How To Get A Girl To Notice You

So, why is it necessary for you to develop the ability to get a girl to notice you?

Well, nothing really happens without a girl noticing you first. If she does not know about your existence, then there is zero chance anything is ever going to happen between you and her.

Some men may argue that you should just go up to a woman and talk to her instead of waiting for her to notice you.

While there is certainly a time and a place for you to take decisive action without over-thinking, getting a girl to notice you comes with its own advantage in that she will be a lot more receptive to your approach when you finally do talk to her (If she noticed you for the right reasons).

So, without further ado, let’s talk about some of the best ways to get a girl to notice your presence.

Be Positive and Smile

This may sound obvious, but it is rare to come across someone who emits positive energy in real life.

Most people have no problem smiling and laughing in front of people they are comfortable with, but they automatically go into a “stranger danger” mode as soon as they are around people they don’t know.

If you are one of the few people who can let loose around anyone, then you will stand out in a sea of sad and depressed looking people.

There is a misconception that you should not smile in front of women to appear more attractive (That bad boy look if you know what I mean…).

You can throw that idea out of the window if you want to leave a good impression when you meet a girl for the first time.

When you first meet a girl, your goal is to get her comfortable enough around you so that she wants to continue to talk to you.

There is nothing more disarming than a nice, genuine, and relaxed smile.

Do This…

When you enter a room, have a slight smile on your face.

Avoid making one of those big, fake smiles that make you look like a clown.

It is much better to have that slight, relaxed smile (or even a playful smirk) that shows you are comfortable in yourself.

Women pay a lot of attention to how you carry yourself.

If she can sense you are a man who is secure and confident, then half the battle is already won before you even open your mouth.

Show Your Personality Before You Even Talk To Her

One of the best ways to get a girl to notice you (and even like you) before you open your mouth is to show her a “sample” of your personality.

When a girl already thinks you are a cool dude before you talk to her, then she is going to be a lot more receptive toward you when you finally do talk to her.

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One of my favorite ways to accomplish this is to talk to someone who is within her vicinity.

It will work even better if it is another attractive girl.

When you talk to another girl near her, and you have an awesome interaction with her with your positive energy and charm, she is going to feel that.

When she sees this, she will know that you are a normal, confident dude.

As an added bonus, talking to another girl will serve as social proof for you.

This basically means she will conclude you are a “safe choice” since other girls find you attractive.

Or you may even possibly trigger a stronger emotion aka jealousy.

When a girl feels jealous, she may even go out of her way to win you over, even if you are not exactly her type, just so she can show other women that she is more desirable than them.

Anyway, women are extremely sensitive to what other women think, and when you win the approval of one woman, you will often end up winning the approvals of other women as well.

Get To Know Everyone

There are not many things that are more effective than this when it comes to getting a girl to notice you.

And that is, you being friends with everyone in the room.

This can apply to any social settings, whether it is school, work, or gym.

You instantly stand out from other men when a girl can see you are friends with most people in the room.

That communicates to a girl that you are a man with a high degree of social intelligence and status.

And there is nothing like a high-status man that sparks attraction in a girl.

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The solution is simple. Talk to everyone and actually care about them.

There is nothing worse than talking to a fake person who clearly only cares about his self-interest.

When you genuinely take interest in each and every person you talk to, people will become magnetized by your energy.

It is also important to make sure that you talk to men as much as you talk to women.

When you only talk to women, you just appear like a desperate man who is going around hitting on every girl.

On the other hand, when you talk to both men and women, you are just a cool, social dude who loves getting to know others.

It is also important to be mindful of people’s body language.

When you can see that the other person wants to leave, or he is not feeling comfortable talking to you, you do not want to drag out your interaction with him.

When you become proficient at reading how others feel by observing their body language and facial expression, you will become the guy who “gets it”.

And you will easily become the guy that everyone enjoys talking to.

Your Body Language and Facial Expression

Your body language and facial expression precede your verbal.

The first things most girls will notice when they see you are your body language and facial expression.

We form an instant judgment about others based on how they carry themselves.

If you are slouching forward and looking down, she is going to assume you lack confidence.

If you look angry and stiff, she is going to think you are not a safe person to be around, and she will do her best to avoid you.

If you stare at her like a creep with a hidden intention, you are not even going to get a chance to open your mouth before she rejects your advance.

It boggles my mind to see how so many people get fixated on what they should say to a girl when they fail to even carry themselves properly.

When you have a confident, relaxed posture with an attractive smile on your face as you enter any room, how can a girl possibly not notice you?

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Stand straight up with your eyes looking straight ahead (not up or down).

Don’t puff your chest up too much since it will just make you look like a goof.

Don’t unnecessarily tense your back muscles (aka Imaginary Lat Syndrome) to appear wider.

Relax your arms and shoulders, and let them swing naturally.

Walk smoothly with a sense of ease and a nice rhythm and tempo.

Relax your facial muscles and give her that deep, relaxed eye contact.

Avoid looking at her with those creepy, bulging eyes because it is just going to repel her instead of attracting her.

Your Social Media Profile

Your social media profile has a huge influence on how a woman perceives you in this day and age.

Whether you like it or not, it is undeniable that women (and men) form a large part of their judgment by looking at your profile on social media.

If you barely have any friends on your social media, and you only have pictures of your selfie, then she is going to automatically assume you are a weirdo with no friends.

On the other hand, if you have an awesome collection of pictures of you having a blast with your cool friends, then your status will become elevated in her eyes, without you even talking to her in real life.

If you are serious about maximizing the potential of your dating life, it only makes sense for you to invest some of your time and effort into optimizing your profile.

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Ask your friends to take natural looking photos of you that showcase your personality.

It can be a picture that is taken while you are playing sports.

It can be a picture of you while you are doing something goofy and having fun.

Or, it may be a picture of you while you are out playing with your dog.

Try to avoid taking a “still” picture. It is boring and uninteresting.

You should also avoid taking a shirtless picture where you are posing for the camera.

Any picture that makes you appear try-hard will backfire even if it shows off your positive attributes.

Try to “subtly” show your positive traits in a photo, as you are just immersed in doing your favorite activity.

For example, it would be perfectly acceptable to show off your shirtless body in a picture if it is within the context of you playing sports.

If all this sounds too confusing, then just ask yourself this before you post your pictures.

Does your picture convey any emotion?

If none of your pictures on your social media account convey any emotion, such as excitement, amusement, tenacity, etc, then you may want to consider taking new pictures.

Women respond to emotions, so it only makes sense for you to fill your profile with pictures that display emotions.

It may take a little bit of time and effort for you to build an awesome social media profile, but once you do, it will do most of the work in getting a woman to notice you.

Get Others To Talk About You

When others start talking about you, she will notice you.

When you talk about yourself to a girl, she will listen to what you say with skepticism.

When others talk about you, it will penetrate into her brain with very little resistance.

This may or may not work in your favor depending on what others say about you.

If people say negative things about you, and it is clear no one takes you seriously, then your perceived value will hit rock bottom in her eyes.

On the other hand, if people praise you and constantly talk about how awesome you are, then your status will go through the roof in her eyes.

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Getting others to talk about you is not always a feasible option, but it is incredibly effective if you can pull it off.

This usually works better when you have a mutual friend with the girl you are interested in.

Your friend can subtly include some of your positive attributes and achievements when he talks to her about you.

This will get her excited to meet you and get to know you.

And she will be a lot more receptive toward you when you guys meet.

She will also be a lot more forgiving to your mistakes and flaws when she has already formed a positive impression about you before you guys even meet.

So, here is the takeaway.

Whenever you can get another person to talk positively about you, it will always be superior over you talking positively about yourself.

Your Voice Is Your Biggest Weapon

Your voice can be one of your biggest weapon in getting a woman to notice you if you know how to use it.

Most men speak with a very bland and boring tone.

If you learn how to express yourself better with your voice, you will immediately stand out to everyone around you.

I am not telling you to become an obnoxious person who is loud and can’t shut his mouth.

But, you should strive to become someone who captures other people’s attention and draw them in with the power of your voice.

While it is difficult to change the deepness of your voice, there are a lot of other components of voice that you can improve with some practice.

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When you speak, start playing around with a different tempo, a different pitch, and a different volume.

Study how other engaging speakers vary their voices to engage the crowd.

If you are really serious about improving your voice (and you would be, once you understand the power of your voice), start recording your voice and listen to how it sounds.

Compare the way you speak to other renowned speakers, and make the necessary adjustments to make your voice sound better and more engaging.

Anyway, these are some of the best advice I can give on how you can get a girl to notice you.

But, it is up to you to implement and make a difference in your life. Good luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.