How To Flirt With Women

So how do you flirt with women and let them know you actually have a penis?

I remember when I first started going out and every single one of my interaction ended with.. “Hey it was really nice meeting you.. maybe we’ll see again sometime”.

I became a specialist at being friendly with any and everyone I came across.

I never ever offended anyone and every girl I talked to absolutely fucking loved me… and treated me as if I’m one of their gay best friends.

Meanwhile, some of my friends that I went out regularly got much better results with women – although they weren’t exactly the most social dudes.

Although I believe having a basic social skill forms the foundation of game… it’s not enough without the key points I’ll be going over in this article. 

And until I fixed these key points, I always felt like attraction was completely out of my control.

Without further ado, let’s dive right in.

First point…

You need to be willing to be polarizing when you flirt with women

It does not mean you have to act like an asshole. In fact, it’s actually great to have that positive undertone to your overall energy.

But, you can’t be afraid to not say what’s on your mind because you think she’ll be offended or it’s too inappropriate.

For example, there was this girl I knew back in the gym.

And one day, she asked me how her form was after she finished her squat.

I replied to her with a gentleman smile and told her, “Sorry I couldn’t pay attention because your booty is sort of distracting”

Most guys may say, “Oh my god… you can’t say that. That’s so creepy”.

But that’s why most guys don’t get laid a lot.

Because they are not willing to take that risk… whether it be in conversation or asking her out.

Speak your mind. But also work hard on improving your sub-communication such as your vocal tone and expression so you don’t come off as creepy.

One thing that I need to tell you is that you will creep a lot of girls out initially when you are not used to being polarizing.

And it’s important to accept that instead of trying so hard to not come off creepy.

Just force yourself to say stuff that you aren’t exactly comfortable saying over and over – to the point that it eventually comes out naturally without any resistance.

When you reach that point… you won’t be so creepy anymore.

I’d advise that you test the “limit” of your personality where there’s at least some sort of anonymity like bars and a clubs.

You most likely want to stay away from being too polarizing in your social setting… especially if you can’t pull it off smoothly yet.

Second point…

Show your intention because that is what flirting is about

And no… you don’t have to be all like…

“Hey you’re cute”

“Hey you’re attractive”

“Hey, I saw you from afar and had to come say hi because you are just a beautiful work of art.

I personally don’t like going super direct like that unless I absolutely can’t come up with anything else to say.

So how exactly then can you show your intention?

One example I can come up with off the top of my head is..

Let’s say you ask a girl where she’s from.

And she tells you she’s from.,.. wherever.

Then she asks you where you are from.

And you tell her you are from California.

Then you’d ask her if she’s ever been to California.

And when she says no…

You’d tell her… “Hey maybe I’ll take you there one day if you behave”

So basically whatever way you can show intention… without you sounding like you are already completely sold and infatuated with her… is good in my opinion.

Power of misinterpretation when flirting with women

Another easy way to flirt with a girl is to misinterpret words that come out of her mouth.

Say she tells you she’s craving for a large coffee.

You can give her a cheeky smile and say, “Oh.. you like em’ big eh?”

Or a classic pick up artist stuff…

Say a girl says she’s tired and has to go home.

You can say, “Oh wow. I mean.. I like you but let’s take it a little slow”.

The point is to use whatever words she gives you to misinterpret them in a way that’s sexual… or in a way that she’s hitting on you.

It’s a great way to sexualize the conversation… and flip the frame of the interaction in a way that implies she’s the one chasing you.

It just adds a little more spice to the conversation.

But you want to be careful you don’t go overboard with it.

Otherwise, you run the risk of being way too ‘gamey’.

Physical touch as another form of flirting with women

This is probably my least favorite way of showing intention with a girl.

I’m just not a huge fan of getting all physical with a girl when I’m outside.

And when I realized there really is no reason to get physical – once you know how to build that sexual tension with a girl – I rarely ever got physical with girls outside anymore.

But, it can be an important tool if you still haven’t developed that ability to exude seductive vibe with a girl.

There really is no one right way to get physical with a girl.

You can go in for the kiss when the girl is holding that strong eye contact with you for more than a few seconds.

You can give her a hug when she says something you like.

Basically… do whatever that feels most natural in that moment.

Once you’re past that beginner stage, however, not touching her at all can actually build even more sexual tension.

When it’s coming from a place of…

“I know how to arouse you physically but I won’t… just to fuck with you”


“I don’t know what to do and I’m too nervous to get physical with you”

Anyway, that’s it for today.

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About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.