Let’s first start out by talking about what you shouldn’t do after a breakup if you want to make her chase you.
Do not profess your love
It is tempting to tell your ex-girlfriend how much you miss her after a breakup.
Men have been led to believe it is best to be honest when it comes to communication with girls.
But, it is usually not the best idea to be transparent about how much you miss her after a breakup.
Your ex-girlfriend has already moved on from you.
You need to ask why she broke up with you in the first place.
It is most likely because she believes she has more to lose by being in a relationship with you than being alone.
She thinks it is a crappy deal to be in a relationship with you.
So, what do you think will happen when you tell your ex how much you love her when she thinks lowly of you?
Do you think she will suddenly have a change of heart and fall back in love with you?
The chance of that happening is quite slim.
Instead, you will only be letting her know that it was a good decision to break things off with you.
We do not appreciate things that are readily available to us.
The moment we realize we can readily access something is the moment we lose interest in that.
So, it is important that you stay away from showering her with validation when she does not deserve it.
Never pursue a girl who pushes you back.
Utilize no contact
No contact really is the best practice when you are going through a breakup.
Not only will it increase your chance of getting your ex back, but it is also the best way to move on from a girl who broke your heart.
I would love to say I possess a secret tactic to get any girl back into your arms.
But the truth of the matter is that some girls will never come back no matter what you do.
It may be that she’s gotten back with her past lover, or she’s moved to a new city.
Whatever the reason may be, you always need to be prepared for the worst.
And the good news is that no contact really is the best way to move on from your ex.
When she is out of your sight, she will be out of your mind.
The less time you are ‘exposed’ to her, the easier it will be for you to forget about her.
This doesn’t mean it is going to be easy to forget about her especially if you’ve spent a lot of quality time together in your relationship.
You are going to suffer, and you are going to cry.
But, time will eventually heal things, and going no contact will help speed up this painful process.
No contact on your ex will also intensify her curiosity.
If you guys have been in a relationship for a long time, it is going to be nearly impossible for her to not wonder what you are up to when you disappear from her life.
She will feel as if all of those times spent together meant nothing. This feeling will make it very difficult for her to not reach out to you.
When she does end up re-initiating contact, the power is now in your hands.
You are no longer the one to chase her, and she is now the one who longs for your attention.
At this point, it is much easier to maneuver the direction of your relationship to the way you desire.
I want you to realize that when I say no contact, I really mean no contact.
I advise you to block her from everything.
Block her from every one of your social media accounts, your phone number, and even your e-mail.
When you have any way of contacting her, you will likely cave into temptation.
I want you to completely delete her out of your life for at least a few months.
You can explore the option of becoming friends with her when you have moved on from her.
But, it is best to erase her out of your life until your wound heals.
Jealousy is the most powerful emotion
Have I told you the social proof is possibly one of the strongest emotions you can arouse in a girl? (In fact, I probably talk about it in at least half of my articles because it is THAT powerful).
It is by far the most effective way to bring up your value in a woman’s eyes.
When you tell a girl about how other girls want you, then it comes off like a brag.
But, when she sees with her own eyes that other women find you attractive, it is going to serve as an undeniable proof that you are a desirable man.
So, how can you demonstrate such social proof?
The best way is to demonstrate it in person.
As I said earlier, my primary advice will always be to go no contact on her.
But in case you still have to see her whatever reason, this is what I recommend you do.
I want you to avoid initiating a conversation with her even when you see her in person. Instead, I want you to interact with other attractive girls in the environment.
You need to let her know she is no longer the center of your universe.
You obviously do not want to do this in an obvious, lame manner that clearly telegraphs to a girl you are only acting in such a manner to induce jealousy in her.
You want to act natural and actually have fun with other girls.
Not only will this induce intense jealousy in your ex, but this will make her realize she is not your only option.
And that will serve as a powerful revelation for her.
When your girlfriend feels you have no problem getting with someone who she feels is objectively better than her, your value is going to skyrocket in her eyes.
We are naturally drawn to someone who doesn’t need us.
The more you can demonstrate that your life will be perfectly fine without her, the better.
Another way to demonstrate your social proof is via social media.
You may be thinking, “But, didn’t you tell me to block her from all of my social media accounts?”
Yes, but you can bet she is going to create another account just so she can stalk on your social media accounts.
So, what type of pictures should you post?
It is best to post pictures of you hanging out with other attractive girls in a natural setting.
When it looks like you are posing for pictures to show the world that you are hanging out with hot girls, it is certainly going to appear try-hard.
For this reason, it is a lot better if you look natural in your pictures as if someone took a picture of you and the girls without you even realizing it.
That being said, I highly recommend you stay away from using any of the aforementioned advice as a ‘tactic’.
Do all of the things I’ve mentioned in this section as a natural by-product of you moving on from your ex-girlfriend.
The truth is that your ex is much more likely to come back when she senses you’ve completely moved on from her.
But, the chances are you probably don’t even want her by the time she wants you back.
During the time of heartache (from a breakup), your brain convinces you into believing she is the best you will ever come across in your lifetime.
But, as soon as you start meeting other girls, you will quickly realize there really was nothing special about your ex.
She wasn’t particularly any hotter than other attractive girls (unless you’ve dated a Victoria Secret model, or a celebrity).
And she wasn’t any more caring and compassionate compared to other nice women.
You need to realize there is no such thing as ‘the one’.
There is a ‘pool of girls’ that are compatible with you, and any and every girl is replaceable.
It may sound harsh, but it is a cold, hard truth.
The sooner you accept this, the less needy you will be with one particular girl.