Isn’t it funny how someone who was once a complete stranger can occupy so much of your mind to the point we feel like we just can’t go on without them?
I still remember my first relationship when I felt like I could give anything to be with her forever.
Nothing in my life mattered more than her.
Even if I were to lose everything else in my life, I felt like I would be just fine as long as she was by my side.
But as with anything else in life, all good things come to an end.
And I had to find a way to crawl back out of that dark pit and rediscover myself again.
It is never an easy process to get over a girl who’s been on your mind (and in your life if she was your girlfriend) for a long time.
There are habits you developed with her such as sending her daily texts or seeing her during certain days of the week.
And breaking these habits is an incredibly draining process because our brain constantly tries to default back into them.
As the saying goes, what you should do instead is to replace your old habits with new habits rather than trying to stop your old habits through sheer willpower.
So let’s get started with some of the best ways I’ve found to get over that girl that runs through your head every day.
You can either waste hours dwelling over her or you can use this traumatic experience as a fuel to grow.
Breaking up with a girl (or finally deciding to let go of that crush of yours) can be an incredible opportunity for you to grow as long as you don’t let it crush you.
You will have plenty of time in your hand to do everything you have always wanted to do and learn things you have always wanted to learn.
As an added bonus, it will also help to speed up the process of recovery (of letting her go) when you keep your brain occupied from engaging in aimless thoughts about her.
So go out there and take up a new hobby. It is even better if you find a hobby where you interact with other people.
As much as all those self-help gurus love talking about being happy on your own, the void that is created from an absence of one person is often best filled with an introduction of others to your life.
Go out and learn something new and form a new connection with others.
Your brain does an amazing job at tricking you into believing that you will never find a girl who is as amazing as she is.
But the sooner you realize it’s all just an illusion created in your head, the better your life will get.
Stay away from being alone as much as you can.
It is really easy to slip back into that spiral of negative thoughts when you are in your room all by yourself.
Spend more time with your friends and family… that’s what they are for – to be there for you through tough times (and of course you will do the same for them when they are going through tough times…)
Sure, you can try reading books or learn things on your own but you will notice your mind would occasionally wander off to think about that girl again.
You want to minimize your alone time for a while and fill up your schedule to spend as much time as you can with others until your pain becomes manageable.
Girls come and go but your family will always be there to stand by your side through tough times.
Pain is often the strongest motivator for a lot of people to make a meaningful change.
Without pain, there is often no urgency nor a sense of need for you to really take that extra step to transform yourself.
Instead of trying to ignore your pain, delve deep into it and amplify it.
Let your pain drive you to strengthen your emotional resilience to the point you won’t let such trivial incidents in your life shake you up.
Read books on self-help… start meditating… become more in tune with your body and thoughts.
Take your consciousness to the next level by learning and practicing things that give your body and mind more clarity
But more importantly, I want you to realize this.
Your life was fine before you met her and your life will continue to be fine even without her.
It’s hard to imagine a life without her when you are so used to being with her and thinking about her all day.
You feel like you will never ever be the same again.
But time really does heal everything.
And the entire point of any tips that are given in this article is to “speed up” the time of recovery so you can lessen the amount of time you think about her.
When I broke up with my first girlfriend, I thought I would never ever be able to get over her.
I genuinely feared I would never find someone who is as good as her.
And guess what?
Fast forward two years later, I amassed incredible experiences I never thought I would have during my lifetime and I’ve been with plenty of girls who far surpassed my first girlfriend both in terms of personality and physical attractiveness.
But it is not even about the girls I have been with but rather who I have become in the process.
I had to completely kill my old self and eradicate any drop of shyness that I had left in my system to become a new and better version of myself.
Without experiencing that painful process of getting over her, I most likely would not have had enough leverage to elevate myself to that next level.
So learn to embrace the pain…
Every time you feel pain, realize it is an opportunity for you to grow.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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