How To Make A Woman Want You

Is it really possible to “make” a woman want you?

Or is it just all about your physical appearance as some men like to preach?

Let me give you a weird example to help you think about instances where you may have developed a liking for someone, although you may not have had a great first impression of him or her.

Have you ever watched a video online and your first impression of a speaker was that he is probably a goofball?

But as soon as he opened his mouth, you were drawn toward him.

And as you continued to watch him speak, you felt more connection toward him. And you were completely in love with the speaker by the time he was done speaking.

If you’ve ever experienced anything like the above example, it is hard to deny the power of good communication skill (or “game” if we are strictly talking about your ability to communicate with women).

Even if you don’t exactly fit a woman’s type in terms of physical appearance, you may very well make her want you if you have the ability to connect with her soul through powerful communication.

But, it’s not just about developing that connection with a woman via excellent communication, there are also other psychological triggers that can easily influence her desire toward you if used right.

So, let’s dive right in if you are ready to unveil the secrets of making a woman want you!

Use social proof to make a girl want you

The first psychological trigger we will discuss is social proof.

Social proof is one of the most powerful psychological triggers used in any form of persuasion and influence.

Let’s use a newly opened restaurant as an analogy.

A little trick that a new restaurant commonly uses to attract more customers is to have their family members and friends sit at the table of a restaurant and eat there.

So, why is that?

Because it is in our very nature to look at other people before we make decisions.

Why do you look up online reviews before you check out a new restaurant or buy a new product?

It is because we instinctively trust other customer’s voices more than what the company has to say about themselves.

The same is true when it comes to dating and making a woman want you.

A woman often looks at other women to figure out if the man is desirable.

If other women flock to him, then she will assume the man is desirable, even if she does not particularly find him physically attractive.

In fact, a woman will sleep with a man who is desired by other women, just so she can prove a point that she is attractive enough to get the man who is wanted by other attractive women.

Men are guilty of this as well.

I’m sure you’ve had times when you weren’t particularly attracted to a girl, but your desire for her increased as soon as you found out some of your friends like her.

It really is fascinating to observe just how much social proof can influence your decision.

So, how can you use this powerful trigger in your favor?

Spend time with attractive women

It really is no brainer, but you want to hang out with attractive girls.

They can be just your friends, but the fact that other attractive women feel comfortable enough to hang out with you (even if you are not dating them) will increase your status massively in a woman’s eyes.

Women (and men as well) are incredibly jealous creatures.

When a woman sees you with another attractive woman, she will want your attention just so she can feel like she is on an equal plane with the attractive woman you are hanging out with.

Have you heard the saying, “Money makes money”?

On a similar note, you can think, “Women bring women”.

The more women you have in your life, the more women you are going to attract.

Do not neglect your social media

But, there is one drawback when it comes to hanging out with attractive women for social proof. It simply is not scalable.

You are going to lose that social proof as soon as you are alone, and it is all going to be back to square one.

And that is where the power of social media comes in.

Thanks to your phone and social media, you can capture those beautiful moments you spend with attractive girls and post it on your social media accounts for the entire world to see.

And your social proof will be there for you forever and ever until your social media account disappears.

So, make sure you capture those awesome parties with attractive girls in pictures and post it on your social media accounts.

These pictures will serve as a powerful social proof for years to come.

If you don’t have any attractive female friends to hang out with, then here is one thing you can do for the time being (as you work toward building your social circle and becoming friends with attractive women).

Go out at night to a bar or the club and chat with attractive women, and ask them to be your friends.

Most girls put their guards down when you tell them you just want to be their friends.

You can then go ahead and take pictures with them to post on your social media accounts.

No one is going to know if these are the girls you normally hang out with, or if you just met them that night.

All they are going to see is you standing beside an attractive woman, and your perceived status is going to be elevated in their eyes.

Your status will make a woman want you

Women are incredibly sensitive to status.

If you are the highest status guy in the environment, then it is as easy as flipping a burger to get with the most attractive girl in that environment (unless you are extremely awkward, but it is unlikely for a socially awkward man to be the highest status man in any environment).

So, it would be in your best interest to really think about the environment that makes you shine the most.

You don’t necessarily need to have a certain tangible position in the environment for you to be perceived as one of the highest status men there.

If you simply know most people in the environment, that in itself, will make you high status in other’s eyes.

For example, one of my big passions is lifting, so I go to the gym around five to six times a week.

Because I am there so frequently, I naturally made a lot of friends at the gym. When girls see me interacting with almost half of the people in the gym, it is hard for them to not get curious about me.

And no, this is not some false illusion I’ve created in my head.

More than a handful of girls have actually directly commented on how everyone knows me at the gym, and their attraction toward me increased accordingly.

So, it can really be as simple as becoming the most connected person when it comes to creating a “micro-status” in any environment.

In a lot of cases, you just need to be a social person who takes a genuine interest in getting to know others.

I am sure you have heard of the saying, “It is not about how much you know, but who you know”.

When you become the person who holds that key to a connection with others (since most people are terrible at building connection), people can’t help but have a certain degree of respect toward you.

When a woman sees that you are well-liked by everyone, not only will this elevate your status in her eyes, but it will also work as social proof.

She will subconsciously conclude in her brain that since most people like you, you must be a likable person, and therefore, it would be safe for her to like you as well.

Women want a man who has values and is not so easily accessible to others.

No woman wants a cheap commodity that is available to everyone else for sales.

Your status is like your value tag in that sense.

The higher your status is, the more value you are going to have in her eyes, and vice versa.

I have frequently talked about the importance of developing basic social skills to improve your dating life in many of my previous articles.

I hope you understand by now why having a good solid social skill is paramount to success with women.

It would be very difficult to become the most well-connected person in an environment if you do not even possess the basic social skill to build rapport with others.

In that sense, the first step to making a woman want you is to become a likable person.

Arouse emotion to make her want you

How you arouse her emotion is very important when it comes to making a woman want you.

Let me use myself as an example.

I’m usually far from the best looking guy in the room, and I have even had people call me ugly on more than a few occasions growing up (although I personally consider myself as quite average looking…).

I am also Asian which is not exactly the most hyper-sexualized race in Western culture.

As a side note, I know some idealists who like to say that there is no disadvantage with being Asian in Western culture when it comes to meeting women, but let’s be serious.

Not only do statistics show that is completely false, but I have also had more than a few women tell me that they have never found Asians attractive until they met me (Not trying to brag but just saying the truth…).

So here is the point. I was never blessed enough in terms of genetics to just rely on my physical appearance as a way to meet women.

I actually had to become the man who is able to arouse a woman’s emotion with my personality since my looks alone did not suffice.

And I’ll be honest. When I first started going out, I thought physical appearance largely determines your success with women.

But, as I improved my personality, I have come to realize that a good personality can have a great deal of influence on making a woman want you,

A lot of women I have dated (or hooked up with) have been with men who are way more physically attractive than me, but they ended up becoming much more emotionally attached to me because I knew how to become their “emotional crack”.

With that being said, let’s talk about what sort of mindset you need to make a woman want you.

Avoid pressure 

The pressure is potentially one of your biggest enemies when it comes to making a woman want you.

When a woman feels heavy pressure around you, she is going to want to avoid you (although, there are times you can play around with a little bit of pressure to make her want you more but that is a topic for another time).

As a general rule of thumb, you want a woman to feel light and free around you.

If you can make her feel comfortable being her most “feminine self” around you, then she is going to open up to you like she has never done before with another man.

When you hear women say things like, “No one has ever made me feel this way” or “I never ever talk about this with anyone else”, you know you have done a good job at making her feel comfortable to open up to you.

Embrace your masculinity 

Do not be afraid to show your masculine desires if you want to make a woman want you.

In fact, this is one trait that is lacking in most men in this day and age.

We are constantly told by the society to not say anything offensive and to never ever cross a woman’s boundary.

And I fully agree that you should always respect a woman’s boundary.

But, we have somehow interpreted respecting a woman’s boundary as never expressing our sexual desire toward them (which is NOT what women want).

If you become a man who is comfortable with expressing your desires through your body language and the way you look at her, you will stand out among 99% of other men.

A woman will feel that you possess a different type of energy than other men, and she will become hooked on you.

Be passionate 

It is fascinating to see how a woman reacts when she sees you speak and act with passion.

A woman’s eyes light up and she stares at you with a look of admiration.

I’m not saying you should be all theatrical and dramatic to express your passion when you talk to a woman.

But, possessing that calm, collected, “bottled” passion inside of you will make a woman want you like crazy.

It is rare for women to come across a man who has a passion for anything in this day and age.

When she senses you are one of the rare species who possess such trait, she will become magnetized by you.

Improve your looks

I want to briefly talk about how you can optimize your looks to make a woman want you.

But I’m not going to go into detail about your facial aesthetic or height because those are not something you can change, and I’ve already covered those topics in detail in many of my other articles.

Instead, I want you to focus on finding your looks for the type of girls you want to attract.

For example, if you are attracted to women who are into fitness, it would make sense for you to dress and carry yourself in a way that shows off your athletic build.

On a similar note, if you like women who are into video games, then you might want to rock your nerdy game T-shirt proudly.

When you identify your “niche” market, then it becomes a lot easier for you to figure out what type of looks you should adopt to attract your target demographic.

So, I would advise you to really take time to think about what type of women you are into, and how you should style your looks to attract them.

Anyway, that is it for my tips on how you can make a woman want you.

It is now up to you to take the needed action to transform your dating life.

Good luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.