How can I become more attractive to women?
That is the question that has been lingering in a man’s mind for centuries, and for good reasons.
A man who failed to position himself as an attractive mate would have failed to reproduce (or failed to attractive an ideal mate which meant inferior genes), and his genes would not have been passed onto the next generation.
Not only is becoming an attractive man important in an evolutionary sense, but it is also important if you want to have a higher quality of life.
You only get to live once, and I’m sure you don’t want to waste your life with a woman who is any less than your ideal type.
So, let’s talk about some of the traits you must embody if you want to become more attractive to women.
By the way, I guarantee the last point we will discuss in this article is not something you would’ve ever expected to make it on this list.
Ambition is one of the most important traits that a woman looks for in a man.
A man with ambition signals to a woman that he is more likely to attain a higher status, and he has more potential to provide more resources for her and her kids.
Before we go on any further, you may be thinking why should a man provide for a woman in this day and age when both genders have an equal opportunity?
While that would be the politically correct thing to say, it is not quite how it works in real life.
A woman has developed her preference toward a man through thousands of years of evolution, and her preference is not going to change in a matter of a few hundreds of years just because the society has reformed.
Being ambitious serves as a great equalizer for a man who may not currently be wealthy or have high-status.
A woman usually does not put such heavy emphasis on a man’s ability to provide as long as he is ambitious, and he is working toward his goal.
But, a man without ambition will appear pathetic in most women’s eyes.
So, what does it mean to be ambitious?
The first question you want to ask is if you have any goal to improve your life for the better.
And this doesn’t necessarily have to be limited to your financial life.
It can be working out to improve your health and body, reading and acquiring knowledge to become smarter, or working on your business to get your financial life sorted out.
The most important thing is that you are making progress in your life.
Not only is this going to make you become more attractive to women, but it is also going to help you develop strong inner confidence that will help you navigate through life in a fearless manner.
Why is emotional stability important to women?
Simply put, a man who is not emotionally stable is not useful.
If an ancestral man decided to go hunting for his family only when he felt like it, then it is unlikely we would have survived as species.
A man with a greater degree of emotional stability is the man who is more reliable, and someone that a woman can count on during rough times.
On the other hand, a man who lacks emotional stability signals to a woman that he is not to be trusted when things get tough.
Ask yourself if you frequently let your emotions get in the way of accomplishing something.
Maybe, you decided to go to the gym four times a week, but you end up skipping most of your workouts because you tell yourself that your body is too sore to have a good work out.
Maybe, you decided to go on a diet, but you cave in as soon as you see a chocolate bar in front of you.
These are all signs of emotional weakness that will make you less attractive to women.
So, we understand emotional stability is important for attracting women, but how do you develop it?
There are two practices I’ve found that are incredibly beneficial for developing emotional stability.
One is engaging in regular exercises which will, in turn, help you improve your general mood as you go about your day.
It can either be lifting weights or doing cardiovascular exercises.
Whatever form of exercise you decide to do, you will notice the benefit as long as you exert your body while you are doing the exercise.
Another practice is meditation.
When you first try to meditate, your mind is constantly going to tell you to stop and get up.
And when you practice going against what your mind tells you to do, you will start to develop an incredible amount of emotional resilience.
What exactly do I mean by your “ability to provide”?
Does it mean you have to have a lot of money to attract women?
The answer is a clear no.
I was still a University student when I started going out in my late 20s, and it did not prevent me from attracting women despite my lack of ability to take them out to nice places (due to not having any money in my bank account).
So, I’m not saying money is a pre-requisite for attracting women by any means.
But, it would be foolish to admit that money doesn’t help when it comes to providing better experiences for the women you are with.
And the more quality experiences you can provide for women, the more likely she is going to want to stick around.
Interestingly, the research shows that women care even more about men’s resources when it comes to casual relationships.
If I had to guess, it probably mostly applies to women who are looking for casual flings in exchange for something of value.
Because based on my own experience, I’ve noticed money makes a very minimal difference when it comes to picking up women for a one night stand.
I’ve met and gone out with more than a handful of successful men (lawyer, doctor, dentist, etc), and I can’t recall a single incident where their occupation helped them attract women).
So, the point I want you to take away is this.
Your title and the amount of money you have in your bank account likely won’t play a significant role in attracting women.
But, it will make a difference if you know how to use the money you have to give the most amazing experience to women that they had never experienced before.
Let’s talk about some of the masculine traits that are shown to be attractive to women.
These include things, such as your height, your body shape (V-shape that gives a powerful look), pronounced jawline, and prominent brow ridges.
So, why did women develop a preference for men with a taller height and a V-shaped body, to begin with?
It’s hard to know for sure, but the scientists assume it’s because men with those features had a better chance of protecting women from other aggressive men.
The studies also show that women put a heavier emphasis on these features for a short-term mate, and attractive women put more value on men with pronounced masculine traits (which makes sense since less attractive women would not feel secure in being in a relationship with a man who is much more attractive than her).
I don’t think any man would deny that being taller and muscular (to a certain extent) aren’t advantageous when it comes to attracting women.
But, how much does it really matter?
Let me briefly share my personal story to illustrate how much height matters in attracting women.
When I started going out, most of my friends consisted of men who are 6’1 (185 cm) to 6’3 (190 cm).
In fact, I was the shortest one in the group at 5’10~5’11 (180 cm).
My personality was shy and timid when I first started going out, and I had no shot at competing against my taller friends when we’d try to engage an attractive woman at the same time.
And I would be quick to blame my short stature for my lack of success.
As my personality began to improve, and I became more charismatic and funny, I started to notice that I was actually able to hold my own against my taller friends.
It would be a lie if I told you there isn’t a portion of women who will prefer a taller man no matter how awesome you are.
But, if you bring something else to the table (even if you are not exactly tall and handsome), then there will be a lot of women who will feel attraction to you.
My perspective about height also completely changed when I met a Filipino friend who is about 5’3 (163 cm), and I saw him do extremely well with women.
Before I met him, I wasn’t sure how much confidence can help for someone as short as him. But, he proved to me that confidence and personality can more than make up for the lack of ideal physical attributes.
I initially thought of including voice as one of the masculine traits for the previous section, but I decided it deserves its own section.
In my experience, an attractive voice is one of the best equalizers for men who are not exactly most handsome by societal standards.
A strong, powerful voice (without being too overbearing) commands respect and status.
Look at someone like Ed Sheeran or Bruno Mars.
They are not exactly the most beautiful looking men out there, but they are making tens of millions of dollars primarily because of their voices alone.
Our society gives a lot of credit to those who possess attractive voices.
But, what exactly is an attractive voice in the context of attracting women?
Most men think a deep voice is a pre-requisite for having that sexy tone that is appealing to women.
And while a deep voice tone certainly helps in attracting women, it is far from the only component that matters for having an attractive voice.
Other components make just as much difference, such as how fast or slow you talk, how smooth you sound as you speak, how much you vary your tone to keep her engaged, and how comfortable you sound when you speak.
If you listen to some of the celebrities (who are known to be womanizers) speak, you will notice that they don’t all possess deep voices, but most of them possess at least one of those qualities in their voices.
And the good news is, all of those qualities (apart from a deeper tone although you can train your voice to sound as deep as you possibly can within the limits of your voice) are something that can be developed with practice.
If you are serious about improving your voice (which I’d recommend if your goal is to become the most attractive version of yourself), then there are two things you must to do.
You first need to find an actor or a speaker with an attractive voice tone that is similar to your natural voice tone.
And you want to devote some time (10-15 minutes a day would suffice) of your day to practice imitating the way they speak.
I’m not saying you should aspire to be the exact carbon copy of the people you imitate, but the best way for beginners to learn anything is by imitating those who are ahead of them in the learning curve.
And as you practice more, you can start to find your own unique style that will make your voice even more attractive.
The second thing you need to do is to record your voice and compare your voice to the ones you imitate.
If you skip this process, you will never be able to accurately gauge how your voice sounds to another person.
Most people hate listening to their own voice because it sounds so foreign to them when they first hear it, but it’s a mental hurdle you need to overcome if you are serious about making progress.
Kindness is probably not the first trait you think of when you think about the attractive quality of a man.
And you would certainly not be wrong if we are talking about a stereotypical “nice guy” who is all nice and kind to a woman he barely knows in the hopes of attracting her.
Women are usually repelled by that type of men, and they don’t respond well to them.
But, it’s a different story if we assume she already had some interest in you.
In such a case, your kindness can actually serve as an “attraction amplifier” rather than being a deterrent.
So, why does a woman care about a man’s kindness, to begin with?
Your kindness signals to a woman that you are going to be there for her during tough times, and you are someone that she can depend on.
This is important because an ancestral woman would not have survived if she stuck with a man who was selfish and greedy, and he only cared about his own interest.
A man’s kindness provided an important clue as to whether he would be a dependable person if things were to get tough for an ancestral woman and her children.
And that preference still persists to this day and age.
So, don’t hesitate to be a gentleman once you know she is interested in you.
By all means, go ahead and open the door for her, hold her hand out in public, and buy her flowers (if your woman is into that…).
I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.
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