How To Get A Girl’s Attention

The first step to attracting a girl is to get her attention.

When you do not have her full attention, there really is not much you can do to make a girl fall for you.

But, how do you become the master of commanding a girl’s attention?

Well, that is exactly what we are going to discuss in this article.

Here are the 17 ways to capture a girl’s attention.

1. Project a positive energy

Emitting positive energy is a sure way to get a girl’s attention.

In fact, it is one of the best ways to grab people’s attention in general.

Depression and anxiety are at an all-time high especially among young people, thanks to the rise of the internet and social media.

It is becoming rarer to come across a person who has a smile on his or her face.

Not only is your positive energy going to capture a girl’s attention, but it will also let her know you are capable of regulating your own emotion.

Many girls are already as moody as they are, and they don’t want their men to be the same way.

How can she possibly not pay attention to you when you are the source of her happiness, every time she sees you?

2. Make her laugh

A girl cannot help but feel a favorable feeling toward a man who makes her laugh.

This does not automatically mean she is going to be into you, but you can rest assured knowing that she at least has some level of interest.

A study has found that when people were made to hold a pen in their mouth (forced smile) while watching a cartoon, they rated the show as being more enjoyable to watch than those who did not have a pen in their mouth.

Making a girl laugh has much the same effect.

When a girl constantly laughs while she spends time with you, she is going to associate that positive emotion with you, and she will start to feel a stronger attraction toward you.

But, one thing you want to avoid doing is making too many self-deprecating jokes.

When you constantly joke about how short you are, or how stupid you are, it may make a girl laugh, but it is also going to diminish your value in a girl’s eyes.

These jokes are fine every once in a while, but you do not want to over-do them.

3. Be charismatic

If you are charismatic, you will hold a girl’s attention.

But what does it mean to be charismatic anyway?

There are several different ways you can become more charismatic, and we will talk about how you can accomplish that in greater detail in the latter part of this article, but let’s briefly go over a few here.

You first want to make sure you speak with passion. Avoid speaking with a monotone voice.

Have you ever taken a class in school where the lecturer spoke with the most boring, monotone?

It probably did not matter if he was talking about the most interesting thing in the world. It would have been incredibly difficult for you to pay attention to what he was saying because he did not know how to speak in an interesting way.

That is why you need to improve your voice if you want to be heard.

It is also important for you to eliminate any sort of weird nervous habits you may have when you are talking to a girl.

When you exhibit a lot of pacifying behaviors, such as flinching, fidgeting, and awkwardly laughing, it is going to take attention away from what you are saying.

The girl is then going to assume you must be a low-value male who is not confident in himself.

4. Do not reveal too much

Do not kill your mystery by rambling on and on about yourself if you want to hold a girl’s attention.

Make her wonder a little about you. The more curious she gets about you, the more she is going to think about you when you are not around her.

So, you will essentially be holding her attention even in the absence of your presence.

Many girls love trying to figure out what type of man you are.

Don’t take that gift away from her by revealing every little thing about yourself the first time you meet her.

There is a reason why girls find it more attractive when a guy smirks instead of making a wide, ear to ear smile.

It is because your intention appears more unclear when you smirk, which adds a bit of mysteriousness to your overall aura.

While you are not going to be able to maintain mysteriousness forever, it is an important part of the initial attraction phase.

By the way, this does not mean you should be disengaged when you interact with a girl because that will just backfire, and make a girl lose interest.

But, it does mean you need to keep your mouth closed every so often.

5. Speak with certainty

This is one of those areas where most men struggle.

Most men sound depressed when they speak, and they often speak with zero conviction.

A study has found a strong correlation between the tone of a person’s voice and severe depression.

It was revealed in the study that a participant who spoke with a monotone was much more likely to be suffering from severe depression than those who varied their tone more frequently.

So, when a girl hears you speak in a monotone, not only is she going quickly lose interest because you sound boring, she may also conclude you must be a sad, depressed person (which is never a good impression to leave).

There is no easy way to fix this apart from being aware of how you sound to others, and constantly putting an effort into speaking with more conviction, when you interact with people as you go about your day.

It is also a good idea to study a lot of great speakers, and really break down what makes them such an engaging speaker.

When you see a common pattern among all great speakers, it is probably a good idea for you to adopt the same habit.

6. Tease her

Teasing a girl is a great way to get her attention because it lets her know you do not put her on a pedestal.

This is especially good when you are talking to attractive girls because most men are quick to supplicate to them.

You do not have a mental bandwidth to tease a girl when you are stuck in your own head, and you are obsessively worried about what she thinks of you.

So, it is a great way to let yourself and others know that you are comfortable in your own skin.

But, you want to make sure you are playful when you tease a girl.

Many men make a mistake of not being playful enough when they tease a girl, and they often just end up offending her.

In fact, it is important for you to try to sprinkle in that playfulness along every part of your interaction with girls.

Have you ever met one of those guys who seem to be able to get away with saying anything?

This is exactly how they do it.

They are able to say things in a playful way and make it difficult for others to get mad, even if what they say may be considered offensive.

7. Be seen with hot girls

Now, we are onto the topic of social proof. There is nothing quite like social proof that grabs people’s attention.

Social proof is one of those triggers that every multi-billion dollar companies utilize to attract customers.

Why do you think you see Michael Jordan in the Nike commercial?

They are using him as a social proof to indirectly communicate to viewers that their brand is so good that even a legendary athlete like Michael Jordan uses their products.

If we are strictly talking about dating, the biggest social proof you can have is another hot girl.

When you are seen with hot girls, it indirectly communicates a lot of positive things about you to other girls.

First, it says you are not an awkward, weird guy since hot girls won’t be hanging out with a creep.

It also says you have a good personality since hot girls have more than enough options when it comes to who they choose to spend their time with.

A lot of girls will also show interest to prove themselves by trying to get your attention away from the hot girl you are with (girls are very competitive, and many have strong desires to prove they are better than the other one).

8. Listen instead of talking

Just keep your mouth closed and listen.

Take interest in getting to know the girl. We are all naturally selfish, and we love talking about ourselves.

Make the girl feel comfortable enough to open herself up to you, and she will start to feel there is a special connection between you and her, although she may know nothing about you.

Many men make a mistake of rambling on about their achievements, and all of the cool things they have done in their lives.

But little do they realize they come off as incredibly lame, and it only makes girls lose interest.

There is definitely a time and place for sharing your stories, thoughts, and opinions.

But for the most part, you want to let a girl talk instead of putting a focus of the conversation on you.

And being a good listener is not as simple as you bombarding her with one question after another.

When you don’t actually care about what a girl says, she will easily sense that, and she is going to turn her back away from you.

So, the key really is to take a genuine interest in getting to know her.

9. Pierce into her eyes

If you want to capture a girl’s attention, look into her pupils.

How many times do you think an attractive girl comes across a man who can hold eye contact while being completely relaxed in his own skin?

When you are able to look into her eyes without any fear of judgment or nervousness, you will stand out in her mind.

Women look into your eyes, first and foremost, to judge what type of man you are.

If she sees you flinch or nervously look away, she is going to automatically categorize you as a man she can’t take seriously.

I need to warn you, however, that there are a couple of things you want to avoid when you are making eye contact with her.

Some men get too obsessed with maintaining eye contact that they keep their eyes glued onto a girl for the entirety of their interaction with a girl.

This is going to scare the girl out, and you will be putting way too much pressure on her.

Maintain good solid eye contact for about 80% of the interaction, but don’t forget to look away (but NOT in an abrupt manner) every now and then.

You also do not want to tense muscles around your eyes. This gives you a very unnatural look, and it is going to make a girl feel way too uncomfortable to continue to talk to you.

10. Send mixed signals

This is similar to the concept of mysteriousness we mentioned earlier.

If you only supply a girl with one type of emotion, you are going to be predictable in her eyes.

When you become predictable, she is going to find you uninteresting, and it does not matter if it is a positive or negative emotion.

Someone who is always positive is going to appear fake and boring, and someone who is always negative is going to appear try-hard and unpleasant.

So, the key is to find that sweet spot.

Just when she is about to think you are this “nice guy” who only compliments a girl, throw in some tease to catch her off guard.

Just when she is about to think you are this “bad boy” who plays with a girl’s heart, open yourself up to her to show your more genuine side.

Not only will you appear more interesting in a girl’s eyes, but these mixed signals are also going to confuse the crap out of her brain.

And she won’t be able to resist continuously thinking about you in her head.

11. Be vulnerable

So, why is being vulnerable so effective in grabbing a girl’s attention and her heart?

It is because you are connecting to her on a deep emotional level instead of just scratching the surface layer of her emotion.

This is what is going to turn you into a guy that a girl says, “I don’t know what it is, but there is just something different about him…”

You may not even be her ideal type in terms of physical attractiveness, but you are going to be able to create such a strong bond that she can’t help but choose you over other more physically attractive men.

On top of that, most men are terrible at opening themselves up to another person.

Many of us wrongly believe we are showing our weakness by being vulnerable to others.

But, you need to realize it actually takes a stronger man to share his mistakes and flaws.

It does not mean you need to present yourself in such a way that you are begging for others to accept you.

No, you simply put your real self out there, and if others don’t accept you, then you are okay with that.

Funnily enough, your detachment from other’s approval will make you become even more magnetic to people around you, and you will begin to effortlessly draw girls (and people in general) into your world.

12. Get into a better shape

Yes, girls do indeed care about your fitness after all.

How many times have you heard girls say they only care about a guy’s personality and confidence?

It is true your personality plays a big part in attracting girls, but it would be foolish to say girls don’t also care about your physical appearance.

If a man’s body was such an insignificant part of the attraction for most girls, why would those erotic novels (that’s been sold millions of times to female readers) go into a vivid description about a chiseled body of the male protagonist?

Not only will your flat stomach and bulging biceps make you appear more attractive to girls, but they will also communicate that you take care of your health.

So, go do some squats and bench press. You won’t regret!

13. Dress to impress

What you wear says a lot about who you are.

If you think what someone wears does not matter, then think again.

Let’s say you see someone wearing a police officer uniform, and another person looking homeless.

The way you perceive those people will be entirely different before you even get to know them, just because of what they are wearing.

So, what you decide to wear can be a very powerful way to communicate your personality and status.

The first and foremost principle you want to keep in mind when it comes to which outfit you decide to wear is to wear something that fits your body.

For you to actually look good in fitted shirts, you would first have to sculpt an attractive body, which is why it is important for you to spend some time in the gym.

A cheap, fitted plain T-shirt on a lean body will look infinitely better than an expensive wardrobe on an out-of-shape body.

You also want to be aware of how you should dress depending on the type of environment you are in.

How foolish would it be for you to wear a suit when you are going to a hip hop club?

Wearing clothes that fit the environment shows you have a basic level of social intelligence, and it will also help you to be accepted as part of a group, rather than being perceived as an outsider.

14. Fix your posture

How you carry yourself makes a big difference in how girls perceive you.

When you walk around with confidence, and you walk with a sense of ease, girls will notice that.

But, it is not enough to just walk with an upright posture. Too many men get caught up with standing tall, but they don’t focus on how to become more relaxed while they are walking.

Even if you have a straight posture, you are not going to impress anyone with your posture if you walk around like you have a stick up your behind.

So, how do you become more relaxed with a good posture?

The solution isn’t to simply just walk more. People have been walking around for decades, and most people still have a poor posture.

You need to engage in a deliberate practice that will help you become more relaxed on a frequent basis.

This can be practicing meditation, doing yoga, or getting a massage.

Whatever activity that helps you to loosen up your body and helps your mind to stay calm will do the trick.

What is most important is you do it on a consistent basis.

15. Floss and whiten your teeth

I can’t count how many times girls have told me the first thing that they look at in a guy is a nice smile coupled with white teeth.

As superficial as it may sound, we just instinctively associate whiter teeth with better hygiene and cleanliness.

White teeth just look more visually appealing compared to yellow, stained teeth.

The first step to improving your oral aesthetics is to brush and floss your teeth on a daily basis.

I hope you already are brushing your teeth on a daily basis, but it can be quite annoying to bring yourself to floss your teeth every day if you are not used it.

This is something you just have to endure until it becomes a habit.

It is just like working out.

Initially, it takes a lot of willpower to get off your butt and go to the gym.

But the more you train, the easier it gets. Eventually, you will not need any willpower to go to the gym.

It will become second nature for you to get out of your bed and walk to the gym.

Once you get over the initial hump, you won’t need any willpower for you to floss daily.

16. Find your hairstyle

Optimizing your hairstyle may give you the highest return on investment for getting a girl’s attention.

It is a quick fix, but it will drastically change your impression for the better if you find a hairstyle that suits you well.

If you ever doubt the power of a good (or a bad) haircut, simply look up celebrities rocking different styles of hair, and you will realize how different they look depending on the way they style their hair.

If you are anything like me, you probably have no idea what type of hairstyle suits you the best.

In such a case, it only makes sense for you to seek help from an outside source.

Ask your barber what type of hairstyle he thinks will suit you the best, or lookup on the internet different hairstyles that are supposed to suit your face shape the best.

As with anything else in life, it is going to take some trial and error for you to figure out the right style, but it will totally be worth it.

17. Be confident

Last but not least, your confidence will attract a girl like nothing else.

Throughout this article, we have talked about a couple of traits that will make you appear confident, but it is also important for you to build your core confidence.

When you develop that core confidence, it will spread to every other area of your life.

You are killing two birds with one stone by developing your core confidence.

So, what then is the best way to develop your core confidence?

Do you develop it by staring at yourself in the mirror and do positive affirmations every day?

Or should you read hours of self-help books until you finally change your belief about yourself?

In my experience, the best way I have found to develop core confidence is to never stop growing.

And this doesn’t have to be something grand.

It can be working on your career, improving your eating habit, going to the gym more frequently, or reading more books.

Whatever activity that allows you to grow as a person in any area of life that you value is going to have a positive effect on building your core confidence.

As you become more confident in yourself, your behaviors are going to change for the better, and girls won’t be able to help but notice your presence.

So, these are my 17 tips on the best ways to get a girl’s attention.

It is now on you to go out there and apply these tips to transform your life!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.