Physical intimacy is one of the cornerstones of a healthy relationship.
If you are able to make your woman happy in bed, then she is going to be a lot more tolerant of your other flaws.
On the other hand, if you fail to satisfy your woman in bed, then she is likely not going to take you seriously as a man, and her interest will slowly fade away.
By no means do I want you to get the impression that physical intimacy is the only thing that matters to sustain a healthy relationship, but it would be foolish to deny the importance of it.
But, what exactly is the best way to satisfy a woman in bed?
Is it really all about touching her the right way with good techniques, or is there something more to it?
The answers to these questions will become crystal clear in your head after you are done reading this article.
Make sure you don’t miss the 6th point in this article as it is often the most neglected, yet one of the most important principles of turning a woman on.
The first key to turning a woman on (and make her happy in bed) is to actually become a man who arouses women.
Do you embody a masculine energy, or are you a dorky man who is trying to learn “techniques” to get a woman off?
Women don’t want a “sex nerd” who has mastered all of the different ways to please her.
If that were her priority, she would simply rely on her toys.
What women want is a real man who desires her with passion.
But, how exactly do you become a seductive man who gets a woman excited on command?
There are 3 components of becoming a seductive man that I want to cover in this section.
The way you look
The way you look at a woman can be one of your most powerful tools to arouse a woman.
Here is what I want you to do when you make eye contact with her.
I want you to relax your eyes and stare deep into her pupils.
There is no such thing as a seductive man who can’t hold eye contact.
But, you also don’t want to be staring at her with a tense, bulging eyes.
That is a surefire way to scare her away.
Focus on feeling comfortable in your body as you look into her eyes.
That will help her feel more relaxed and make it easier for her to become aroused in your presence.
The way you talk
Can you imagine a woman getting turned on when she is with a man who talks at a rate of 1000 words per minute with a voice that sounds like a 7-year-old girl?
It is a good idea to pay attention to the way you speak because your voice can serve to either amplify or kill sexual tension.
While there is only so much you can do to change the deepness of your voice, there is a lot you can do to sound more seductive.
These are some of the things you want to keep in mind if you do not want to kill sexual tension while you are talking to a woman.
The way you move
Your body language is vitally important if you want to become a seductive man
If you walk around slouching forward while your head is dangling in the front, then you are not going to look seductive.
If you walk like you have to take a huge dump, it’s not going to arouse a woman.
But, what I’m about to tell you is by far the most important principle to moving in a seductive manner.
You need to become comfortable in your own body.
You want to carry yourself in a smooth and effortless manner.
Even if you walk with a “supposedly” good posture, you are not going to look seductive in the way you move if you look tense.
When you move that way, a woman is going to get a sense you also know how to move your body in bed.
Let’s now get into some of the specifics.
Have you ever heard another man say that “every” woman is this or that?
If you like to generalize women’s sexual preferences that way, then that is a great way to become a terrible lover in bed.
The truth is, no woman is exactly the same (although there are certain things that are preferred by the majority) just like no man is the same when it comes to his preference in his bed.
Some men like going down on a woman while some are completely repulsed by the idea.
Some men enjoy doing it rough while others prefer to be a little more sensual.
And it is exactly the same for women.
Some women like to be dominated in bed while others want you to be gentle (and these preferences can also vary for the same woman depending on her mood that day).
Knowing this, it would be foolish for you to try to learn “one” way to please a woman.
In fact, the surest way to become a great lover is to develop the ability to really listen to what the woman is communicating with her words and her body.
Most women take a longer time (compared to men) to reach climax, and their body needs to be sufficiently “warmed up” before they can orgasm.
So, it is important that you take foreplay as seriously as the actual intercourse, if not more.
If all she wanted was to feel your genital penetrating hers, she may as well rely on toys to get the job done.
But, she wants to feel desired. She wants to feel you passionately wanting her body.
And foreplay (done right) is a great way for you to express that.
Take your time to kiss her. Go ahead and passionately (or sensually) touch every part of her body.
Let her know with your body how much you are turned on by her.
Don’t get so caught up with penetration, and just try to enjoy the entire process.
I want to emphasize that this is just icing on the cake.
You should not forget that the most important principle for making a woman happy in bed is to actually become a seductive man who turns a woman on before she even ends up on the bed.
With that being said, it makes the entire process a little more enjoyable if you can get your technique dialed in as well.
Stimulating the frontal part of her vagina is a great way to give her more of that pleasurable sensation.
Women’s sensitive nerve endings are located in the frontal wall of the vagina, so it helps if you can make love to her from a position that is stimulating to that area.
This is the reason why most women struggle to orgasm when you enter her from behind (even those who can orgasm from penetration) because the angle doesn’t allow your penis to sufficiently stimulate the frontal wall. That is unless she stimulates the clitoris with her hand while you are entering her from behind.
On a side note, this doesn’t mean women do not enjoy it when you enter her from behind. Most women actually very much enjoy it. It is just that it’s not the most ideal position to reach an orgasm.
One of the better positions to stimulate the anterior part of her vagina is to enter her from the front while her legs are on your shoulders.
This angle allows your penis to continually stimulate the frontal wall of her vagina and make it easier for her to orgasm.
You can also make sort of a circular motion with your hips as you enter her to give her a stronger sensation.
The more you can become present in bed, the better you will be able to connect with your woman in bed.
It is hard for a woman to feel appreciated and desired when she can clearly feel that you are not “really” there although you may physically be there.
It is similar to when you are talking to someone, and you can tell the person is not really listening although he may pretend to care about what you are saying.
When you can sense that, you would most likely lose interest in continuing a conversation.
It is the same when you are in bed with a woman, and she feels you are thinking about something else rather than being fully there with her at that moment.
I highly recommend you to give meditation a try if you are not doing it already.
As someone who has suffered from severe social anxiety for most of my life, I can say with confidence that a continual practice of meditation completely transformed how I feel on a daily basis.
Not only will it help you to be more present during a sexual act, but it will also help you to become more aware of your own feelings and allow you to have better control over your emotions.
And the trick is to just start.
There is no reason for you to go and read 50 different books on how to meditate.
That would be equivalent to reading 50 different books on how to lift weights before you start going to the gym (which would obviously be a total waste of time).
You just simply need to start “doing”.
Sit on your chair, close your eyes and focus on your breathing. And just keep at it for around 20 minutes.
When your brain starts to think about something, simply “observe” your own thoughts and let it pass.
There is no reason to beat yourself up over it and try to “force” yourself to not think. That will only backfire.
This is also referred to as mindfulness meditation.
Your life may completely change once you start practicing daily meditation.
We briefly touched on this earlier, but it is important that a woman feels desired for her to be happy in bed.
In fact, that is one of the major reasons why women have sex, to begin with.
Most women have a strong desire to feel appreciated for their beauty.
If a woman doesn’t get that validation from you, then she is going to look elsewhere for it.
She will usually get more turned on when you selfishly indulge her for your own pleasure, as opposed to trying to cater to her pleasures at all cost (but, by no means is this an excuse for you to ejaculate within 15 seconds of penetration…).
And the reason once again goes back to a woman wanting to be with a real man rather than a “good little boy” who always tries to accommodate her needs.
So, throw her on the bed if that is what gets you going and call her a naughty girl if that turns you on (just make sure to be safe, and stop immediately if she looks uncomfortable, or she verbally asks you to stop).
You will often turn her on more as a result of her seeing you get turned on.
As a final note, do not be afraid to talk dirty.
A lot of men have a mental block when it comes to talking dirty in bed.
They feel awkward and feel like they are just going to make themselves look stupid if they blurt something out in bed.
But, dirty-talking is a really effective way to turn a woman on once you become proficient at it.
It’s because you are turning on her brain by talking dirty (which is where the arousal begins and ends).
As we had discussed earlier, every woman is different, so you don’t want to start out by calling her “strong names” from the start.
First, talk about sex and find out what she is into, and you can casually ask her about how she feels about dirty talking.
It also helps to figure out if she is into being strongly dominated (and a lot of women are).
This can give you a clue as to what “type” of things you should say to turn her on.
For example, if she likes her man to completely dominate her, then there is a good chance she will get very turned on by you calling her a dirty [insert the most derogatory term for a woman that you can think of].
You can also “sneak in” a few words by telling her how naughty she is during the act and see how she responds to it.
If she seems to moan a little louder or even say something back, then that is obviously a good sign she is into dirty-talks.
You may then consider increasing the intensity of your dirty talk by using “stronger” words.
Anyway, you’ve now got the knowledge you need to make a woman happy in bed.
It’s time for you to implement the advice you’ve been given.
Have fun and don’t put so much pressure on yourself!
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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