I don’t care if anyone says that a gym is a place to work out, and you shouldn’t be talking to girls there.
The gym attracts some of the most healthy and attractive girls out there, and it would be foolish for you to limit yourself of an opportunity to meet those girls just because of whatever foolish beliefs you have been fed by others.
But, you also need to be mindful of the fact that people primarily go to the gym to work out, and it is not ideal to approach a girl at the gym as if you are approaching a girl at a bar or the club.
After reading this article, you should have no shadow of a doubt in your mind on how you can best approach girls at the gym.
These are the most fool-proof ways to pick up a girl at the gym, and the fifth point will probably surprise you!
The first step to picking up a girl at the gym is to get to know everyone there.
Be friends with both men and women at the gym.
This is important because if you only talk to girls, there is a good chance you will soon be known as a dude who only comes to the gym to try to pick up girls.
But, if you know everyone (including men), people will assume you are a social dude who is friendly with everyone.
When someone is working out beside you, and you notice something interesting about the person, then don’t hesitate to comment on it and initiate a conversation.
Another good reason why it is useful to get to know a lot of people is that it can potentially allow you to approach girls at the gym in a more strategic way.
Let’s say there is a girl you want to approach who is working out beside one of your buddies at the gym.
You can walk up to your gym buddy and talk to him, then you can initiate a conversation with the girl that’s near him.
That will look a lot more natural than walking all the way up to a girl who is working out across the other side of the gym.
Not only is that going to look very “pick-upy”, but other people will start to catch onto what you are doing, and there is a good chance you will start developing reputation as a desperate weirdo.
You don’t have to complicate this process since you are most likely going to see the same girls over and over again.
There is this psychological phenomenon called a “mere exposure” effect.
This is when people start to develop a preference for things just because they become familiar with them.
When you take your time to greet people whenever you see them, you will be triggering a mere exposure effect on them by helping them become more familiar with you.
This is a great way to build rapport with people without making them feel uncomfortable.
A girl will start to open up as she feels more comfortable around you.
But, she is going to be repelled by you when she can sense you are trying to force rapport.
So, start slowly with a simple hi and bye and you can gradually build up from there.
You first need to realize that people primarily come to the gym to work out.
They are not there to make friends or find boyfriends.
They are there to improve their health and fitness, so you need to be considerate of people’s time when you approach them at the gym.
I want you to keep this one rule in your mind.
I want you to be the first person to leave the interaction in 90% of cases.
You never want to be that annoying guy at the gym who talks on and on indefinitely, and the girl just stands there and listens to your BS out of politeness.
As soon as you become “annoying” in a girl’s mind, there is no room left in her mind for her to feel attraction toward you.
One tip I have for you is to look out for a girl’s body language when you talk to her.
Is she paying attention to you when you are talking?
Is her body facing toward you or away from you?
If her feet are pointed away from you, then that is a good sign she wants to leave the interaction, so she can go back to doing her work out.
As soon as you notice this sign, you want to proactively end the interaction before she tells you she has to go back to do her set.
This communicates to her that you have enough social awareness to know when to back off, and most girls will appreciate that.
This is one of the most common mistakes that guys make at the gym.
They keep walking up to a girl (instead of letting her come) to talk every single time they initiate a conversation.
This instantly puts you into a position of chasing her, and you don’t end up giving her any space to chase you.
If you continue with this behavior, you are eventually going to lose a lot of value in her eyes.
But you may ask, “How do I make a girl come to me?”
And this goes back to greeting girls with hi and bye at the gym.
When you greet her with positive energy, and she becomes more comfortable with you, then she will often be the first one to come to you to initiate a conversation.
If she doesn’t and you still want to talk to her, then it is okay for you to walk up to her, but I recommend you to keep a conversation short.
What you want to do at this stage is to keep your interaction short but filled with positive spikes of emotion.
When you provide her with good emotions every time you talk to her, then it only makes sense for her to want to experience that emotional “hit” again by coming back to you.
Another thing I recommend you to do (to make it more likely for her to come to you) is to greet her with a welcoming smile.
When you give her a closed-off smile, then she is probably going to feel unwelcomed to initiate a conversation with you.s
You may be thinking at this point that all this sounds like too much effort to just make a girl come to you.
And I will give you one more important reason as to why it is ideal for you to make a girl come to you.
Other people (including girls) in the gym notice how you interact with girls (especially if it’s a hot girl).
When they see attractive girls constantly walking up to you and initiating a conversation, your status will instantly be elevated in their eyes, and it will be a lot easier for you to make friends and meet other girls at the gym.
On the other hand, if people notice you are always the one following around one girl after another, you will soon start to develop a reputation as a creepy dude that goes around hitting on every girl at the gym.
The gym is somewhat of a social environment, and you get to see the same people over and over again, so you want to be mindful of how you appear to others if you want to really maximize your chance of picking up a girl at the gym.
This section is for you if you are one of those socially unaware guys who display obnoxious behaviors while lifting at the gym.
Don’t be one of those guys that scream and yells out of his lungs as he is about to lift weights.
A good rule of thumb is to stay away from doing anything that makes you appear try-hard (or stupid) at the gym, such as screaming while lifting, unnecessarily dropping dumbbells or barbells super loud, or using five different gym equipments at the same time so nobody else can use it.
When you engage in these types of behaviors that make you appear socially unintelligent, a girl is going to assume you are obnoxious, and you are most likely going to be throwing away your chances before you even open your mouth to talk to her.
The only type of energy you want to be putting out at the gym is positive energy, such as the type of energy you emit when you are having an awesome conversation with your friend.
I know you are in a rush to lose your virginity (just kidding…), but you want to take it slow when you are talking to a girl at the gym.
I’m all for taking risky moves when you are talking to a girl at a bar or the club since the chances of you seeing her again are slim to none.
But, it’s a different story when it comes to a social environment like a gym.
There are a lot more things you want to take into consideration, such as your reputation, social proofs you have within the gym, and whether your approach makes sense given the environment.
The riskier your moves are, the higher likelihood of you damaging any and all of these components.
So, I suggest you take it slowly (unless you are planning on changing your gym anytime soon), and start out by exchanging social media with her first.
As an added bonus, it’s a great way to get to know what she is like as a person before you make your final move.
You can also usually get an idea of if she is currently seeing any guy by checking on her social media.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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