How To Tell A Girl You Like Her

How do you tell a girl you like her, or should you even tell her you like her?

You will have a clear idea of exactly what you should do to reveal your intention after reading this article.

Let’s jump right into it.

How to tell a girl you like her in person 

So, what is the best way to tell a girl you like her in person?

My honest answer is that it is best to avoid directly telling a girl you like her.

And there are a couple of reasons for this.

When you let a girl clearly know that you like her, you will end up killing a lot of curiosity and tension.

Curiosity and tension play a big role in the initial phase of attraction.

If a girl feels too comfortable around you, that is a great way to be put into the friend-zone.

But, she obviously has to know that you are a real man with a desire.

So, what is the best way to communicate that side of you?

You want to accomplish that with your sub-communication.

The last section of this article goes into detail about what exactly you can do to present yourself as a man who is not ashamed of his sexuality, so do not miss that!

How to tell a girl you like her over text 

The best way to tell a girl you like her over text is to…

Not do it over text.

It may not be what you want to hear, but it is always best to express yourself when you see her in person.

Your text message simply won’t carry the same weight as if you were to tell her that you like her while you are looking into her eyes.

If you still want to communicate your intention over text messages, then here is my suggestion.

I want you to keep your text message brief.

Don’t send a girl a long paragraph about how much you adore her.

That is just going to give off a very needy vibe, and you are just going to put too much pressure on her.

You simply want to send her a short, positive text message that compliments her without too much pressure.

But, when it comes to showing your intention, you want to save that for when you meet her in person.

How to tell a girl you like her without ruining the friendship 

So, you are friends with the girl, and you want to make sure you don’t ruin the friendship in the process of telling her you like her.

How can you accomplish this?

What’s more important than showing your intention is how you interact with her leading up it.

If you act like how you’ve always acted around her before you communicate your intention, she is not going to magically feel something for you.

So, it is important you actually start to carry yourself like an attractive man before letting her know that you like her.

You also want to avoid making the mistake of being too available for the girl.

Men who constantly get friend-zoned are often too catering to the need of a girl.

The more you make yourself available to a girl, the faster you will lose value in her eyes.

Lastly, there is always going to be a chance of things turning out a little awkward when you tell her you like her.

So, you need to ask yourself if the pain of you hiding your true feelings is going to be greater than the possibility of losing friendship with her in the long run.

If you answered yes to that, then you know exactly what to do.

How to tell a girl you like her without telling her 

So, you want to tell her you like her without actually telling her. Some dating coaches may say you are being a little pansy by not being direct with her. But, it’s a fair question to ask.

How can you accomplish this?

First, you can use your body language to tell a girl you like her without explicitly telling her.

You don’t always have to verbalize to let a girl know you are interested in her.

Looking at her with a deep gaze will often do the trick as well.

On top of that, you can tease her or flirt with her. And even ask her out if it feels right to do so.

So, let’s now get into the details on each one of these, so you will never have to worry about her questioning your intention ever again.

Look At Her

Where do you look when you are trying to read someone?

You look at them in the eyes.

Girls look into your eyes to decide if you are the man that deserves to be taken seriously.

Practice your eye contact and turn it into your strongest weapon if you want to communicate to a girl that you like her without verbally telling her.

When a girl looks at you in the eyes, do not abruptly look away.

And do not nervously flinch either.

Hold steady and relaxed eye contact with relaxed facial muscles.

You are communicating to her that you are comfortable in your own skin by doing this.

I do need to emphasize this point, however.

You obviously do not want to be staring into her eyes for the entire duration of the conversation.

That would be just unnatural, and you will weird her out.

As a general rule of thumb, you want to hold eye contact for the entire duration when you are talking to girls.

And you want to look at her in the eyes about 70-80% of the time while she is talking.

If you are staring at her the whole time while she is talking, you will come off as way too eager which is likely to put too much pressure on the girl.

So, a good balance between displaying your confidence and not putting too much unnecessary pressure on her is to look at her in the eyes about 70-80% of the time while she is talking.

It is also important to emphasize that you do not want to nervously look away in an abrupt manner when you break your eye contact.

This communicates your lack of confidence, and that you are not feeling comfortable around her.

This will, in turn, make her feel less comfortable around you.

And she will lose attraction toward you as she associates these negative emotions with you.

So, master your eye contact if you want to let a girl know you like her without verbally telling her.

Give her that deep eye contact that leaves no question where your intention lies.

Flirt With Her

Flirting is another great way to show your intention, but we do have one problem.

Your question is how you can tell her you like her without “directly” telling her.

So, is there any way you can accomplish that with flirting?

And yes, there is.

A great way to accomplish this is to “flip the script” when you flirt with her.

Instead of you being the one to show intent, you “accuse” her of hitting on you.

Whatever she does or says, use that to make it seem like she is the one chasing you.

Let me just give you a list of a few examples so you can better understand.

Example 1

Her: What are you doing this weekend?

You: Hm… I’m not sure yet. Are you asking me out?

Example 2

Her: Where do you live?

You: Let’s slow down a little. You didn’t even take me out for dinner.

Example 3

Her: I’m going home.

You: I can’t go home with you tonight. I need to go take care of my dog.

I am sure you get the drift at this point.

Not only is this type of flirting good for flipping the frame of the interaction, but it also makes it more interesting for a girl since almost no guy talks in such a manner.

Most men usually play a chasing game of trying to win a girl over.

So, when you smoothly imply she is the one who has to chase in a fun, playful way, you will become a breath of fresh air in her life.

Tease Her

While you are not directly (or even indirectly) showing your intent by teasing her, you often end up making her feel attraction toward you as a natural by-product of teasing.

And I am sure that is why you are even wondering how you can show your intention without being obvious.

You don’t actually care about how you should communicate your intention to her.

That is not your primary interest.

What you care about is if she is feeling that attraction toward you as well.

And I can assure you teasing is a great way to make her feel “something” toward you.

And I’m sure you know the girl has to feel “something” in order for her to like and love you.

But, before we talk about teasing, let me first point out one of the most common mistakes men make in their conversation with a girl.

Many men have a habit of defaulting into self-deprecating jokes when they talk to girls.

While self-deprecating jokes have its place in a sense it shows you are “somewhat” carefree about your flaws, overdoing it will just make you come off as insecure.

Playfully teasing her, on the other hand, lets her know you are the one who is “assessing” her.

You are not so worried about what she thinks that you constantly have to make fun of yourself to confirm she is okay with your flaws.

Let me give you a couple of examples of teases to paint a clear picture in your head.

Example 1

You smile like an innocent 8-year-old girl.

Example 2

Why do you look like you are about to cry?

Do you notice how both of those lines are about you making comments about her?

When you tease her, you are indirectly implying you are a higher status than her.

And when she accepts this frame and responds well to your teases, the attraction becomes automatic.

Just make sure you tease her in a playful way, otherwise, it is going to backfire in a lot of cases.

Try to also stay away from teasing her about something that can potentially come off as too offensive especially when you don’t know her that well.

If your sub-communication (Facial expression and vocal tone) is not on point, then there is a good chance you may offend her.

For example, telling her something like, “Your dress reminds of my grandma’s dress” can easily piss a girl off unless you know her, and/or she can clearly tell you are joking.

Don’t make a mistake of confusing teases with insults.

Ask Her Out

I know it’s a crazy concept (sarcasm…), but ask her to hang out with you if you want her to know you like her.

Asking her out is about as direct as you can get without verbally telling a girl you like her.

Unless the girl is completely oblivious, she will understand you are interested in her if you let her know you want to spend more time with her.

So, go ahead and suggest her to hang out with you over the weekend.

Why Bother?

So far, we have talked about “how” you can tell a girl you like her without telling her.

But, I want to talk about “why” it is a good idea to not be so verbally explicit with your intention before we end this article.

When you verbally let your intention known, you end up killing a lot of curiosity, tension, and mystery.

If she is not entirely sure about your intention, she will be curious to find out where your feelings lie.

She is going to spend more time wondering what you are all about.

And it is obviously a good thing to get her to think more about you if you want her to like you.

Because the more we think about something, the more it expands in our minds.

Telling a girl you like her also kills a lot of tension.

When something is implied (your liking toward her) but is not explicitly verbalized, the tension builds up.

If you actually apply some of the tips you read in this article, it will be very obvious to a girl that there is “something” going on.

But, when you don’t verbally state that “something”, it is going to build up the tension between you and her.

While too much tension can be as bad as no tension, the right amount of tension can facilitate the attraction process.

When the tension builds up, it has to be released one way or another.

And, it will usually be in the form of her feeling stronger attraction toward you.

The same exact principle applies to sexual tension.

There is that sexual desire between you and the girl, and it slowly builds up as neither you nor the girl takes the initiative to release it.

Eventually, something (sex) has to happen to release that tension.

And that is how good things happen.

So, play around with tension, and don’t be afraid to use it to your advantage.

As the last point, telling a girl you like her can kill the mystery.

And this alone is a good reason for you to practice showing your intention without verbally telling her.

The mystery gets her curious about you. It gets her to want to know more about you.

That “ambiguity” in your intention will make her want to chase you more.

What is there to chase when you are predictable, and she feels she knows you like the back of her hand?

Anyway, these are about the best advice I can give on how you can tell a girl you like her without telling her.

All that’s left now is for you to go out there and apply what you’ve learned!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.