How to get a girl back after a break up


You pictured your life together with her.

You thought she would be the one and only.

You truly believed you would grow old together and she’d be the mother of your children…

And that you’d look back on life when your hair turns grey… and appreciate her having been there through all the ups and downs.

But now she’s left you.

And all you want to is to get her back in your life.

You would literally do anything if it means you can get her back.

Well… I have some bad news and good news for you.

Let me first tell you it is all just an “illusion” made up in your mind.

She’s not any more special than any girl you’ve met – or you will meet in the future

She’s not any more of a perfect fit for you than the girls you will meet in the future, otherwise, she would still be with you.

Your brain successfully convinced you into believing she is somehow more special than anything.

And you are just blinded by the pain of losing her at this moment.

So, what exactly do you do from this point on?

Honestly, there is only one right answer at this point in my humble opinion.

And that is to…

Move the fuck on and go fuck some more girls.

But you may not be at a point where you can emotionally accept that – although you will realize it’s the correct answer sooner or later.

Because you wouldn’t have been looking for ways on how you can get her back if you were ready to move on.

Knowing that, I’ll give you practical tips on best ways to get her back – because I realize advice is only as useful as someone who’s ready to accept it.

But also realize that you will soon come to accept a conclusion I had stated earlier.

With that being said, let’s dive in…

The first step is to..

Not initiate contact with her first 

Now, you may be wondering, “how the fuck do I get her back then..?”

Just hang in there as you will soon learn how this ties in with what I will discuss in the next section.

But you simply should NOT initiate contact with her first.

Think about it.

You obviously want her back because she wanted to break up with you.

What good do you think will come out of you clinging onto her even further and begging her to be back?

It will just further serve as proof to her that you are desperate and needy… and it was a good decision on her part to remove you from her life.

There is absolutely nothing positive that can come out of you sending her a letter, or leaving a voice mail about how much you think and care about her.

Absolutely nothing.

If you just completely cut contact with her, then that in itself will often be enough to make her want to hit you up again.

You cutting off contact with her goes completely against what she was expecting (crying and begging for her to stay) … and it will almost fuck with her brain.

So what exactly then can you do to make her want to come back to you?

I’ve touched on this in my article but arousing “this” emotion in her – is the best way you can maximize your chance of getting her back.

And that is to…

Arouse intense jealousy in her

How exactly do you accomplish this?

It’s relatively a simple task if you still have her on your social media accounts.

Just frequently post pictures of you spending time with your friends and other girls.

Even better if you can post a picture of you with girls that are hotter than your girlfriend.

It can come off as a bit of a try-hard if you are only posting pictures of you with other girls – so ideally you want to just post a lot of pictures you having an awesome time with a lot of different people.

When she feels your life turned out even better without her – she will start feeling this weird sense of emotion that’s hard to describe.

Because let’s admit it…

She does not want you to be living the life after she had left you.

She wants you to agonize about how much you want her back and see you suffer (although there is a chance she is one of the 0.05% of the girls who has enough mental maturity to genuinely wish for your happiness).

Eventually, she will cave in and contact you again.

When you do get to the point where you meet up with her again – this is what you should keep in mind.

If you ever want to bring the idea of getting back together, you absolutely MUST let her know what you will not tolerate.

You are the one who set the rule this time.

You are getting back with her to make it work for both of you – not to become her little bitch boy once again.

For this to happen, you absolutely have to set the expectation very fucking clearly from the start.

I didn’t follow this advice when I got back with my ex-girlfriend after she had broken up with me.

Needless to say, I was treated like a dogshit and served as her emotional tampon until she had finally decided to leave my beta ass once and for all.

And that forced me to transform myself into a new person and experience things I never would have imagined I would experience.

I would, however, still advise you to move on and find another girl over going through all these hassles.

But I know some (as I once was) are just way too stubborn to take my advice at this point in time.

And the advice you are given so far is the second best thing you can follow.

Just realize that even if you do everything right, there is still a chance she will never contact you or come back.

In such case, count that as a blessing as it will just force you to transform into a better version of yourself.

Anyway, that’s it for today.

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About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.