They don’t say laughter is the best medicine for no reason.
A girl wants a man who can make her laugh, and a man wants a girl who will laugh at his jokes.
Your ability to be funny and make a girl laugh can be one of the greatest tools you can possess for attracting girls.
But, how can you actually become funny around a girl without making her cringe?
That is what we will discuss in this article.
These are the 9 ways to be funny around girls!
1. Do not try to be funny
The first step to being funny around a girl is to… not trying to be funny.
When a girl can feel that you are “trying” to be funny, she is going to sense that neediness in the way you speak.
When you are attached to impressing a girl with your witty lines or funny jokes, you are inevitably going to come off as try-hard.
Whatever you do or say in front of a girl, that tryhardedness will kill her attraction toward you faster than anything else.
For this reason, it is sometimes better to say a witty response or make jokes with a completely dry and boring tone as opposed to speaking with too much enthusiasm.
The former sub-communicates you really do not care if a girl finds what you say funny or not, and that will actually make her react (laugh) to you more than otherwise.
Try to completely let go of your attachment to making a girl laugh and be okay if others don’t find your jokes amusing as long as you are amused by your own jokes.
You will actually end up being funnier as a result.
2. Accept and exaggerate
This is an improv technique where you accept what the other person says and you add onto it.
For example, when a girl accuses you of using a pick up line and asks how many times you have used the line on other girls, you may respond saying, “Yes, I’ve actually been practicing it on my mom and sister, but it didn’t seem to work on them, so I figured I’d try it on you…”
Whatever piece of information that a girl gives, you can simply accept it and add something to it by exaggerating.
You can probably see that your conversation becomes a lot more interesting when you accept a girl’s statement and add something to it as opposed to “blocking” it.
For example, if you reply that you have never used a pick-up line on other girls in the previous example without adding anything, you would be killing the flow of a conversation.
But, by adding something new to what she has already said, you are potentially introducing a whole new topic into a conversation (e.g. talking about your parents and siblings).
3. Do not turn yourself into a joke
This is one of the most common problems I see among men when they try to be funny around a girl.
They turn “themselves” into a joke.
They continuously make a joke about how they are stupid or how they are not attractive enough when they talk to a girl.
While self-deprecating joke has its place, it is not the best form of a joke to be used repeatedly.
A little bit of self-deprecating joke sprinkled in here and there may make a girl believe you are an easygoing guy who doesn’t take things too seriously.
But, if you over-do it, she will start to believe you are insecure, and you will end up losing a lot of value in her eyes.
Self-deprecating jokes can, however, be quite effective if a girl perceives you as a much higher status than her.
If she feels like you are too good for her, then it is going to help her feel more comfortable around you when you subtly imply that you are not as perfect as she thinks you are.
But, it is still best to avoid using it too frequently.
4. Pay close attention to the girl
It is important to be present if you want to be funny around a girl.
More often than not, you are going to come up with a witty response at an appropriate time if you are able to pay attention to the girl you are talking to.
And this is also why you want to stay away from using a prepared joke in a one-on-one conversation (unless it fits into a natural flow of the conversation).
If you were talking about something with a girl and you thought of some witty things to say, but you guys move onto a different topic, you do not want to try to go back just so you can say your “witty” line.
Even the funniest line won’t be so funny anymore if it does not go with the flow of the conversation.
That is why one of the most important principles to being funny around a girl is to be present in a conversation and pay close attention to what she is saying and doing.
Don’t let your thoughts linger in the past.
Let go of that need to say something that you “should have” said earlier, and shift your focus to what is happening “now”, and let your witty remarks flow out naturally.
5. Use your facial expression and body language
Many times, you don’t even need to say a word to make a girl laugh.
Whatever you can express with fewer words (or no words) is better than a joke that is a paragraph long.
For example, there can be a lot of different ways you can respond when a girl says something sexual in front of you.
You may call her out by telling her how she is a naughty girl, or you may simply shake your head while giving her a little smirk.
The latter response will often elicit a much stronger response from a girl than the former.
You probably know that most people have an attention span of a goldfish.
So, if you are able to express your thoughts and feelings in a quick and efficient manner, you are going to be a much more effective communicator in this day and age.
If you are not used to using your face and body (as most people don’t) to express yourself, then I recommend you to study top comedians or even people around you who are funny.
I want you to observe and study (and practice) how they use their face and body to amplify their jokes.
6. Use your tonality
While you do not want to go overboard with your tonality to the point of appearing try-hard (as we had previously talked about), knowing how to use the right tone for the message you are trying to convey can be incredibly powerful once you master it.
You can lower your volume and whisper if you want the girl to pay closer attention to what you are saying.
You can raise your volume if you want to break the pattern and grab her attention.
You can speak faster to be more engaging, and you can speak slower to emphasize your point.
There are a lot of different things you can do with your vocal tonality to accentuate what you are trying to communicate.
Once again, study renowned public speakers and observe how they deliver their message by varying their tones.
7. Tell a good story
What do you think is the best way to move a girl’s emotion in a conversation, whether it be you are trying to make her laugh, or trying to inspire her to do something?
As you may have already guessed, it is by telling a good story.
Our brains, trough thousands of years of evolution, are wired to receive and communicate information via stories.
If you can tell a compelling story, you are going to appear so much more interesting in a girl’s eyes.
Making her laugh will often simply come as a natural by-product of your awesome story.
So, how exactly do you tell a good story?
We can talk for hours about how you can tell a great story, but it ultimately comes down to these three main points.
In fact, the next time you share your story with others, I just want you to focus on these three key points without obsessing over minute details.
The reason being, you can’t take decisive action when your brain becomes paralyzed with over-thinking.
These are the three key components of a good story.
First, you need to lay the groundwork.
Where does this story take place?
Who else is involved in the story?
What is your relationship with that person?
These are the questions you need to answer before you delve any further into the story.
Second, you want to talk about the challenges and struggles.
What is the major obstacle that is preventing you from going after what you want?
What are other challenges that are holding you back?
What are the mental blocks that are holding you back from transforming yourself?
You want the protagonist in the story to be as miserable as he possibly can.
You need to absolutely make sure you expand on all of the challenges and struggles that are faced by the protagonist because that is how the listener starts to develop that emotional connection with the character in the story.
Third, you want to talk about how the protagonist overcomes those challenges.
Make it as dramatic as you want.
You want to quench the thirst of a listener by talking about a sweet victory of the protagonist after all of the struggles he had to endure.
You will be a better storyteller than 99% of the population if you can simply follow these three principles as you tell your story.
8. Be random
When in doubt, just be random.
A great way to be funny is to simply say something that catches people off guard.
When a girl expects you to say one thing, but you say another thing, that will often be enough to make her laugh.
For example, let’s say you are Asian and a girl asks you where you are from, you may reply to her saying, “Can’t you obviously tell I’m from Africa?”
It may seem like a lame joke (and it is sort of lame, to be honest) in written words, but if you say it to her when she is not expecting it (and you say it in a confident manner), you will likely crack her up.
Don’t set the bar too high for yourself.
Get into the habit of blurting out a thing that comes up in your mind.
You won’t always make a girl laugh, but you will start to develop a mind-muscle to instinctively say what pops up in your mind.
And this is an important skill to cultivate because the best jokes are often made on the spot.
9. Go into a role-playing mode
This is one of my favorite ways to make a girl laugh.
What girl doesn’t like a little bit of role-playing, whether it be inside or outside of the bedroom?
Role-playing is a great way to add that playful spice into the interaction and have fun with a girl while making her feel more comfortable to be around you at the same time.
Most men get nervous about how they should transition into role-playing, and there really is no reason to waste your mental effort on that.
You can use any situation to get into role play with a girl.
For example, when a girl suggests going for sushi, you can accuse her of always wanting to eat sushi for the past few months you guys have been dating (although, you guys are not dating, and it is your first time eating out together).
If you do it in a playful way that clearly communicates to a girl that you are not serious, then she will often play along with it, and you will be able to form a stronger bond much more quickly.
To sum up, get out of your head and say what is on your mind without any hesitation!