In this article, you will learn about one weird way – but brutally effective – to handle traumatic rejection from a girl
And it’s probably not what you are thinking of.
You are probably aware of different mindsets and tactics that are preached by dating coaches in the industry.
Some talk about the importance of meditating to not let rejections get to you.
Some talk about the importance of re-framing rejection… and say do not worry because she doesn’t even know who you really are.
But what are the actual practical ways of dealing with rejection – that will allow you to approach the next girl with an even better mood than you were in before the rejection?
Sounds like an impossible task..?
Just hang in there.
This is exactly what Jewish people did – without realizing it – to withstand emotional turmoil that they had experienced during the Holocaust.
I think we can both agree if “this” was good enough for Jewish people to help keep their sanity during the Holocaust – then it should most likely be good enough for you to handle rejection from some random girl you barely know.
So what exactly is that?
Even during the most emotionally traumatizing times that any human can experience – Jewish people managed to incorporate humor into their lives to withstand their sufferings.
You may be wondering by this point… how exactly do I use humor to handle rejection from a girl?
There’s a lot of different ways you can accomplish this but, whatever you do, it should not violate this one key principle.
You should say whatever that makes YOU laugh.
Let’s think for a moment.
The entire point of using humor during or after rejection is to make yourself feel better.
But many guys make a mistake of saying something that they think will make the girl laugh.
Then they go into even further negative spiral of thoughts when the girl doesn’t give the reaction they were secretly hoping for.
You need to completely detach yourself from this validation seeking behavior.
You need only focus on…
What makes “you” burst out laughing.
What makes “you” feel good.
When you can do that then it becomes easy to figure out how to respond to a girl rejecting you.
It’s possible that you may be so emotionally suppressed you almost forgot how to laugh.
If that’s the case, I have a simple suggestion for you.
That is to…
Simply start observing yourself throughout the day.
Take note of what elevates your mood and fills you up with a happy, positive feeling.
And take note of what type of jokes crack you up.
Do you find self-deprecating jokes funny?
Do you find jokes that are a little dark and absurd funny?
Whatever joke or lines that make you laugh, write them down in your phone.
Otherwise, it will just become another fleeting memory of yours that you will never be able to re-visit.
Then make a note to yourself to use those lines and jokes the next time you are out and you get rejected.
Once again, you are using these jokes for yourself and not to get any reaction out of the girl that rejects you.
Approaching girls just become so much easier once you start peeling away all the “seriousness” in your interaction.
Trying to rely on your “will power” to push through rejections will only make you start despising girls – and you will become hell of a lot more “state” dependent when you are out to talk to girls.
When you get a good reaction from a girl, you will be super pumped.
And when you get a bad reaction from a girl, you will feel a steep decline in your emotions.
It’s hard to sustain anything you do when you are experiencing such a fluctuation in your emotion on a daily basis.
That’s why it is important to cultivate that mindset of not taking anything seriously – especially when it comes to approaching girls that you don’t even know.
And being able to find humor in any and every situation simply is the best way to have that carefree attitude.
I’ll give you a few examples of the type of things I say to make myself laugh when girls reject me.
These examples “specifically” apply to me – so please note I’m simply showing you these examples to show what gets “me” laughing.
Only look at these to get your brain thinking about what type of jokes would make you laugh – and refrain from ever using them unless it genuinely cracks you up too.
1. Aw… are you really going to leave me just like my mom did? (cracks me up because there’s some truth to this..)
2. I knew you wouldn’t like me cause I’m black.. (I’m Asian so I think this line is absolutely retarded and hilarious).
3. I’ll never ever lose my virginity.. (Once again.. cracks me up because I’ve been a virgin for a long fvcking time.)
As a final point, let me expand on the point I had briefly mentioned earlier.
It’s possible that you are the type of person who struggles to find anything funny.
I’ll just tell you this.
My nickname in high school was “Serious Go” because I took everything other people said seriously and literally.
Even when my friend would crack a joke, I would ask what they meant by that.
I would either get offended (if it was a personal joke) or ask my friend what’s supposed to be so funny about the joke he made – because I could not figure that out to save my life.
Needless to say, I wasn’t so popular among my friends.
But I cultivated the ability to find things funny – even when they are not so funny – by simply getting myself used to laughing at jokes when other people were laughing.
And over time, I was able to genuinely laugh at even the stupidest little things.
I can tell you my life is so much better this way – as opposed to when I was micro-analyzing every single word and sentence – when someone would crack a joke.
So just realize it is something you can actually develop.
Anyway, that’s it for today.
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