How To Talk To Girls At The Gym

So, why would you even want to approach a girl at the gym in the first place?

Well, gym attracts some of the most beautiful and healthy girls out there, and I think that alone is a good enough reason to talk to girls at the gym.

To put things into perspective, your “average” fit gym girl is most likely as attractive as a “gorgeous” girl you see at the club with her caked up face.

On top of that, most gym girls have more discipline and self-control than a lot of girls you meet elsewhere, which are all positive qualities you want in a woman (Yes, I am also aware that there is a lot of attention-wanting gym girls out there who are narcissistic).

So the real question is, why wouldn’t you want to talk to girls at the gym?

And with that out of the way, let’s talk about the best ways to initiate your approach and talk to girls at the gym.

Be social with everyone

The first and foremost rule of approaching and talking to girls at the gym is to be social with everyone.

Many men make a mistake of “sniper approaching” a girl when they are training at the gym, and this is about the worst thing you can do when it comes to picking up a girl at the gym.

When you only approach women, you make it blatantly obvious for everyone around you that your sole goal of talking to girls is to pick them up.

On the other hand, if you talk to everyone including men, women, older people, receptionists, etc, you just appear as a cool social guy.

Once you become friends with most people in the gym, you are going to be perceived as a high-status man there.

When girls have already experienced a little dose of your personality by watching you interact with others, and she knows that you are a normal dude, she will be a lot more receptive to being approached by you at the gym.

So, don’t limit yourself and get to know everyone there.

How to approach a girl at the gym

So, you have become a social butterfly at your gym, but how do you actually initiate a conversation with a girl at the gym?

Well, it is actually quite easy if you have successfully completed the previous step.

Once you know most people at the gym, you will notice your gym friends training in every corner of the gym.

And there is a good chance one of your many gym friends is going to be near the girl you want to approach.

While you are taking a break between your sets, you want to walk up to your friend who is working out near the girl you are interested in.

You then go ahead and talk to him with good energy, and let the girl experience a little bit of your personality before you even approach her.

Be playful and speak with a clear, confident voice while you talk to your friend.

When you notice she is taking a break, and you see her paying a little more attention to you and your friend, you can smoothly transition into initiating a conversation with her.

There really is no reason to over-think at this point, you can practically say anything to invite her to join in on a conversation.

You have already established your value by demonstrating you are a sociable guy, and she has experienced your positive energy. Now, you just need to open your mouth and say something.

If you can’t think of anything to say, simply say, “Hey, I see you here all the time. Are you training for a competition?”

Take it slow

You tend to see the same people over and over again, especially if you go to the gym around the same time every day.

Generally speaking, you want to play a long game if you want to maximize your chance of picking up girls at the gym.

There is no reason to rush to get her number or try to show way too much intent from the get-go.

You obviously need to approach and initiate a conversation with a girl one way or another

But, do not be so eager to ask her out the first time you open your mouth to talk to her.

Take your time and let her slowly fall for you as she gets to know you better. There is nothing more unattractive than a man who appears needy and desperate.

One of the guys I knew at the gym made this mistake of going for a girl’s number the first time he would talk to her.

Needless to say, it did not take too long until the words spread among girls, and many of them avoided him like a plague.

Always be the first one to leave

This is also an important rule you need to keep in mind when talking to a girl at the gym.

You never ever want the girl to see you as this annoying guy who constantly disrupts her from having a good workout.

Before you even talk to her, you want to observe what type of workout she is doing and how long she is taking a break between her sets.

And you want to be mindful of that when you talk to her. If you notice she is taking a short break between her sets, you want to make sure you keep your conversation very brief.

If she usually takes a long break, and she looks rather bored while she is resting, you can probably have a longer conversation with her.

But whatever the case may be, you want to make sure you are the first one to leave the interaction at all times.

If her body language clearly says she wants to go back to doing her set, but you keep trying to engage her in a conversation, then she is going to label you as that annoying meathead she should avoid.

Don’t ask for multiple numbers at the same time

You need to realize that girls talk to other girls at the gym.

If you are hitting on two (or more) girls at once, it is very possible one of them will bring you up while she is talking to another girl (that you are also hitting on), and it is just going to get ugly from there.

You do not want to be mass approaching and collecting one number after another in a somewhat social environment like a gym. You can trust me that you will soon develop a reputation as a creep if you do that.

And this is especially true if you go to a university gym where everyone sort of knows each other.

So, you want to pick a girl and stick to her while you are doing your thing.

By all means, move onto another girl if things don’t work out with her, but stay away from hitting on multiple girls at once.

Set your priority straight

You need to remember you are at the gym to work out.

Approaching and talking to a girl is secondary to that. When you act as if you are just there to talk to girls instead of focusing on your work out, people are going to take you less seriously.

Talking to people should be done briefly between your sets or near the end of your work out.

I see some men spending hours at the gym talking to their gym buddies while they barely get any exercises done.

When you do that, girls can easily figure out you are just a loser, who is spending hours at the gym because you’ve got nothing better to do.

As with anything else you do in your life, you want to be walking your own path and meet people while you are staying in your own lane.

When you prioritize talking to girls at the gym over getting your workout done, you are making others the center of your focus.

And when you are not centered in your own reality, you are going to have that “leeching” energy as opposed to “giving” energy, and you will end up repelling people.

Let her come

No, not in that way…

So, what do I mean by letting her come?

Well… you’ve taken my advice and you made a lot of new friends at the gym, and you even initiated a conversation with a girl.

But, there is one more thing you want to keep in mind if you want to avoid looking like a fool.

You should avoid walking up to a girl every time you initiate a conversation with her at the gym.

This will make you stand out to others at the gym, and it is just going to look like you are deliberately hitting on her.

And it may subsequently kill your chances with other girls at the gym when they see you going up to one girl after another.

Your goal is to provide her with good emotion, so she is inspired to come and talk to you instead of you having to go up to her to talk every single time.

When girls start coming up to you to talk, other girls in the gym are going to notice that and wonder what it is about you that is so attractive to these girls.

And it never hurts to get other girls curious about you.

Find commonalities

This is not terribly difficult since you should already have quite a lot of commonalities by having the same hobby (aka gym).

You just want to find out where your interests overlap the most.

Are you guys both more passionate about an actual lifting aspect of the gym, or are you more interested in the nutritional aspect?

Do you guys like lifting for performance, or do you guys lift to improve your appearance?

These are all useful questions to answer when you are trying to form a closer bond with the woman you meet at the gym.

On top of that, you guys can even plan what to do once you guys identify your shared common interests.

If you guys are both into Powerlifting, you can suggest checking out a local powerlifting meet that is coming up.

If you guys are into eating healthy, you can invite her out to go to a local health food restaurant.

Anyway, those are my ultimate tips on how to talk to girls at the gym.

It is now on you to take that next step and change your dating life!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.