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You’ve had enough.

No more Mr. Nice guy who gets friend-zoned by your crush left and right.

You are determined to transform into a real man who is not afraid to express his intention directly to a girl he finds attractive without holding anything back. 

Now, you are just doing that one last bit of research to find out the best way to talk to a girl of your dreams.

You are reading the right article if that applies to you.

In this article, I am going to reveal a secret key to being direct with a girl without weirding her out.

But before we do that, let me first have you ponder on this hypothetical scenario.

Is being direct with a girl really the best way?

Imagine you are walking down the street and a random normal looking guy comes up to you.

He taps on your shoulder and says, “Hey I was just wondering if you would be willing to spare me some change..”

How would you most likely respond?

You would most likely say, “sorry” and leave.

Now, imagine this second scenario with exactly the same guy.

He comes up to you looking rather confused.

You stop for him because you think he may need help with direction.

He then asks you if you have any idea how to get to (insert whatever city).

You know the route to get there so you give him direction on which train he should take to get to the city.

He then asks if you know how much it would cost him to buy a fare to that city.

You tell him it would cost around $25.

You then see him letting out a big sigh and start tearing up a little in front of you.

You can’t help but ask him what’s wrong.

He starts to talk about how he came to the city to visit his mom. He says it may be his last opportunity to see her before she passes away because she’s nearing her death from fighting cancer.

But there’s one problem.

He was robbed of every single one of his belongings and money just a few hours ago and he has nothing in his hands now.

At this point, you almost feel “obligated” to help him with paying for his ticket.

Let’s say we were to repeat those two scenarios ten times each.

How much more likely do you think the guy will get his desired outcome in the second scenario as opposed to the first?

You may be thinking, “But… getting a girl attracted is not the same as getting money from someone else…”

And I’d both agree and disagree with that statement.

Even in that second scenario, all the guy is doing is buying some time for him to express his circumstance and tell his story to you.

Whether he’ll be able to get money from you will depend on how well he’s able to tell his story and move your heart.

But without going indirect in the first place, he never would’ve gotten past your auto-rejection.

The same principle applies when approaching girls.

You would be throwing away a lot of your opportunities by going direct, because it’s just way too much pressure for girls to handle, especially if she doesn’t know anything about you.

What you want to do is to practice being direct with your sub-communications, such as your body language, eye contact, and vocal tonality instead of having to rely on “words” to show your intention.

Anyway, these are the reasons why I recommend guys to go indirect in most cases unless they have a mental hurdle when it comes to showing intention to girls.

If you do have such a mental hurdle, then it can be a good idea to be direct with a girl until you get over it.

But overall, the indirect method is much more preferred.

That being said, what if you are determined to make the direct approach work?

The best way to be direct with a girl

Here’s my simple suggestion.

When you approach a girl, start a conversation by talking about something that you noticed about her.

This is infinitely better than having typical canned lines such as:

1. You are attractive.

2. You are cute.

3. You are hot.

The reason why the observational approach works so much better is that it comes off as more genuine since you are making a spontaneous comment based on what you noticed about her.

Here are a couple of examples.

1. Make an observation about the way she carries herself.

E.g. I noticed you walk in a very confident and effortless manner. Are you a dancer?

2. Make an observation about her facial expression.

E.g. You seem more positive than anyone I’ve met in the past two hours.

3. Make a comment about what they are wearing.

E.g. That’s a cool jacket you are wearing. You wanna know who you remind me of wearing that jacket? 

But I want you to realize that it’s all about how you say your words rather than what you say.

You can say the most basic things but if you say it with the right tone, then most girls will respond positively to what you say, and the opposite is true as well.

If you absolutely cannot come up with anything else, then you can simply tell her you find her cute.

One important thing to note, however, is to keep talking after you compliment her.

Don’t just compliment and stand there expecting her to react.

Because she’ll most likely say, “thank you” and leave.

Carry on with a normal conversation after you let her know what’s up.

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