How To Get A Woman’s Attention

So, why do you want to get a woman’s attention in the first place? Why is it so important?

Well… nothing can really happen between you and the girl without you first getting her attention.

If you don’t get her attention, then you are not even giving her a chance to get to know anything about you.

We can use the same analogy as writing a sales letter for the company you are marketing for.

The goal of any advertising is to first get people’s attention.

It does not matter if 99% of your sales letter is written perfectly.

If the headline and the picture (what people immediately notice) of your sales letter do not grab people’s attention right off the bat, then the rest of your sales letter won’t even get a chance to be read.

The same principle applies when it comes to interacting with women, and that is precisely why it is vital to learn how to get a woman’s attention.

So, let’s dive right in if you are ready.

Your body language

I said this before and I’ll say it again. Your body language precedes everything.

Women usually notice your body language before you even open your mouth, and she will make an immediate judgment based on how you carry yourself.

In fact, we all make a judgment about others based on how they carry themselves.

You probably do not consciously do this, but if you look back on your interactions with others, you would realize you tend to treat people with more respect when they carry themselves well.

If you walk with an impeccable posture while being relaxed and comfortable in your own body, then that will instantly grab most women’s attention.

Many men spend a lot of their time agonizing over what to say, but they fail to realize their chances are ruined before they even speak a word due to their poor body language.

By no means am I suggesting you walk around like an arrogant douchebag with your arms spread out to the side and your chins facing toward the sky.

But, I want you to walk around with a confident, upright posture that commands respect rather than repulsion from others.

This will communicate to women that you are a man who deems himself as worthy of respect, and they will treat you accordingly.

Your voice

Your voice can really be one of the most powerful ways to grab a woman’s attention if used properly.

It is really difficult to not acknowledge your presence when you speak with a powerful voice with conviction.

On the other hand, it is incredibly easy for a girl to ignore your presence if you have a weak voice.

When your voice has no substance, women will label you as boring and uninteresting before you even get a chance to fully show your personality.

Have you ever had times when you met someone for the first time, and the person did not particularly stand out to you, but as soon as he opened his mouth, you could not help but acknowledge his presence due to his powerful voice?

There is a reason why top singers get paid millions of dollars to perform on stage.

Most of us are wired to gravitate toward people with attractive voices.

So, how should you speak to get a woman’s attention?

The simple answer is to vary your tone, so you sound more interesting.

You can tell the most mundane stories, but it will sound interesting if you know “how” to speak your words.

When you speak with a linear, boring tone, then a girl’s brain will shut off.

When you vary your tone, it will wake her brain up before her mind wanders away.

It is also important to speak with conviction.

Most men speak as if they don’t believe in what they say.

When a woman feels like there is no conviction in the swords you say, it is going to be hard for her to take your words seriously.

A lot of intelligent men suffer from this phenomenon.

The more you learn, the more you realize there are no absolutes in life, so you stay away from making any conclusive statements.

And this often shows in the way you speak and the way you carry yourself.

And you are most likely one of those intelligent men if you are reading this article because stupid people rarely seek to gain knowledge.

An ignorant person tends to have a strong belief in whatever bias he holds, and he speaks his thoughts as if it is God’s words.

This is one of many reasons why less intelligent men often do better with women than their counterparts.

But, now that you are aware of this, you are equipped with the knowledge to avoid this pitfall.

So, practice speaking with conviction whenever you express your thoughts and opinions, and the girl won’t be able to help but take your words seriously.

Your fashion

While I will freely admit I am not qualified to give any sort of in-depth fashion advice, I can attest to the power your fashion has over grabbing women’s attention.

The long term solution to dialing in your fashion is to develop a nice physique and wear clothes that fit your body.

A good physique with a mediocre fashion (as long as it fits your body) will almost always triumph over a bad physique with a great fashion.

So, start hitting the gym and don’t be afraid to wear clothes that feel a little tight on your body once you develop a nice physique.

You should also not be afraid to stand out a little without being outlandish.

You certainly do not want to stand out because you dressed up like a clown. That would be an example of getting attention for the wrong reason.

But, feel free to try something that you normally wouldn’t wear.

It can be wearing a ring on your finger or a necklace you normally wouldn’t wear.

You can always change if you don’t like what you try, but do not ever be reluctant to try wearing new things to see if they suit you.

Social proof

Social proof works amazingly well when it comes to getting a woman’s attention.

Our brain is hardwired to respond to a higher status person in the environment.

And social proof increases your status immensely in women’s eyes.

When she sees every man and woman around you respond to you favorably, then she will naturally assume you must be someone important.

Social proof is so powerful in that I would go as far as saying it is probably one of the most powerful triggers you can utilize to get attention from hot women if you are an average man.

Women can’t help but feel attraction toward a man who commands respect from other men and trigger lust from other women.

So, it is smart to be friends with as many cool people as you possibly can in an environment you frequent.

She will naturally get curious about you and her head will be filled with all sorts of questions such as…

How does he know all of these people?

What does he do?

Is this man aware of my existence?

As her attention gravitates toward you, and she starts to think more about you, you will slowly take up more space in her mind.

Smile often

There is nothing quite like a nice smile that captures the attention of another person.

It instantly makes you stand out to women because it is rare to come across a man who rocks a confident smile.

When you are out at a bar or the club, what type of women are you most likely to approach?

Would you prefer to approach a woman with the meanest looking face, or would you rather approach a woman with a welcoming smile (even if she is not as hot)?

The answer is most likely the latter for most men.

A lot of women feel the same way especially when they don’t know anything about the guy.

They would rather talk to a moderately attractive man who makes them feel comfortable over an incredibly attractive man who induces an anxiety attack.

And there is nothing like a nice smile that helps the other person feel more at ease.

So, practice having a light smile or a playful smirk as your default facial expression.

When you make eye contact with a woman, give her a playful smile.

There are some dating experts who believe you should wait until a girl smiles first before you smile.

And their reason is that smiling first is a sign of submissive behavior, and it will make you appear weak.

I personally do not agree with this because I view this from a different frame of mindsets.

When you smile at a woman, then she smiles back unless she is weird with no social skill, so you are getting her to “react” to your behavior.

The person who constantly reacts to another person is the submissive one in the interaction.

You can also view this through the lens of leading the interaction.

When you smile, she smiles. When you suggest doing something, she follows.

You are getting her used to follow your leads. By doing this, you are doing her a favor instead of being manipulative.

Most women desire a man with strong leadership. They don’t want some weak, beta male that cannot make decisions.

So, be that strong leader who can capture her attention with a confident smile.

Online profile

Your online profile can be massive when it comes to getting a woman’s attention in this day and age.

When you have amazing profiles and pictures on your social media accounts, it is going to work like gangbuster in grabbing a girl’s attention.

If you scoffed at this statement, I want you to reflect back on your own life.

How many times have you randomly come across an online profile of someone that you are sort of acquainted with, and your perception of the person completely changed after seeing he does some amazing things with his life?

You can convey a lot about yourself with the pictures and videos you post online.

You can show that you are a normal, social guy when you post a picture of you with your attractive female friends.

You can show that you are adventurous when you post a picture of you partaking in exciting activities.

Not only can you convey a lot of your positive attributes with what you post, but these posts can also serve to help the person looking at y our posts to feel more connected to you.

Why do people feel so connected to some online influencers although they have never even met them in real life?

Because when you are constantly exposed to these influences through pictures and videos, you start to become more familiar with them and even develop an emotional connection with them.

So, don’t underestimate the power of your online presence when it comes to getting attention from women.

It can become one of your most powerful weapons if you know how to utilize it properly.

Anyway, that is about the best advice I can give you for getting a woman’s attention.

It is time for you to make a change in your dating life by going out there and taking action!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.