How To Have Game

So how do you get game and why would you want to learn game in the first place?

The reason is quite simple actually.

Learning how to “game” girls levels the playing field for a guy who has not been so blessed with amazing genetics.

Before the internet era, you would’ve been shit out of luck – when it comes to finding the necessary information for you to develop yourself into an attractive man.

Thanks to the internet, everyone has access to every information that he needs to transform his life.  

But, how exactly do you filter out the most valuable pieces of advice in this sea of information.

Because as both Warren Buffett and Bill Gates said, “Focus is the key to success.”

Without it, you’ll just be spinning your wheels and amassing useless knowledge which further stifles you from taking action.

So I’m going to lay out in this article – what I know are the most vital determinants when it comes to developing and mastering game.

The first thing I will cover is…

Learning how to lead 

Without know how to lead, nothing happens.

There was a point where I was extremely good at getting attraction from girls, but I had a huge mental blockage when it comes to leading girls.

Needless to say, I did not get any result whatsoever apart from a few make-outs and collecting phone numbers.

Knowing how to lead does not come naturally for most guys that get into this.

Largely because most guys who get into game come from the background of being very socially awkward – and always struggled to voice their opinion.

There is no easy answer to this other than to start leading despite your inner resistance.

The more you do it, the more you get used it.

Over time, it will become second nature.

The second point I want to talk about is…

Knowing how to escalate sexually 

This is also the part a lot of guys struggle with – largely due to inexperience.

I’m sure I don’t need to tell you the importance of knowing how to sexually escalate.

You will inevitably feel uncomfortable the first few times you bring a girl back to your place.

As I said earlier, there’s no simple solution other than to just escalate despite your fear.

If you are so crippled by anxiety to the point you simply cannot even fathom escalating sexually – then just have a few drinks before making a move.

I know some are extremely against drinking to channel courage – but it can be a useful tool for inexperienced guys as long as they don’t let it become their crutch all the time.

It’s not the end of the world if she doesn’t want to do anything with you physically – we’ve all been there.

The third point for developing that rock solid game is to…

Learn how to move her emotion

Pretty much any and every important decision we make in our life are “emotionally” made.

What we buy… the friends we make… the girl(s) we get into a relationship with… or even a career we choose.

We make decisions on most of those – based on how they make us feel.

Knowing this, it’s vital you become the master of moving another person’s emotion.

A lot of guys make a mistake of trying to “logically” persuade a girl on why she should like him.

He may flaunt his money… or try to impress her by talking about his impressive career… or try to “explain” to her why he’s a perfect fit for her.

The problem, once again, is that girls (and people in general) do not make their decisions based on how logical your proposition sounds.

On a side note, this is also the reason why you almost never ever want to get into an argument with a girl

Because nothing good will come out of the interaction whether you win the argument or not.

Anyway, going back to the topic..

As Carl Buehner said, “People will forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel”.

How then do you become a guy who can invoke her emotion?

There really is no simple answer to this. unfortunately.

I can talk about all the gamey techniques – push and pull lines – talk about negs, teasing, take-aways – which I’ve covered in many of my other articles.

But, learning the art of persuasion is a life-long process.

And you simply need to become the student of the subject.

You can check out some of my other articles to learn about powerful psychological triggers that will draw people into you.

The last point I want to make is…

Developing a callus in your brain to be okay with rejection 

While this may not be the most “actionable” advice… it is, without a doubt… the most important characteristic you need to cultivate – if you want to learn how to attract women (or reach mastery in any area of your life for that matter in my humble opinion).

Too many guys completely get in their head after one rejection.

And there is a massive downtime from the time they get rejected to the time they approach the next girl.

Not only that… but they never fully let go of that negative energy they had bottled in from the rejection they had prior – as they go approach the next girl.

As Winston Churchill says, success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

You simply have to let go of that negative emotion and almost learn to have fun with rejection.

Here is the article I wrote about how you can accomplish this.

Lastly, I just want to hammer in on the fact that it is very hard to sustain going out – if you do not learn how to have fun during this entire process.

I’ve seen way too many guys get “bitter” about game after going out for a certain period – because they were all about chasing that “next” girl.

They most likely would not have become such a jaded human being – if they had learned how to genuinely enjoy this entire process of getting good with girls.

Anyway, that’s it for today.

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About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.