How To Be Direct With A Girl

If you are reading this, then I assume you are determined to confidently express your masculine desire by being direct with a girl.

It is not exactly a terrible idea to express your intention directly with a girl.

It makes you feel masculine, and some girls will even admire your confidence.

But, is it really the best way to attract girls?

You will soon discover the strengths and weaknesses of being direct when you talk to girls.

If you still prefer to be direct with girls after finishing this article, then I reveal the best way to go about that in the last section of this article. So, make sure you don’t miss that!

Let’s get started if you are ready to learn the truth.

Can you be too direct with a girl?

Is it possible to be too direct with a girl?

To answer that question, let me share a story of someone I had met when I first started going out to meet women.

And to maintain his anonymity, we will call him Sam.

Out of anyone I’ve ever met in my years of going out and talking to women, Sam had the most direct style of approaching and talking to girls.

When he saw an attractive girl, he confidently walked up to her without any hesitation, and he let her know that he wanted to take her home.

When he felt the desire to get physical with a girl, he didn’t hold himself back from expressing his desire.

He would confidently hug and touch a girl to let her know that he is sexually interested in her (sometimes even when a girl seemed visibly uncomfortable).

So, how did most girls react to his approach?

There were a few who would be flattered by his boldness, and he would even take a girl back home every now and then on his lucky nights.

But, most girls were simply repelled by his approach, to put it politely, and they quickly left him to return to their friends.

I’ve tried to help him out by letting him know how his direct approach was actually doing him a disservice by making girls feel uncomfortable around him and repelling them away.

He was too stubborn to change his style, however.

Needless to say, he never managed to get consistent results with women.

I still remember one time when he approached this cute Spanish girl.

She was hooked on him right away.

And they started making out almost instantly, and they ended up spending about two hours inside the club together.

When they left the club, he let her know how much she turns him on, and he asked her to come back home with him.

She told him that she has to go back with her friends, and she can perhaps hang out with him some other days.

He did not, however, take no for an answer, and he continued to persist until she eventually got sick and tired of his neediness.

It probably wouldn’t surprise you to find out that she didn’t go home with him that night nor did she reply to his messages the next day.

So, what was the problem?

When he expressed his intention in such an obvious manner, he became an open book in her eyes.

If a girl feels like she knows exactly what you want from her, she is going to lose most of her interest.

Girls love to wonder if a man (she finds attractive) is attracted to her or not.

When you make your intention obvious by being too direct with a girl, you are taking away that gift from her.

Should you be direct with a girl?

Let’s say you are walking down the street and a random normal looking guy comes up to you.

He taps on your shoulder and says, “Hey, I was just wondering if you can spare me some change?”

How do you think you would respond?

You would most likely tell him you have no money and leave.

Now, let’s take a look at the second scenario with exactly the same person.

He comes up to you looking rather confused.

You stop for him because you are not sure whether he needs help with direction or something else.

He then asks if you have any idea how to get to (insert whatever city).

You let him know which bus he needs to take to get there.

He then asks if you know how much it would cost to purchase a pass for the bus.

You tell him it would cost around $8.

He starts to tear up a little all of a sudden.

You ask him what is wrong.

He begins to talk about how he came to the city to visit his mom because she was recently diagnosed with a terminal illness.

But, he accidentally left his wallet inside the last bus he was on, and he has no money in his hands now.

How would you react in such a scenario?

Most people would have a very difficult time not paying for his bus ticket after hearing his story.

And that is the power of not being so direct with your intention from the get-go.

He likely would not have even gotten a chance to tell his story if he just directly asked you for your money from the start.

The same exact principle applies when interacting with girls.

When you go up to a girl and you are direct with your intention from the start, you are not giving her much to work with.

You are essentially forcing her to give you a yes or no on the spot when she doesn’t know anything about you.

She doesn’t know about your personality, and she doesn’t know about your story.

She can only form her judgment based on your appearance alone.

As a side note, this is why you can often get away with being direct with girls if you are a good looking dude (and you are hitting on an average girl).

But, if you are not the best looking dude, you would be throwing away a lot of your opportunities by being too direct with girls.

If you want to be direct, there is a much better way to go about it rather than stating your intention verbally.

And that is what the next section is about.

Be direct with a girl non-verbally

I want you to practice being direct with your sub-communication.

In other words, I want you to show your intention with your body language, your eye contact, and your vocal tonality.

Your words only make up a very small part of how you communicate and connect with others.

When you look into her eyes with a strong desire, she will clearly feel that you want her even if you don’t say it with words.

But, you are still leaving a slight bit of uncertainty in her mind by not verbalizing your intention.

However, you will effectively kill all of the curiosity and tension as soon as you verbally let her know that you want her.

This is also one of the reasons why I do not recommend being too direct when interacting with girls.

This is how to be direct with a girl

You should know by now that I’m not a big proponent of being direct with a girl (especially if you want to attract beautiful girls as an average guy)

But, if you are still determined to be direct with girls, then here’s my simple suggestion.

Start your conversation with a girl by talking about something that you took notice of her.

This is infinitely better than using typical canned lines, such as “you are attractive”, “you are cute”, or “you are sexy”.

Making a comment on what you noticed about her will come off as a lot more genuine.

It is a spontaneous comment that would have been impossible for you to prepare in advance.

If you are not exactly sure what to observe in a girl, these are some of the things you can observe and comment about.

Make a comment about the way she carries herself

“I just wanted to come say hi because you walk in the most confident manner out of any girl I’ve seen today.”

Make a comment about her facial expression

“You give off such a positive energy, so I couldn’t help but come and introduce myself.”

Make a comment about her outfit

“Those are some sick matching outfits you guys are wearing (to a group of girls). Whose idea was it?”

I need to emphasize, however, that it is all about ‘how’ you say your words rather than ‘what’ you say.

You can say the most ridiculous thing, but people will still react well if you say it with the right tone.

And the opposite is true as well.

Anyway, I hope this article helped you get a clearer idea of whether it is a good idea to be direct with a girl, or if there is a better approach you can take when interacting with girls.

I wish you the best of luck!

About the Author Jon Go

I was Introduced to the world of seduction after being a virgin for the first 26 years of life and being dumped by my first girlfriend at the age of 28. The dating world wasn't so kind to a 28-year-old Asian man who barely had any experience with girls. But, I eventually cracked the "code" and began "attracting" two to three new girls a week on average when I was actively going out. I'm not mentioning that to impress you but to impress upon you that you can take your dating life to the next level... IF you are equipped with the right knowledge and a desire to take massive action.