There is nothing quite as painful as experiencing a betrayal from someone that you dearly trusted.
And the pain is only magnified when it is from a girlfriend who you envisioned your future with.
So, how can you get over that excruciating pain of getting cheated on by your girlfriend and move on with your life?
Once you finish this article, you should have a much clearer idea on how to break things off with her.
The 4th point is often the most neglected one, so make sure you don’t miss it!
Let’s get started if you are ready.
You first want to make a commitment to yourself that the only correct thing to do at this stage is breaking up with your cheating girlfriend.
If you don’t respect yourself, then nobody else will.
The more you are willing to tolerate BS from others (such as your girlfriend cheating on you), the more people will try to push your boundaries.
When you let this cycle continue, you are not going to have much respect left for yourself.
What then is the point even if you manage to keep a girl when you absolutely hate yourself?
That is where a lot of dating advice fall short.
All of these dating gurus talk about different ways of getting your girlfriend back when she leaves you or cheats on you.
But, they fail to talk about a long term effect it is going to have on your sense of self-worth.
They don’t consider how each and every one of your decision shapes the way you view yourself (which inevitably affects your confidence and mental well-being, and the overall quality of your would diminish as a result).
I had tried holding onto a girlfriend who would contact her ex-boyfriends every time we had a fight.
I told her that I do not condone her behavior, and I made her promise that she won’t ever do it again.
But, it had a minimal effect on stopping her behaviors, and she continued to disrespect me by contacting her ex every time we’d have a fight.
From that point on, every second I had spent with her became a pure torture, and I can confidently say that holding onto her did way more harm than good for my own mental well-being.
So, ask yourself this question.
Are you fully committed to letting her go, or are you just “sort of” thinking you should let her go because she cheated on you, but you will probably jump at the first opportunity of getting her back?
If you answered yes to the former, let’s continue.
A large part of why you struggle to let go of your cheating girlfriend is a fear that you may never find someone that is as good as her.
Logically, you understand that she is far from the best girl you can be with.
The very fact that she cheated on you automatically disqualifies her from being an ideal girlfriend material.
So, why do you still feel that way?
It’s because you are thinking with your emotional brain.
You are still very much emotionally attached to this girl, and you lost all of your confidence.
She cheated on you for God’s sake. Your head is probably filled with all kinds of insecurities about how she cheated on you because you are not good enough as a man.
But, I want you to realize this.
While it is certainly possible that she cheated on you because you did not fulfill some of her desires, there is also a good chance it has nothing to do with you.
There are a certain group of people who love to preach “extreme ownership” in this day and age.
The idea behind it is that whatever happens in your life, everything is your fault, and that way, you are taking a full ownership of your life.
While I love the idea “on paper”, it simply is not true.
There are a portion of girls who will cheat on you matter how amazing you are.
It can be due to not growing up with a dad, or it can be because they were not popular in high school (and they have developed an intense craving for external validation for that reason).
Either way, some girls have an extreme need for validation, and there is no man that can stop them from seeking validation of another man.
Anyway, we went off on a little tangent here.
But, I want you to realize that you will find a girl who will love you unconditionally as long as you are willing to put enough effort into improving your dating life.
There are most definitely girls out there who will love you for exactly who you are, without expecting anything, but your commitment.
So, don’t let your brain play tricks on you and let you believe that you are destined to be alone unless you hold onto your cheating girlfriend.
So, she crushed your heart by cheating on you.
What is the best revenge you can do to a girl who betrayed your trust?
The best thing you can do is to move on from her without giving her any chance to explain herself.
There is nothing that is quite as frustrating as not getting your turn to explain yourself.
But, does she really deserve your time and attention when she has completely broken your trust?
The answer is a clear no.
So, I want you to completely move on from her by cutting off contact with her.
Do not pick up the phone when she tries to contact you again.
I gave a third and a fourth chance to my ex-girlfriend thinking maybe she would finally change this time.
But, people do not easily change.
And this is especially true when you tolerate all of her BS, and there is no pressure for her to change.
If she were to contact you again, would you ever consider giving her a second chance under any circumstance knowing that she has cheated on you with another man?
Is anything going to change if you guys were to engage in a long conversation about who’s to blame?
If you answered no to both of those questions, then it is time to move on.
Please promise that you won’t waste any of your time dwelling over someone who cheated on you.
Your cheating girlfriend does not even deserve any of your “dwelling time”.
What you should be doing instead is to go out and meet new girls and realize that there are girls out there with morals and standards.
The more you obsess over your (ex) girlfriend, the more your brain is going to try to convince you that she is the best you could ever get.
You want to prove your brain wrong as soon as you possibly can by meeting a ton of cool, new girls who exceed your ex-girlfriend in every imaginable way.
This is also a good way to really find out whether you were truly into your ex-girlfriend or not.
When you go out and meet a lot of new girls, you will likely notice that the memory of your ex-girlfriend will quickly fade away.
That is a good sign you were only holding onto a broken relationship out of desperation and neediness.
Otherwise, you would not have been able to let her go so easily despite meeting new chicks.
That is precisely what happened to me when I started meeting new girls after breaking up with y first girlfriend.
All of the memories of my ex-girlfriend faded away into the distance, and I barely ever thought about her, and I certainly never dwelled over her.
If you do not have enough experience with women (and I still learn new things about women’s psychology after having interacted with tens and thousands of them in the past few years), then you don’t even know it is that you want in a woman.
While I do not encourage you to turn into this mega womanizer who tries to fornicate with every woman he comes across, I do want you to be open-minded to meet enough girls to find out what you do or do not want in a woman you date.
You will be surprised to discover how what you initially thought that you wanted in women is not what you actually desire in them.
One of the mental hurdles to overcome when you decide to break up with your girlfriend is realizing that your brain often plays tricks on you by viewing your past through rose colored glasses.
You cannot rely on your brain to reflect back on your past in an objective manner.
When your brain is left to its own devices, it will often paint a very biased picture of the past.
You need to take charge of your thoughts and view your past in the most objective manner.
If you are still contemplating on getting back with your cheating girlfriend, then there is a good chance your brain is still biased in favor of the positives.
In such a case, I want you to write down all of the flaws of your ex-girlfriend as well as all of the negative memories that you have of her.
Every time you miss her, or you feel the urge to contact her, I want you to go over the list and remind yourself why it was the right decision to break up with her.
Anyway, I believe these pieces of advice should help you with moving on from your ex-girlfriend.
If all else fails, I want you to realize that time truly does heal all wounds, so just hang in there.
I sincerely wish you the best of luck.
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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