In this article, you will learn what I believe are some of the best ways to move on from a girl.
And it can be moving on from your ex-girlfriend or that crush you’ve been daydreaming about for the past twelve days.
Whoever it may be, it’s best to move on quickly from a girl because there’s nothing worse than fantasizing about getting back with her when she’s out blowing Tommy and Chad at the same time.
Let’s first start with why you are feeling needy and desperate for her in the first place.
And this is the time to sit down, and engage in some honest self-introspection.
Most men have a difficult time being honest with themselves because it makes them feel less of a man.
They would rather come up with a BS reason to rationalize why they are with the girl like…
“Oh, it’s because she’s so nice…”
“Oh, it’s because I really love her”
You really want to be completely honest with yourself as to why you are feeling such a strong attachment toward the girl that doesn’t even want you in her life.
So, let’s start out with the first question.
Why do you think you feel so desperate toward her?
It’s most likely because you really want her in life.
But, why do you want her so badly?
For most men, it’s because they think their life will be worse off without her.
They essentially fear they can’t do any better than her.
That fear of losing what you already have is a much stronger force than the possibility to gain something new.
Let me give you an example to illustrate this point.
Let’s say you get a call from your friend at three in the morning.
When you pick up your phone, your friend tells you with excitement that there is a big sale going on at the local tire shop.
He then lets you know you can get the highest quality of new tires at a seventy percent off if you go to the store by seven in the morning.
How do you think you would respond?
You would most likely become enraged and tell him you are going to hang up because you are in the middle of your sleep.
But, let’s change up the scenario a little.
Let’s say you once again get a call from your friend at three in the morning.
But this time, he tells you this instead…
“Hey bro, I was driving by your house right now, and I saw a couple of dudes detaching the wheels from your car”.
Before your friend even finishes his sentence, you would jump out of your bed, and run to where you parked your car, so you can protect your car.
It is helpful to be aware of this type of psychological phenomenon when you are going through a break up.
Because once you start becoming aware of how your mind plays tricks on you, it loses a lot of its power.
Right now, your brain is tricking you into believing how much your life will be worse off without this girl.
You’ve been so emotionally invested in her, so losing her almost feels like a death sentence.
But somewhere in your subconscious, you also realize that it is the right thing to do.
And you will be fine after some time.
You’ve had breakups before. You’ve parted ways with people in the past.
And you are still alive and living your life.
You know deep down that time heals everything.
So, the question is how can you fill up your time while the healing is taking place.
Because spending time dwelling over her will only slow down that healing process.
Using myself as an example, there are a few things that I did when I broke up with my girlfriend which made it easy for me to get over her.
The first thing I did was to…
I knew she had a tendency to contact me when she’s feeling emotional.
And I didn’t want her to do that when I am trying to get over her completely.
When you are fresh out of your relationship, there is still that strong emotion that can easily be brought back to life when your ex contacts you back.
So, cutting her completely out of your life allows you to keep that momentum going without her potentially pulling you back into that dark abyss.
Re-initiating contact with your ex-girlfriend will do nothing good for you other than slowing down the whole healing process.
Let me just clarify one point. You are not cutting off contact because you are mad at her.
It’s the same idea as when you are trying to lose weight.
What do you think is the easiest way to not cave in to your temptation of eating bad food when losing weight?
Instead of trying to exercise self-control while you have chocolate bars, pizza, and chips around you, the simplest and the most effective way is to remove all of the high calorie food from your environment.
Do you ever notice you gain a lot of weight when you are back at your parent’s place for the Holiday?
I don’t know about you but for me, it’s because I have less control of my environment.
So, the best way to not slip back into your old bad habit is to control your environment first and foremost.
And that starts with cutting off contact with her entirely for the time being.
The second thing I did was to…
For me, it was going out almost every night with my friends.
It made sense for me at the time because I was a few months away from leaving to another country, and I wasn’t doing anything else.
For you, it may be filling up your empty time by taking up a new hobby or going to the gym more regularly.
It’s important for you to reduce your alone time as much as you can during the day.
Think about why people get addicted to video games and drugs.
Why do most of them slip back into their old habits even when they try to quit?
There can be a different reasons for this, but just being bored out of their mind is one of the biggest reasons in my opinion.
When do your most of your negative and useless thoughts pop up in your head?
I would bet it happens most when your brain is not actively engaged in anything, and you are bored.
Right now, your brain is still addicted to having her in your life.
And for you to move on from her seamlessly, it is best to cut her out of your life both physically and mentally.
The more you can reduce the alone time, the faster you will move on from her.
When you do this, you don’t give your mind too much room to wander around since you are keeping it occupied throughout the day.
Let’s talk about the third point now.
And let me just say this can be one of the most effective ways to move on from a girl (and it certainly was for me).
But for others, it doesn’t really do much.
So, just keep in mind it may or may not be effective for you.
With that being said, the third point is to…
And when I say meet a lot of new girls, I don’t necessarily mean you have to fornicate with all of them.
It may be just talking to a lot of girls.
It may be just making out with a lot of girls on a night out.
Or it may be making love to a lot of girls.
But, I’ve personally noticed having that female energy around you helps tremendously with moving on from a girl.
If you are not sure if it’s the right thing for you. I advise you to simply give it a try.
But, you should stick with it for more than a few days because it’s hard to know if it works for you or not after only a few days.
Stick with it for least for a month or two, and see if it seems to help you to move on from your ex faster.
As a side note, I know some people are going to say things like…
“You should not need another female to feel better about yourself”
“It means you are seeking external validation”
“You should feel comfortable being on your own”
Yes, I agree that you should always strive to be content even when you are on your own, and that you shouldn’t constantly need someone in your life to feel fulfilled.
But at the same time, it irks me when I hear people say something like that.
Most people who spew out things like that are just giving advice based on their idealistic view of how things should be without having an actual real-life experience.
There is a void in your mind at this moment.
And one of the most practical ways to fill that void is to meet a lot of new girls as you allow your wounds to heal.
No, I don’t advise you to get into another relationship anytime soon.
I’m simply suggesting you be open to talking and meeting a lot of new people.
The problem with getting into another relationship quickly after your break up is that you are usually in an emotionally heightened state after a break up.
When do you make most of your bad decisions?
When you make decisions with your emotion rather than your logic.
So, I advise you to give at least a few months to half a year before you even fancy the idea of getting into a new relationship.
Anyway, to sum it all up…
Cut that girl out of your life. Spend a lot of time with your friends. And meet a lot of new girls
Just live your life.
You don’t need to try to prove to her how much happier you are than her, or try to show her how you’ve found a much better and hotter girl.
If a girl has left a deep emotional wound on you by cheating, lying or deceiving you, the best revenge is to just completely move on from her as if she’s never existed in your life in the first place.
I wish you the best of luck.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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