When you look at the title of this article, you may wrongly assume it is about manipulating an innocent woman who does not want to sleep with you and lure her into your bed.
If that is your goal, I kindly urge you to stop reading at this point because that is not what this article is about.
But, here is the way I see.
Both men and women have sexual desires.
And having met tens and hundreds of women in the past years of going out, I can confidently tell you that there are a lot of women out there (certainly more than what most men believe) who just want to have a good fornicating session without too much emotional attachment.
So, if you are aroused and the woman is aroused, and you guys both want to get down and dirty, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
But, here is the problem.
Even if the woman wants to sleep with you, it is unlikely she is going to make a move.
So, it is on you (as a man) to lead and make things happen if you want both of you to have an enjoyable experience together.
Many women are turned on by the idea of making love to an attractive stranger she just met.
When you come across a woman with such desire, do you want to be a man who makes her wishes come true or a man who disappoints her?
If you said yes to the former, then let’s proceed.
The first key to making love to a woman in a short period of time is to be very clear on your desire and express it unapologetically.
Most men do not know exactly what they want, and that is precisely the reason why they don’t get what they want.
As with whatever you want to get or achieve in life, your chance of attaining it is slim to none if you are not clear on what it is that you want.
For me, sleeping with a woman was never the biggest priority when I would talk to a woman, although I obviously did have a desire to get physically intimate with a beautiful woman.
If sleeping with a woman was my only priority, I would’ve simply paid for it.
That would’ve been a much more cost-effective way if you factor in all of the hours I had spent going out to talk to women.
Rather, I wanted to be a better and a different version of myself.
I was so sick and tired of being a dorky loser who can’t carry a proper conversation with a woman I find attractive, and I just wanted to rip my old self apart, so I could give birth to a new self.
I am telling you this story because I want you to really reflect back on what exactly you want to get out of your interaction with women.
Otherwise, there is a good chance you will be miserable even if you sleep with a lot of women in a short amount of time when you realize it is not what you truly wanted (and I’m speaking from my own experience).
From this point on, I’m going to assume you are very clear on your desire to sleep with a woman you just met, and that it is your top priority when interacting with a woman.
Once you have clearly defined your desire, you will no longer dabble around in your interaction.
You are not going to delay your gratification until a second date.
You are not going to say anything that implies you want to take it slow.
All of your actions and words will align in a way that clearly communicates to a woman you are a man who enjoys physical intimacy.
And, you will naturally filter out women who do not fit your criteria from the way you interact with them.
One shift in belief that will help you to unapologetically express your desire is truly realizing that a lot of women enjoy sex as much as men.
Most men have a big mental hurdle in expressing their desires because they subconsciously embody this belief they are trying to “take” something from a woman when they express their sexual desires.
But, when you truly believe that a woman wants to get physically intimate with you as much as you want to get intimate with her, a lot of your fears will go away.
Now, this doesn’t mean you should start telling a woman that you want to enter her from behind within the first 30 seconds of meeting her.
There is a better way to express your desire in a way that a woman can relate, such as slowly transitioning into a more sexual conversation from the initial platonic conversation.
While you do want to be unapologetic in your desires at your core, it is often better to be more subtle in your words, rather than being too “full-on”.
The reason being, it often kills sexual tension and kills curiosity when you are too explicit with your words.
With that being said, let’s now talk about being a man with no hesitation.
Whatever it is that you decide to do in your interaction with a woman, do it with no hesitation once you make up your mind.
Wrong actions done with full conviction are better than the right actions done with hesitation.
A man who is hesitant in his action is the man who is not getting laid.
A woman desires to be led by a man who can take strong, decisive action.
In my first few relationships, I would always spend a lot of time trying to make the right decisions for the woman I was dating because I thought that is what they wanted.
I would spend half an hour trying to figure out where to eat, or what movie we should watch afterward.
And of course, I made sure to ask about her opinion every step of the way.
While there is certainly a time and a place to get your woman’s feedback and opinion, I’ve learned through a trial and error that it is often best to just express what it is that you want to do.
And if she really doesn’t like your idea, then she will let you know.
If she doesn’t, you can assume that she is fine with it.
The same idea applies when you are with a woman and you desire to have some sexy time with her.
When a woman asks you what you want to do, you don’t want to be asking her back what it is that she wants to do.
Go ahead and let her know that you’ve had a long day at work, and you would much rather have a glass of wine at your place rather than going out to a loud bar.
And don’t say it in a nervous way because you feel awkward expressing what you want.
I want you to practice being very clear and concise in expressing your desires.
A simple and concise message often carries a much stronger impact than a long, drawn-out message.
When you look at her with unwavering eye contact, and you speak with conviction, then she is going to respect you even if she does not want to sleep with you.
On the other hand, if you sound uncertain, and your body language clearly communicates that you are uncomfortable, you are going to quickly repel her.
For a lot of men, it is not the most comfortable thing to ask a woman if she wants to come back to their place on the first day of hanging out.
But, you need to realize that you are simply giving her an opportunity to have fun with you.
She can either accept it or deny it.
Whatever happens, it is not a big deal.
Once you believe that nothing is a big deal in a grand scheme of things, you will feel more free in going after what you desire.
You need a plan if you want to get something done in the most efficient and timely manner possible.
Without a plan, you are undoubtedly going to waste a lot of time.
So, if you want to cut all the BS and have the possibility of having a romantic night on the same day you meet her, you need to have a specific plan on where you are going to take her.
The first step is making sure you take her close to where you live.
If you meet her at a place that is far from yours, you are just making everything unnecessarily inconvenient for both of you.
Even if she wants to come back home with you, she may decline if she realizes she has to travel far to get to your place (due to inconvenience, early work, no commute after a certain time, etc).
And don’t over-think where you should take her.
You don’t need to take her to fancy places.
In fact, I advise you against taking her out to expensive places on a first date when you are not even sure if you really like her yet.
Such behavior would only communicate that you believe you are not good enough for her, so you need to compensate in some way.
In my earlier years of going on multiple dates (a day) with different women, I’d take most of my dates to a park near my place.
And I would just ask them if they wanted to grab some wine at my place once I had spent about half an hour or so at the park.
I almost never had any woman refuse to come back to mine, although not all of them necessarily led to sex.
So, pick a location that is near your place and ask her to meet you there around evening time.
Once you feel there is some chemistry between the two of you, invite her back to yours for a glass of wine.
You are simply inviting her to yours. You are not telling her to get naked, so stop over-thinking it.
If there is a good enough connection between the two of you, then sex will happen.
If not, then it is not a big deal. There is plenty of fish in the sea.
A woman has to feel comfortable around you to sleep with you.
No, I don’t mean that she has to feel so comfortable with you to the point that she starts to think you are into another man, or she would rather you be her shopping buddy.
But, she has to at least feel like you are not going to be a threat to her life when you guys are alone together.
So, it is important you keep things light and playful for the most part if you want to progress your interaction as fast as you possibly can with a woman.
Try to maintain that playful undertone with whatever you say or do.
This doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your vulnerabilities and insecurities and open up to her at times (which helps to get her to open up as well).
In fact, that is a great way to get a woman to feel that there is a special connection between the two of you.
But, you want to maintain a playful vibe for the bulk of your interaction.
That is going to allow her to treat you more like her boyfriend, rather than a stranger she is just getting to know.
The title of this section is pretty self-explanatory.
If you want to sleep with her, then you need to turn her on sexually.
If she is not turned on enough to sleep with you, then she is not going to sleep with you.
It is as simple as that.
But, how exactly do you turn a woman on sexually?
The most important step (and probably the toughest for most) is to actually become a man who is seductive.
And there is a difference between being just “attractive” versus “seductive”.
The latter is a lot more predicated on your behaviors, such as the way you talk, the way you move, and the way you look at her.
I’ve already mentioned countless times about what you can work on to become a seductive man in my previous article, so I won’t bother going into details here.
But, if I were to give one advice on becoming more seductive, my advice would be to avoid constantly engaging in behaviors that break sexual tension, such as abruptly breaking eye contact, moving in a rigid manner, or talking fast with a high-pitched voice.
It is also a good idea to talk about sex if you want to have sex with her.
You can talk about your favorite position, the first time you lost your virginity if she likes it when a man goes down on her, or the first time she watched porn.
You obviously do not want to abruptly transition into talking about sexual topics in the first few minutes of meeting her.
But, once you have spent some time with her, and you guys had a chance to get to know each other better, you do not want to shy away from talking about sex.
It also helps if you guys both had a few drinks as it will help her feel more comfortable to open up.
When you feel that sexual tension rising, and you catch her looking at you with lust, then it is time for you to go for a make-out.
If a woman is happy to passionately make-out with you, then you grab her by the hand (or you can pick her up if you are feeling extra masculine) and lead her to your bed.
And I don’t think I need to explain any further at this point.
Make sure to stop if she seems even a little bit uncomfortable and ask if she wants to proceed.
You do not want either one of you to regret the decision afterward.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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