How To Not Be Creepy

In this article, you will learn how you can stop creeping girls out for once and for all.

But before we talk about what exactly you can do to stop creeping girls out, let’s break some of the common myths about what makes someone creepy

Being sexual makes a guy creepy?

Many guys have this belief that being sexual with a girl makes them look creepy.

So, is that true?

Just take a look at guys like Craig Ferguson. He’s extremely sexual with every single one of his female guests on his show. Yet, no girl thinks he’s creepy.

In fact, a lot of girls love the way he flirts with them.

I’m sure you have a friend who has this magical ability to turn any and everything into a sexual joke and girls love him for it.

On the other hand, I’m also sure you know someone who “tries” to make thing sexual all the time but end up weirding everyone out in the process.

It really depends on “how” you sexualize the conversation.

You are creepy by default if you are ugly?

This belief is actually quite common as well.

Many guys believe the only difference between being a creeper and a non-creeper is the look.

If a good looking guy does something slightly weird, then it’s cute.

If an ugly guy does something slightly weird, then he becomes a creepy dude all of a sudden.

Well, I’ll be honest with you.

You have a lot more leeway if you are very good looking.

It is true that if you do something slightly weird, many girls will think it’s cute that you are a little awkward.

Whereas you won’t get such benefit of the doubt as an ugly guy in most cases.

But, it is also true there are a ton of good looking guys who are extremely awkward with off-putting energy and their energy alone is sufficient to repel girls.

And it’s also not incredibly difficult to find an ugly guy with a great personality who has this “magic” about him that attracts girls either.

You are creepy when you persist despite hearing a no from the girl?

You know who I’m talking about…

One of those guys who never take no for an answer and keeps on persisting and persisting.

It is quite true there is a good chance you will come off as creepy – especially as an average guy who does not know how to persist the right way – if you keep persisting when she gives you a clear no.

Let me use Grant Cardone’s story as an example.

For those of you who don’t know him, he’s a very successful businessman and a social media influencer.

Anyway, when he met his wife for the first time, he was dead set on marrying her.

But, she did not want to have anything to do with him.

She didn’t find him physically attractive and she didn’t quite dig his personality either.

So, what did Grant Cardone do?

He just sent her a voicemail once every two weeks for one entire year.

While she did not respond to any single one of his voicemails.

And she finally did respond after that one year mark and they ended up getting married.

At this point, they have been happily married for years with two kids.

The point I want to make is this. There is an “art” to persisting with girls and  some people definitely mastered the art of persisting without being creepy. 

But that does NOT include blasting her phone with a long ass paragraph everyday confessing your love.

Lack of clear intention is what makes a guy creepy?

This is what a lot of guys – and especially dating coaches – believe is the primary reason that makes a guy appear creepy.

I do believe lack of clear intention can certainly play a big role in making you appear creepy.

But, I do not think it is the MAIN reason.

Let’s look at a lot of guys who are very successful with women.

There are certainly guys who are very clear in their intention when they approach girls and have tremendous success.

But you also see a lot of guys who are not so clear in their intention but still get girls to become magnetically attracted to them without being creepy.

This lack of intention just isn’t specific enough to explain what makes someone give off that repelling vibe.

The REAL reason why you are creeping girls out

While too much of any of these can certainly make you come off as creepy…

This is what I think is the main reason you come off as creepy to girls.

And that is…

Your lack of commitment and clarity in “each and every” one of behaviors.

And that “each and every” part really is the key in that statement.

So, why is this the major problem?

Because it essentially makes you look like there is an “ulterior” motive behind whatever you are doing – whether you are smiling, talking, or looking at the girl in front of you.

But, there is a way to fix this.

And that is to…

Simply commit to whatever you are doing.

Let’s say you are talking to someone and the person makes a joke.

There are two ways you can laugh at the person’s joke.

The first way is to give that tight-lipped smile with round eyes.

The second way is to actually genuinely laugh with your whole face.

Which one do you think will make you appear less creepy?

It’s obviously the second one.

When people don’t know what exactly you are up to, they start feeling uncomfortable around you.

So in a sense, you may interpret it as a lack of clear intention being the primary reason.


Like I said earlier, the important part is “each and every” one of your behaviors.

Which means every one of your action counts… from walking… to talking… to the way you smile… and the way you look at her.

So whatever action you take, be sure to do it like you mean it.

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.