So, is it possible for an average guy to get a hot girlfriend, or should you just give up if you don’t look like Brad Pitt?
Let’s explore the truth in this article.
I want to first say that it is certainly not easy for an average guy to ‘consistently’ get hot girls.
But, if you play your cards right, you will significantly increase your chance of attracting hot girls.
And you will soon discover exactly what it takes for an average man to attract hot girls.
You only live once, so you may as well date a hot girl who is compatible with you rather than settling for an average girl (I do want to note, however, that there is a lot more you want to consider than just her looks if you are looking for something more serious with a girl).
1. Increase your status
It shouldn’t surprise you to hear that your status can exert a great deal of influence on your chances with hot girls.
Generally speaking, a man who has the highest status in an environment is the most attractive man to a girl.
The highest status man in any given environment is the man with the most power and influence.
Women are wired to respond to men who command respect from others.
A hot girl is especially going to respond well to status.
An average girl may not possess enough confidence to date a man with high status since she realizes she is going to struggle to keep him away from other attractive women.
But, a hot woman is more likely to be confident in her ability to keep a high-status man’s interest.
You don’t necessarily have to be the president of the United States or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company for you to be able to use status to your advantage.
In fact, being a yoga instructor, or a ‘cool varsity athlete’ is enough for a girl to perceive you a little differently (in a positive way) than others.
Speaking from my own experience, my favorite (and the easiest) way to elevate my status in any environment is to become the guy who is most well-connected with others in that environment.
For example, if you go to the gym frequently, talk to people there and be friendly to every person you interact with.
We are social animals, so when we see a person who knows a lot of people, the person’s status automatically becomes elevated in our eyes.
2. Improve your physical attractiveness
Looks do not matter as much for men as it does for women.
But, that does not mean it is not important.
It simply means you have other means (as a man) of making yourself more attractive rather than your appearance alone.
So, it is not a necessity to have good looks, but it undoubtedly helps a lot.
A few studies show that hot women are especially drawn to men who are physically attractive.
And it is most likely for the same reason we had mentioned in the previous section.
A beautiful woman is more likely to be confident in her ability to keep a man who is physically attractive compared to average women.
With that being said, what is the best way to improve your physical attractiveness?
Are you out of luck if you haven’t won the genetic lottery?
There are actually a lot of things you can do to improve your appearance apart from the things that you can’t change.
The easiest thing you can improve is your hairstyle, and it also often gives you the most bang for your buck.
It is on you to experiment with your hairstyle to find the one that suits you the best.
Although some men look good with long hair or a man bun, most men are better off keeping their hair short and clean.
There is not much advice I can give here other than encouraging you to experiment and figure out the best style for yourself.
When you get a haircut, and you notice a lot of people giving you compliments, then it is probably a style that suits you well.
Brush and floss your teeth, clip your fingernails, and wear deodorants.
Anything signs that show you do not take good care of yourself will drive a girl away from you.
You may be able to get away with poor hygiene if your goal is to date an average girl with an equally poor hygiene.
But, you simply cannot afford to neglect your hygiene if you want to date an attractive girl.
A beautiful girl who takes care of herself is going to expect the same from her man.
If you look like a basement dweller who never took a shower in his life, then she is not even going to give you the time of day.
So, what are some of the checklists you want to go over to make sure your personal hygiene is on point?
- You need to make sure you don’t smell. If you have bad breath, that is a surefire way to kill a girl’s attraction. Not only should you brush and floss your teeth daily, but I also recommend you to chew gums when you are out talking to girls just to make sure your breath is extra fresh.
- You also want to make sure you wear deodorant if you tend to sweat a lot. Your attractiveness will easily go from a hundred to zero if you walk around with terrible body odor.
- Avoid foods, such as garlic and onions that make your body produce a strong odor. It doesn’t matter how much you shower and wear deodorant if your body is non-stop producing an unbearable smell.
- Make sure to clip your nails on a regular basis. There is nothing attractive about long fingernails with dirt underneath. It will make a girl want to throw up and run far from you.
- Wash your clothes. Don’t walk around with stained shirts. If you look like a bum, then you will be treated like one. A hot girl cares a lot about how others perceive her. She is not going to want to be seen with you in public if you don’t at least have enough social intelligence to dress like a normal, clean human being. This doesn’t mean it is necessary to get all fancy with the way you dress, but it does mean you have to look presentable if you want to maximize your chance of attracting beautiful girls.
3. Change your environment
So, how does your environment play a role in attracting hot girls?
For example, if you are an Asian man, you are going to have an easier time attracting hot girls in Asian countries compared to Western countries.
Some racial groups (Asians and Indians) are negatively depicted in Western media and that influences your perceived values in a girl’s eyes.
Does this mean you should relocate to a completely different country just so you can maximize your dating potential? Not necessarily.
Being an attractive person still has a bigger influence on attracting girls than your cultural background.
An Asian or Indian man who is attractive will still do better with women than an unattractive man of other races.
But, it would be naïve to deny things aren’t a little more difficult for ethnic minorities.
So, how can you use this information to your advantage?
If you are an ethnic minority living in North America, and you have a job that allows you to travel to different countries, it’s useful to know that you will have a significantly easier time attracting hot women when you are in Asia, Europe, or South America.
4. Transform your personalities
Your personality (and your confidence) matters a lot for attracting beautiful girls.
Not only do girls look at your physical appearance, but they also put a heavy emphasis on the behaviors you demonstrate.
It really doesn’t matter if you are model looking if you carry yourself like someone who doesn’t have a lot of confidence.
Your lack of confidence and charisma will drive a lot of girls away from you.
But, we’ve already hammered home the topic of how to be confident with attractive girls in my previous articles.
So, let’s instead talk about the type of personality that is the best for attracting girls.
While there is no one personality type that appeals to all girls, I’ve found having ‘playfulness’ in your personality to be an essential ingredient for attracting girls.
We all want to have more fun, whether you are rich, poor, tall, or short.
When you can keep the overall tone of the interaction light and playful with girls, you are going to have a much easier time attracting them as opposed to having a serious conversation.
Most men make a mistake of having a serious conversation with a girl too soon, and that ends up taking away playfulness from the interaction.
There is a time and place for a serious conversation, such as when you are sharing your vulnerabilities to deepen your connection with a girl.
But, it is something you want to avoid when you are just getting to know a girl.
So, don’t be afraid to crack jokes and tease her.
You do not have to worry about being super witty.
As long as you keep things positive, most girls are going to respond well even if what you say isn’t super funny.
It is more about your energy (with your vocal tone, body language, and the way you look at a girl) rather than what you say to a girl.