In this article, you will learn what I believe are some of the best ways to move on from a girl.
That can be your ex-girlfriend or that crush you’ve been daydreaming about for the past twelve days.
Whoever that is, it’s best to move on quickly from that girl because there’s nothing worse than fantasizing about getting back with her while she’s out there blowing Tommy and Chad at the same time.
Let’s first start with why you are feeling desperate for that girl in the first place.
And this is the time to sit down and engage in some honest self-introspection.
Because most guys tend to block off their real reason since it makes them feel like less of a man and they would rather come up with a BS reason about why they are clinging onto the girl…
“Oh, it’s because she’s so nice…”
“Oh, it’s because I really love her”
It really is the time to be just completely honest with yourself why you are feeling such strong attachment toward the girl that doesn’t even want you in her life.
So, let’s start out with the first question.
Why exactly do you feel so desperate toward her?
It’s obviously because you really want her in life.
But, why do you want her so badly in your life?
For most guys, it’s because you think your life will be worse off without her. You essentially fear you can’t do any better than her.
That fear of losing what you already have is a much stronger force than a possibility to gain something.
Let me give you an example to illustrate this point.
Say you get a call from your friend at three in the morning.
And when you pick up the phone, your friend tells you with excitement that there is a big sale going on at the local tire shop. And that you can get the highest quality of new tires at a seventy percent off if you go to the store by seven in the morning.
You would most likely respond by saying something along times lines of… “I’m sleeping man. What’s wrong with you. I’m going to hang up”.
But, let’s now change up the scenario a little.
Say you get a call from your friend at three in the morning. But this time, he tells you this instead…
“Hey bro, I was driving by your house right now and I saw a group of guys removing the wheels from your car”.
When you hear that, you would jump the eff out of your bed and do whatever you can to protect your car from being stolen.
And it is helpful to be aware of this psychological phenomenon when you are going through a break-up.
Because once you start becoming aware of how your mind plays tricks on you, it loses a lot of its power.
Right now, your brain is playing tricks on you telling how much your life will be worse off without this girl.
You’ve been so emotionally invested in her and losing her almost feels like a death sentence.
But somewhere in your subconscious, you also realize that you will be fine without her.
You’ve had breakups before. You’ve parted ways with people in the past.
And you are still breathing and living your life.
You realize deep down that time heals everything.
So, the question is how can you fill up your time while the healing is taking place.
Because spending time dwelling over her will only slow down that healing process.
Using myself as an example, there are a few things that I did when I broke up with my girlfriend which made it quite easy for me to get over her.
The first thing I did was to…
Completely block her from all social media as well as my phone and even my email
I knew she had a tendency to contact me when she’s feeling emotional.
And I didn’t want her to do that when I am trying to get over her completely.
When you are still fresh out of your relationship, there is still that strong emotion that can easily be brought back to life when your ex contacts you back.
So, cutting her completely out of your life allows you to keep that momentum going without her potentially pulling you back into that dark abyss.
Re-initiating contact with your ex-girlfriend or your crush will do nothing good for you other than slowing down the whole process of healing.
Let me just clarify one point. You are not cutting off contact because you are mad at the girl or anything like that.
It’s just like when you are trying to lose weight.
What do you think is the easiest way to not cave in to your temptation to eat bad food when losing weight?
Instead of trying to exercise self-control while you have chocolate bars, pizza, and chips around you, the simplest and the most effective way is to remove all the high calorie food from your environment.
Do you ever notice you gain a lot of weight when you are back at your parent’s place for the Holiday?
I don’t know about you but for me, it’s because I have less control of my environment.
So, the best way to not slip back into your old bad habit is to control your environment first and foremost.
And that starts with cutting off contact with her entirely for the time being at least until you believe you’ve completely moved on.
The second thing I did was to…
Completely occupy my time being engaged in something to move on from her
For me, it was going out almost every night with my friends since I was a few months away from leaving to another country and I wasn’t doing anything else for the time being.
For you, it may be filling up your empty time by taking up a new hobby or going to the gym more regularly.
It’s important for you to reduce the time you feel bored as much as you can during the day.
Think about why people get addicted to video games and drugs.
And even when they try to quit, why do most of them slip back into their old habits?
There can be a lot of different reasons but being bored as f… certainly is one of the biggest reasons in my opinion.
When do your most of your negative and useless thoughts pop up in your head?
I would bet it is mostly when your brain is not actively engaged in anything and you are feeling sort of bored.
Right now, your brain is still “addicted” to having her in your life.
And for you to move on from her seamlessly, it is best to cut her out of your life both physically and mentally.
So basically, the more you can reduce the alone time, the better.
Because it is incredibly easier for you to slip back into that negative spiral of thought pattern when you are by yourself.
Don’t give your mind too much room to wander around by keeping it occupied throughout the day.
Before I tell you the third point, let me just say this is by far the most effective way to move on from a girl for some people and it certain was for me.
But for others, it doesn’t really do much.
So just keep in mind that it may or may not work for you.
With that being said, the third point is for you to…
Go meet a lot of new girls to move on from her
And when I say meet a lot of new girls, I don’t necessarily mean you have to fornicate with all of them.
It may be just talking to a lot of girls.
It may be just making out with a lot of them on a night out.
Or it may be sleeping around with a lot of them.
But having that female energy around you, I’ve personally noticed helps tremendously with moving on from a girl.
If you are not sure if it’s the right thing for you. I simply advise you to try out for a while.
Not just a day or two because then it’s hard for you to honestly assess whether it’s going to be something that’s going to help you with moving on from a girl.
But at least for a month or two, and see if it’s helping you to forget about her faster.
And I know some people are going to say things like…
“Oh, you should not need another female to feel better about yourself… it means you are validation seeking… you should be able to feel comfortable being on your own!”
Yes, I agree that you should always strive to be comfortable even when you are on your own and that you shouldn’t constantly need someone to be around to feel fulfilled.
But at the same time, it sort of irks me when I hear people say something like that.
Because most people who spew out something like that are just giving advice based on their idealistic view of how things should be without having an actual real-life experience.
For you right now, there is that extreme void in your mind.
And one of the most practical ways to get over it can be to temporarily fill up that void – aka meeting a lot of new girls – while you are allowing your wounds to heal.
I don’t advise you to get into another relationship anytime soon.
I’m simply suggesting you be open to talking and meeting a lot of new people.
The problem with getting into another relationship quickly after your break up is that you are in an emotionally heightened state.
When do you make most of your bad decisions?
When you are making decisions with your emotion rather than your logic.
So, I would advise you to give at least a few months to half a year before you even fancy the idea of getting into a new relationship.
Anyway, to sum it all up…
Cut that girl out of your life… spend a lot of time with your friends… and meet a load of new girls
And just live your life.
You don’t need to try to prove to her how much happier you are than her.
Or try to show her how you’ve found a much better and hotter girl than her.
If that girl left a deep emotional wound on you by cheating, lying or deceiving you…
Then the best revenge is to just completely forget about her as if she’s never existed in your life in the first place and just do your own thing.