled with positive emotions?

One principle that triumphs above all when you text a girl you like

So what is the principle you should keep in mind when you text her?

The general answer is whatever that evokes her emotion.

But, more specifically, a text that evokes her curiosity.

It is no secret in the world of marketing that curiosity is one of the most powerful triggers that get people to take action.

If evoking curiosity is good enough to make millions of people pull out their credit card to spend their hard-earned money, then it is good enough to get a girl to come out and see you in my opinion.

So, how exactly do you apply this in principle?

Well, this is a link to my article where I go into a much greater detail on how you can apply this curiosity principle in your text.

I don’t want to waste any of your time by repeating those details here, because I want to dive right in with my personal story of just how powerful this principle can be in practice. 

The power of curiosity in practice.. The story I probably shouldn’t tell.

Let me first start off saying that I am not proud one bit about what I’m about to tell you.

And it’s the type of behavior that I would probably never engage in again, but I do think it’s important to keep everything transparent and clear with you.

With that out of the way, let’s dive into the story.

I was living in Australia at the time and had a friend (let’s call him Sam) visit my city for 3 days from the other part of the state

He was a good friend of mine and the rest of my friends I regularly went out with.

So, when he arrived, we started going out all day and all night to hit on girls.

The second day we were out, Sam got a number from this one girl and they ended up having a short but memorable time together.

Before he left, he passed her number to me and the rest of my friends and told us we should hit her up.

*Yes.. it probably sounds pretty fucked up to some of you but that’s what we used to do. Passing girl’s numbers to each other because none of us actually cared about any of the girls we slept with. It’s not exactly the past I’m proud of but I want to keep it real with you guys.

So, one of my friends (Let’s call him Rob) had already met her in person because Sam was staying at his place, and he was there when Sam brought her back to his home.

After Sam left the city, Rob decided he would hit her up first. Then, the plan was for him to introduce me to her afterward (Yes.. starting to sound even more messed up but every one of us was so de-sensitized at the time).

Long story short, Rob did end up sleeping with her.

I would also like to note that during the times we went out, we made a vow to push everything as far as we can because we wanted to discover the real truth of the female mind. We wanted to find out how female minds actually operate, and not a watered down BS of what society would like to make us believe.

Anyway, when I asked Rob when he’s going to introduce me to her (as we had initially planned), he said he doesn’t feel like doing that anymore. I told him that’s not what he told me initially and he simply told me, “I can do whatever the fuck I want.”

Now, that is the moment my male ego kicked in.

I told him I’ll just make it happen myself, and he told me I can try to do whatever I want.

Since I already had her number from Sam, I decided to send her (Let’s call her Monica) a simple text, “Hey Monica.”

She replied asking, “Who is this?”

As soon as I received her text, I dialed her number and she answered my call (A great strategy to get the girl on the phone).

When she answered my call, I began singing “Hello.. (Lionel Richie song)”, and she bursted out laughing asking who this is?

This is what I told her. “I was actually hanging out with Sam when he got your number. You didn’t see me but I saw you that day and thought you’re pretty cute.”

We then proceeded to talk about normal stuff like school, where we’re from etc and I told her she should come hang out with me for a bit next week.

She told me, “Uh… I’m not too sure. I don’t even know you (which is a genuine concern because she didn’t know my face nor name).”

I just asked her if she likes bubble tea and she replied saying, “Dang.. I actually do like bubble tea.”

I then told her, “Ok then just meet me for a bubble tea on Wednesday. How’s that?”

She kind of gave me a half-assed yes and we hung up that night

Rob was beside me the entire time while all this was happening and he was visibly pissed off.

I tried to calm him down by saying he’s leaving the city for good in 3 weeks and it doesn’t make any sense for him to feel any sort of attachment to her.

And that it’s just his ego kicking in so he should calm down, which was quite hypocritical on my part because I was only doing this because of my ego as well.

Anyway, fast forward a few days, I get a text from Monica the day before we were supposed to meet.

She said she’s actually just going to meet up with Rob so she won’t be able to show up.

I already sort of predicted this may happen and thought to myself, what are some ways I could possibly get her out..?

Now.. this is when I discovered a true power of ..

Yup. you guessed it.


So, what did I text her..?

I simply texted her this.

First text: “I see. Oh well .. that’s too bad. I actually wanted to tell you something about Rob and Sam that you would probably want to know.

Second text: “Actually, it’s probably better that you don’t know because ignorance is bliss sometimes.”

It makes me cringe writing out that text now because it’s incredibly manipulative, and I would not recommend anyone to blatantly deceit the girl (which I did at the time) to get her to see you.

So, take a moment to think how she must have felt when she saw that text?

Her head was probably exploding with curiosity because she had already slept with both of them, and whatever I’m not revealing is clearly something that’s relevant to her.

She almost immediately texted me back saying, she can meet up with me after work tomorrow as we had initially planned.

And she did in fact come out to meet me although she had originally planned to see Rob on that day instead.

At this point, I know many of you guys would be thinking, it’s awesome you got her to come out, but what are you going to tell her when you meet her?

The answer is probably not what you would expect.

You don’t..

All I did was greet her with a smile and she could tell I’m a normal cool dude (although I was clearly fucked in the head at the time).

I told her, we should go get a drink at my favorite place (You can probably guess where that is..).

She came along without questioning anything.

Once we were back at mine, I just chat with her as I normally would with any girl.

And she was so into me by this point that her focus had shifted from wanting to find out about my text to wanting to get to know me instead.

I don’t think I have to elaborate any further on what happened after.

I do want to end this story with an important point, however.

I want you to know I did not derive one bit of fulfillment from having done this.

At the time, I justified my action by telling myself, “Hey, Rob didn’t keep his words first. So why wouldn’t I do whatever I want as well..”

But, as I said earlier, that was just my ego taking over.

So, what point do I want you to take away from this story then?

I simply wanted you to realize the power of curiosity by reading this story because I just couldn’t think of any of my personal examples that illustrate the power of curiosity better than this one.

Especially given all the circumstances I explained above (Her never having seen my face nor even knowing my name, and already having a plan to see the guy (my friend) who she had slept with).

But, I also want you to promise that you won’t abuse this by applying this principle in a manner that is deceitful and manipulative.

If you do, you’ll start to cement your identity as a slimy and creepy dude who is desperate to do whatever it takes to get with girls.

And that is exactly what is going to prevent you from reaching that next level where you can start to form a real connection with the girls you talk to.

If you want to get some ideas about how you can apply this principle with girls you just met and know nothing about then check out this article.

Anyway, that’s it for now.

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Till next time.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.