How To Make A Girl Like You Over Text

Is it really possible to make a girl like you over text?

Some dating coaches may argue your texts don’t matter, and it is all about how you make her feel in real life.

They would tell you if you have a great interaction with a girl in real life, then whatever text you send her will have a minimal effect.

While I certainly see their point of view in that I believe real-life interaction usually triumphs over your “text game” (if you had to pick between the two), it would be foolish to completely write off a potentially powerful effect a text game can have on your results with women.

If people were incapable of feeling the emotion through written words, how could there possibly be books that are sold in millions?

What about people who write a sales letter (aka copywriters) that makes millions of dollars?

Written words can be incredibly powerful if you know how to write in a way that arouses people’s emotion.

But unfortunately, most people do not possess such an ability.

And that can both be bad news or good news for you.

On one hand, it means you are likely to be one of the terrible writers (or texters if you want to call it that) who has no chance of making a girl like you over text.

On the other hand, you will stand out among a sea of mediocre texters if you are able to hone your texting skill, so you can move a girl’s heart with your written words.

So now that we have covered a potentially powerful effect of texting, let’s jump into talking about specific ways in which you can make a girl like you over text.

Clear communication is the key to make a girl like you over text

It sounds rather obvious, but it is important for you to make sure your communication is crystal clear through text, and there is no confusion in a girl’s mind what you are trying to communicate.

Texting is not the time for you to make sarcastic jokes unless you guys both know each other’s personality.

You should also stay away from potentially saying an ambiguous statement because you don’t want to leave it to a girl’s interpretation of what your texts mean (because they will always interpret it in the worst way possible).

The problem with texting is that it is difficult to communicate subtleties since you can’t really use your vocal tones and facial expression to communicate your intent.

And that is why clear communication is a pre-requisite to make a girl like you over text.

Keep it concise

Most girls (and men) have the attention span of a goldfish which is around 8~ 9 seconds.

When you send her a long block of texts, her brain is going to shut off before she can even be bothered to read all of your texts.

What she is going to remember, however, is how needy you must be to send such a long text.

No man who is busy with his life would write paragraphs of texts to a girl he barely knows.

And the chances are, you are most likely not that close to her yet if you are reading an article on how you can make her like you over text.

Sending a long text will only communicate your low value to a girl, and she will quickly lose any attraction she has toward you.

Keep your text concise and to the point, and when a girl actually likes you, you can consider playing around with a longer text.

Make her like you over text

So, with those two principles in mind, let’s delve deeper into talking about how you can make her like you over text.

You want this line below to be imprinted on your mind forever.

The more she thinks about you, the more she is going to like you.

As your mind fixates on one thing, your brain convinces you into believing it must be something important.

So, the key is to make her think about you as much as possible if you want to make her like you over text.

But, what emotion should you arouse in a girl for her to continuously think about you?

Many men would automatically assume it is strictly positive emotion that a girl wants to feel.

You need to realize, however, that most attractive women are bombarded with compliments and validation throughout the day.

Think about how many likes an average attractive woman gets when she posts a picture of her behind on her social media account.

Your cute little pet pictures or memes (as many dating coaches would advise you to send) are simply not going to arouse any meaningful positive emotion in a woman.

So, does that mean you should send her a text that induces negative emotion to stand out from the rest?

That does not really work well either.

We generally don’t respond well to other’s negative remarks (and this includes sarcasm) unless we already know the person.

Your attempt at “playfully” insulting her over text will likely backfire in most cases instead of making her like you.

So, what is the solution?

You want the best of both worlds.

You want to send her a mixed signal that arouses both positive and negative emotion.

Being predictable will completely kill whatever curiosity she has for you, and you will become a foregone conclusion in her mind.

Most men only display one side of their personality when they communicate with women, whether it be through texts or in person.

The nice guy always tries to be sweet and loving.

The bad boy always tries hard to tease a woman while ensuring he does not validate her.

And both types get boring and repetitive after a while unless you mix it up.

You want to become that rare man who is able to arouse a wide range of emotion in a woman and make it impossible for her to predict your next move.

That will keep her on her toes, and she will be emotionally aroused by receiving your text rather than being repulsed by it.

Let me give you some concrete examples so you can better understand what exactly I mean by the man who is able to arouse a wide range of emotion.

Here is an example of the nice guy…

“Hey, I loved that beautiful pink dress you were wearing yesterday. You looked really good in that! J

An example of the bad boy…

“Hey, you need to try a little harder if you want to win me over. I’m not that easy /winkface”

And finally, the man who has both…

“I had a great time with you, but I can’t help but wonder if you…”

Do you see how you are not closing the sentence in the above example?

You are essentially amplifying her curiosity by using the above style of texting which will, in turn, make her think more about you, and this will eventually translate into her believing she must like you.

Validation and take it away to make her like you more

The title of this section sounds rather manipulative, but it is in alignment with the principle I’ve been hammering away throughout this article.

Any stimulus that is predictable and repetitive will bore her to death.

You are doing a woman a favor by being different than all of the other guys who text her.

Let me tell you a story of how I used this principle when I was texting a girl I used to see.

And let me be honest. I am a pretty affectionate person and I like to use a lot of emojis when I text a girl.

A lot of men cringe at the idea of using an emoji because they believe it is not masculine to use an emoji in a text message. But the truth is, it has neither positive nor detrimental effect on its own.

But, you will be surprised at just how powerful even a little emoji can be when you get a woman used to your emojis to the point she expects it from your text, then you take out emojis in your texts.

And that is precisely what I “accidentally” discovered with this one girl I used to see.

I initially started out texting her by always adding kiss and heart emojis at the end of my text.

And one day, when she texted me goodnight, I replied to her text by saying goodnight without including any emoji at the end of my text.

She immediately picked up her phone and called me to complain about how that was cold and not so loving.

So, there is really just one main point I want you to take away from this story.

You can arouse an incredibly strong emotional response from a woman by doing something different than what she expects you to do.

Value giving text to make her like you

As mentioned earlier, a lot of dating coaches advise sending memes or cute little pictures as a way to give “value” to a girl over text.

But, the idea that these texts will provide a sufficient enough value to a girl’s life to make her want to see you is ludicrous.

Girls tag each other on memes and puppy pictures all the time.

They don’t need you to be doing that for her.

So, what are some actual values that you can provide to an attractive woman?

And it is rather simple

Invite her to cool parties and events.

Girls respond incredibly well to status.

When you invite her to join you on these cool parties and events, not only are you adding value to her life, but you will also demonstrate you are a high-status man who is well-liked by others to be invited to such cool events.

When her perception toward you starts to change, it is very possible for her to start developing feelings for you.

Consider calling her

I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again.

Don’t hesitate to call a girl if all this texting advice is giving you a headache.

In fact, calling a girl is usually a much better way to make a girl like you rather than texting her.

You are able to express so much more with your voice than words alone, so it is a lot easier to convey emotion and make a woman feel something when talking on the phone.

A lot of men are hesitant to pick up their phone because everyone has gotten so used to text messaging as opposed to talking on the phone.

But, you need to understand you will get the same result that everyone else gets if you follow what the masses are doing.

If you want to rise above the crowd, then you can’t be afraid to stand out a little, and that means picking up the phone to call her and making her day.

Remember, you are going to have to talk to her anyway when you see her in person.

So, you might as well get used to talking to her now.

Anyway, those are my tips on how you can make a girl like you over text.

I hope you implement some of the texting tips you learned here to transform your dating life for the better!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.