How To Be Direct With A Girl

You’ve had enough..

No more Mr. Nice guy who gets friend-zoned by your crush left and right.

You are determined to transform into a real man who is not afraid to express his intention directly to a girl he finds attractive – without holding anything back. 

Now, you are just doing that one last bit of research to find out the best way to talk to a girl of your dreams- without creeping the fvck out of her.

Well.. if any of this resonated with you – then you are at the right place.

In this article, I am going to reveal a secret key to being direct with a girl while not coming off as a creep.

But before that…

Let me first have you ponder on this hypothetical scenario before I dive further into talking about specific tactics.

Is being direct with a girl really the best way?

Imagine this first scenario where you are walking down the street and a random normal looking guy (not homeless looking) comes up to you.

He taps on your shoulder and says, “Hey I was just wondering if you would be willing to spare me some change..”

How would you most likely respond?

You would most likely say, “sorry” and leave.

Now, imagine this second scenario with exactly the same guy

He comes up to you looking rather confused.

You stop for him because you are not sure whether he needs help with direction or something else.

He then asks you if you have any idea how to get to (insert whatever city).

You know the route to get there so you give him direction on which train he should take to get to the city.

He then asks if you know how much it would cost him to buy a fare to that city.

You tell him it would cost around $25.

You then see him letting out a big sigh and start tearing up a little in front of you.

You can’t help but ask him what’s wrong.

He starts to talk about how he came to the city to visit his mom – since this may be his last opportunity to see her before she passes away – as she’s nearing her death from fighting cancer.

But there’s one problem…

He was robbed of every single one of his belongings as well as his money just a few hours ago and he has nothing in his hands now.

At this point, you almost feel “obligated” to help him with paying for his ticket.

Let’s say we were to repeat those two scenarios ten times each.

How much more likely do you think the guy is likely to get his desired outcome (getting money from you) in the second scenario as opposed to the first scenario?

You may be thinking, “But… getting a girl attracted is not the same as getting money from someone else…”

And I’d both agree and disagree with that statement.

Even in that second scenario, all the guy is doing is buying some time for him to express his circumstance and tell his story to you.

Whether he gets money or not – completely depends on how persuasive he is able to tell his story and move your heart.

But without going indirect in the first place, he never would’ve gotten past your auto-reject response.

The same principle applies when approaching girls.

You would be throwing away a lot of your opportunities by going direct – simply because it’s just way too much pressure for girls to handle especially if she doesn’t know anything about you.

What you want to do is to practice being direct with your “body language, eye contact, and vocal tonality” – instead of having to rely on “words” to show your intention.

This is why I recommend guys to go indirect in most cases – unless they have some sort of mental hurdle to show their intention to girls.

In such a scenario, it can initially serve as a good training wheel.

But say you are determined to make “direct method” work no matter what.

What would be…

The best way to be direct with a girl? 

Here’s my simple suggestion.

Start a conversation by talking about something that you “observed” about her.

This is infinitely better than having typical canned lines such as:

1. You are attractive

2. You are cute

3. You are sexy

The reason why “observational” approach works so much better is because it comes off as a lot more genuine – since you are making a spontaneous comment based on your observation.

Here are some examples..

1. You can make an observation about the way she carries herself.

E.g. I noticed you walk in a very confident and effortless manner. Are you a dancer?

2. You can also make an observation about her facial expression.

E.g. You have the most positive energy I’ve ever seen from any person in the past 3 months or so..

3. You can make a comment about what they are wearing as well.

E.g. That’s a cool ass jacket you are wearing.. you know who you remind me of..? (Then just tell her whatever random bs)

As I always say with all the lines I write, it is all about “how” you say it rather than “what” you say.

You can say the most simplistic lines but if you say it with the right tone – then most girls will respond positively to what you say.

And the opposite is true as well.

If you absolutely cannot come up with anything else – then you can just tell her you find her cute.

One important thing to note, however, is to make sure you keep talking after you compliment her.

Don’t just compliment and stand there expecting her to react.

Because she’ll most likely say, “thank you” and leave.

Carry on with normal conversation after you let her know what’s up.

Anyway, that’s it for now.

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