As much as our society puts pressure on us to be a stud who goes around sleeping with every girl in sight, we often just wish for that nice girl whom we can connect with at the end of the day.
I want you to understand there is no shame in admitting you value emotional connection with one girl over meaningless encounters with lots of girls.
It took me a long time to admit I’m not this badass player boy with an incredible sexual drive who just wants to impregnate any and everything without the Y chromosome.
But I convinced myself I am and went down into the rabbit hole of sleeping with as many women (and successfully) as I possibly can for a long period of time.
Only to realize it did not give me any sort of fulfillment that I was looking for.
So if you have already figured out what you want, then I have nothing but respect for you.
With that being said, it can be a tricky task to meet a nice woman who is the right fit for you especially if you are lacking in experience with women.
The last thing you want for yourself is to be tricked into throwing away all your time and resources for a girl who you “thought” was a good woman, only to find out it was all a façade she was putting on.
So I hope this guide can help you get one step closer to finding the right girl for yourself.
A nice woman is an illusion?
But before we go any further, you need to clearly define what is YOUR definition of a nice woman.
For some, it may be a girl who is going to be faithful, be a good mom, knows how to cook, and only does missionary position during sex.
For others, it may be a girl who is spontaneous, has a threesome with another girl, and gives a daily morning blowjob.
Without clearly knowing your version of a nice woman, you are unlikely to ever find one.
Once you have clearly defined this, half of your job is done.
Go where these women frequent
Do you want a woman who fits into yoga pants perfectly?
Then, you will save yourself a lot of time looking for these girls at the gym.
Do you want a girl who is more family-oriented and will be a good mother?
Then, you will most likely have better luck finding them by volunteering at places for children as opposed to looking for them at the night club.
I hope you now understand why it is so important to define your target demographic.
If you skip this step, it would be equivalent to trying to catch a salmon at a local swimming pool.
You may get lucky every once in a while if some bored person decides to throw a few salmons into the pool but you will likely end up wasting most of your valuable time and energy.
Let me emphasize that clearly defining your demographic and going to places where they frequent already put you miles ahead of most guys without any sort of strategy.
But you can further maximize your odds and make it even easier for yourself by doing one more thing.
And that is to…
Elevate your status in whatever environment you are interacting with girls.
There are a lot of different ways you can accomplish this such as being in the position of a leader or a manager in such environments.
But that is not a feasible option for most men who are tight on time.
So let me give you the quickest and the easiest way to elevate your status in any social setting.
You want to befriend and get to know everyone in the group.
Become the most likable and the most connected guy in the environment.
That, by itself, will massively elevate your perceived status in other’s eyes.
When you have done everything I have mentioned in this article so far (which really isn’t too much work if you consider you will be spending most of your time with the girl you date or marry), you will soon realize you really don’t need much “game” to attract girls.
When you are at the right place, at the right time, and with the right people, everything just sort of naturally falls into its’ place.
Look at her behavior
This article would not be complete without this last section.
So you followed everything we have discussed in this article and you even managed to attract the girl of your dreams (or so you think…).
You are convinced she is everything you have ever wanted and you dream about spending the rest of your life together with her.
Congratulations… she may very well be the one for you… BUT!
There is also a very good chance it is just a temporary high you are experiencing.
Or even worse, she may be putting on a fake mask for the time being.
Knowing this, what exactly is the best way to determine if the girl you are with is indeed someone you can rely on?
I am sure you are familiar with the saying, “actions speak louder than words”.
Everyone can talk. It’s not very hard to say all the right things and give the impression you know what you are talking about or that you are trustworthy.
And for this reason, words don’t mean a whole lot when we are evaluating someone’s character.
What is the first thing banks do when they are trying to decide if they should loan you money?
They take a look at your credit history.
What she has done in her most recent past (I say most “recent” past because people can change although they rarely do) and how she is living her life currently are the most accurate representations of her character.
If she tells you relationship is about trust but stays out until three in the morning every night with her male friend, then does she really deserve to earn your trust?
The answer is a clear no.
The girl in a relationship will often guilt trip you into thinking it is you who has a trust issue when you get agitated about her going on a vacation with three of her male friends.
She will accuse you of being jealous and insecure and successfully convince you to believe that you are indeed an insecure, beta loser.
Guys who are inexperienced with girls are especially prone to such manipulation.
But you need to realize it is actually her who is at the core of the issue. She cannot get into a committed relationship and behave like she is still single while completely disregarding how you feel.
But please do not interpret this as me encouraging you to constantly question her behavior and accuse her of cheating on you.
Here is my simple suggestion. Take a moment to come up with a list of behaviors you are not willing to tolerate in a relationship – the type of behaviors that are not negotiable under any circumstance.
And communicate that to the girl clearly when you enter a relationship.
If she disagrees with you, there is no reason to get into an argument with her. Simply acknowledge the difference and move on.
If you communicate your standard to her and she acknowledges it but ends up breaking the promise, then you move on from her without making a fuss about it.
If you view yourself as a high-value male, you would not waste any of your time on trying to change another person’s view.
You would simply present your view to the world unapologetically and let people decide whether they want to be a part of your world.
To wrap it up, you want to pay most of your attention to observing her behaviors over the words that come out of her mouth.
Words are cheap. Words don’t mean anything unless they are accompanied by action.
Her behaviors, however, will always give you a clearer picture of the truth.
You just have got to make sure you don’t get so attached to her vagina to the point you are thinking with your penis instead of your brain.